How much sex should a married couple have a week before somebody steps outside to get their fill. I mean is it fair to have to wait for the other person to come around??
2007-08-17 21:57:28 · 11 answers · asked by WestCoastin4Life 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Masrurbate?? come on, you get married so you don't have to do that. That's womens problems, they don't fufill their husbands needs, and can't figure out whatr went wrong. Wake up.
2007-08-17 22:05:18 · update #1
Save the goodie too shoes speeches, somebody please answer honestly. Stop playing up to the women.
2007-08-17 22:06:32 · update #2
Why are women getting so upset over this question??
2007-08-17 22:33:58 · update #3
When I get married we can have sex morning and night, and my husband can have me for lunch.
However, to answer you question, it depends on your age.
From 20 to 30 - If a man lives right, it's once in the morning and twice at night. .
From 30 to 40 - If he still lives right, he misses a morning and sometimes a night,.
From 40 to 50 - It's just now and then.
And from 50 to 60 - It's God know when.
2007-08-17 22:13:17 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Of course it is fair to 'wait for the other person to come around'. If you're married and considering this, then your question is shameful. Now, you need to consider that there are so very many reasons that a women might 'go off' sex and one of these may be you so take a good hard look at yourself and ask yourself if you are doing all the right things because it is possible that you may have become boring to her. The other issue here might be children and they can have an enormous impact on a women's sexual identity. Please have this conversation with your wife in an adult, non-defensive and respectful manner. You might actually get what you want....
2007-08-17 22:20:29 · answer #2 · answered by Papooselet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cheat, get out of the relationship. That would be wrong. Perhaps she doesn't want to have sex with you, because you are not fullfilling her needs. Are you bad in bed? Do you talk to her while having sex? Ask her questions....she will walk you through it. Plus it makes her in control of sex which can be hot. Obey her in bed. Its easy for us guys to "g.. o.." but if you not pleasing her...sex will be less freguent. Use toys....suprise her. It doesn't have to be sex man, just be sensual. It will please her, and she will then be more receptive. Bath her in the bath tub, don't have sex, just be with her. Sex will come back and be even better. Its the little pre-game for the big show. The show does not have to be the same night, morning, or day. The pregame could last for a week. Try it....I bet you would start getting some more then. Are you predictible? Same position? Same stuff over and over....you can't do that, or you won't get any.
2007-08-17 23:57:56 · answer #3 · answered by Jason W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counselors say that once a week makes for a satisfying sexual relationship for couples. However I believe most couples that are married have sex twice a week until you throw kids in the mix. Then it's only when kids stay in there own bed and mom and dad have some quiet time. I'm not there yet. You need to talk to you wife in a sensitive way. Let her know your needs and DON'T threaten her by saying you will stray to another woman. If your desire is that strong, you may need to see a counselor. Maybe you have an addition. Marriage is about intimacy and love. Sex is an afterthought for woman. Woman don't want to have sex with some one they don't feel intimate with. Men feel intimate when they have sex with a woman they love. In order to get what you "need", you have to fulfill her needs first. Then you both will be satisfied.
2007-08-18 00:00:57 · answer #4 · answered by Jenny B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is never okay to "step outside" simply because one person fills like they simply need more sex.
And to answer your "additional information", masturbation is an option and it does not stop after marriage. I mean really, lets say your wife is very sick and is in the hospital for three weeks (meaning no sex for you) are you going to cheat? That just shows you don't love or respect her and you shouldn't be with her in the first place.
Your second bit of added info asking why women are mad about this question, I don't know why they are. Your question does not say that if your wife needs more she can't go find someone else...
I hope she cheats on you and then you'll have the REAL answer to your question.
2007-08-17 23:17:34 · answer #5 · answered by Spring 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And people wonder why the divorce rate is so shitty... really when did the 'for better or worse' 'sickness and in health' 'TILL DEATH DO WE PART ' just fly out the window because maybe your sex life isn't quite what it used to be. Do you ever consider its not your wife but YOU? Maybe you're not very good in bed, or shes angry and hurt that you apparently only view her as this 'thing' to put your penis in. If you can't handle the work that comes with a marriage, then really you should not have gotten married. Its not fair to your wife and its selfish of you. You have issues, you should see a therapist and apologize to your wife a hundred times over.
2007-08-17 22:29:57 · answer #6 · answered by Һסρε 2ӨӨ8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very serious question and needs serious answers.
I have had one of my marriages fail because of it. Sex is an important issue and should be addressed from the very beginning. If you love sex and your partner doesn't you are asking for issues later in life.
If you and your partner are on the same page as far as sex is concerned then if the sex drive falters you know that help is needed not ANOTHER PARTNER.
I am not quite 50 but have the desire and sex drive of a much younger man. I want a woman with that same drive. If she doesn't have that drive then I will find someone who will.
Hope that answers your question. Better yet that is how I perceive it.
2007-08-17 22:27:26 · answer #7 · answered by davethepanther 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow, I'd hate to be your wife. Instead of enjoying myself in bed, I'd be wondering if I was filling the quota. What happens if you were to get depressed and lost your interest in sex? Would you tell your wife it's okay to go sleep with some other guy? Now, if your wife and you agree that you want an open marriage, have fun, but for those who have agreed on monogamy? Wait and masturbate.
Oh please! Women have sexual needs too, just like men! The 'men have needs' bit is just misogynist and ignorant.
2007-08-17 22:02:26 · answer #8 · answered by skunk pie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you need to step out, you need to get a divorce first. Marriage is FORSAKING ALL OTHERS, IN GOOD AND BAD TIMES. Grow up and be a real man.
2007-08-17 22:04:33 · answer #9 · answered by kimmy2006 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yup, it sucks..Im not married but my friends are..and they always complain about the lack of sex. Try new things!!
2016-04-02 03:12:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋