I am really confused with wether my boss is flirting with me or just being friendly:
He winks at me
He walks past me, looks me in the eye and then smiles
I passed him a recept the other day and he practically took my hand with it (Slid his hand down my hand)as he looked me in the eye and said "Thanks Skyla"
Walked past me the other day and quickly dragged hus hand across my shoulder
Another co-worker who my boss has been friends with for a long time said my boss told her he cares alot about me
Asked me to come up to his office and had a huge chat with me about random things like if i use protection, what would i do if i got pregnant, What i do in my spare time, Would i like more responsibilites with my job? is everythign alright?
Said when they sell the buisness one day that they are taking me with them
Always commenting me, saying im a bloody good worker.
Whne i went on holiday, he told me to be naughty but be carefull.
Sooooo is he flirting?
2007-08-17 23:03:54 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I worked with him for about 5 hours today because he was training me to be a supervisor and he didnt try touch me, or talk to me inapropriatly or make a move on me.
even though he had a lot of chances because we were working alone together most of the time
Some people are saying if i have the same feelings for him then go on and have fun. but how would i make a move on him without hardowt showing him im making a move. just incase he isnt interested in me at all and pushes me off him?
2007-08-17 23:04:50 · update #1
He is flirting but he is being careful so it doesn't rise to the level of sexual harassment. I'm 90 percent sure from what you said, that he would like to go out with you and, if you are willing, to have sex with you. However, I cannot be certain because some guys just flirt.
There are a couple of things you can do. If at some other time he tells you to be naughty but be careful or something similar, you can reply, "If only I had an offer" or "I would be inclined to (or tempted) if I had an offer." Then if he replies, "Would you accept an offer from me?" or "Would you like and offer?" then you can reply, "I believe I would" or "Just try me" or "Of course."
He has to be very careful, because of the sexual harassment laws. Therefore, rather than wait, until possibly you have another opportunity like the above you need to put the idea in head without actually committing yourself. A double meaning. Here are several:
"May I ask you a question?"
"Of course."
"It's kind of personal."
"That's fine" or "Okay."
"How would I find out what is available in sex toys (or vibrators) without the embarrassment of talking to a clerk?"
"A fantasy of mine is to do a private strip tease, but I don't have any experience and I'm afraid I wouldn't be any good." If he offers to let you demonstrate you can reply, "Would you mind?" In which case you could strip down to a bikini, if you are not ready to have sex.
"I should have put another pair of panties in my purse."
"Is there a problem?" or whatever he replies.
"Sometimes my hormones drive me crazy. To get a little relief, I've been crossing and uncrossing my legs all day and my panties are damp."
In any of those cases, if his flirting is for real, he willl still be careful because you words have double meanings. However, he will say something that will let you tell him, "If only I had an offer" or that you would be receptive to an offer from him.
Either you need to take the initiative or accept the fact that he will never ask you out.
2007-08-18 00:33:52 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is flirting / sexually harassing you.
You have to decide if you are comfortable with that - it's pretty clear that if he is discussing you with your co-workers that it's not going to stop.
Obviously you are interested but I would encourage you not to pursue the relationship. If your boss let it get this far already I would say that you would be in for a lot of inappropriate and harmful stuff if you went out and then it didn't work out.
Good luck. If you are truly interested in being together then one of you should quit.
2007-08-17 23:13:20 · answer #2 · answered by floozy1976 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is speaking inappropriately to you. He's your boss and he shouldn't be talking about sex. He also shouldn't be touching you. He is going beyond flirting. If you are interested in him, talk to him, ask him where you stand. He is certainly giving you signals, but judging from what you are saying, it sounds like he is more interested in sex than caring for you. I got the impression that you're young and he's a dirty old man.
2007-08-17 23:17:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you know the answer here and simply want to get some ammunition in your chest before admitting to what's going on here. Yes, he is flirting.
2007-08-18 01:29:15 · answer #4 · answered by gamerunner2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's flirting but only b/c he wants sex. he's bordering on sexual harrassment. never get involved with the boss. bad idea.
2007-08-18 02:11:53 · answer #5 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ohhh stop with the I'm so innocent act already, he's going to hit it and you want him to hit it.
2007-08-18 00:12:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Teasing You.
2007-08-18 01:25:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to slap the s/hit out of him.
2007-08-18 00:25:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He'll stop once you let him in your pants.
2007-08-18 00:00:12 · answer #9 · answered by seahorse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋