mended, would it be ok to leave and make a life of your own. i mean why stay where people dont respect you as an individual. No matter how hard i try to control my anger (which is very hard for me), they are always trying to make me loose it. And when i am angry my whole mind just becomes out of control. It is really hard for me to keep myself in control. I have to try very hard for it. What would you say about this situation?
2007-08-17 21:13:34 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
don't just think negatively.
when you will be a parent you will understand the whole thing.
BE COOL & ................
2007-08-17 21:20:18 · answer #1 · answered by shantu GARG 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As a person becomes an adult they have to realize
They are responsible for their own actions.
Yes, your relatives may be able to get a rise out of you,
However how you control your actions from that point is your responsibility.
Why not try to learn ways to improve your hostility and make yourself the better person.
Anything you learn you will only benefit from and in the end that is what truly is important.
As far as they are concerned there will come a time in your life that you will realize that they too need to learn many things
and people that dwell or live in the past truly are harming themselves by not moving forward .
Take each day in stride and make it a learning game.
Knowledge is power, when used in the right way.
Best wishes
2007-08-17 21:32:19 · answer #2 · answered by travelingirl005 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No person can "make" anyone angry. Anger is a choice.
So you have to ask yourself, is my anger justified or not.
They may enjoy prodding you because they know you blow your top a lot.
However, relationships that continually hurt you are not healthy.
If your mind becomes out of control, that is a peace issue.
Your spirit needs to be in control of your mind.
What you look at, say, read, watch, and where you go and who you associate with all build your character.
If you have a flawed character, it may be that you are making bad choices for yourself and that can add more stress to your emotional state.
You should get counseling.
Also get your thyroid checked out by a blood test and find out if you are clinically depressed.
Both of these things can cause mood swings.Have a blessed day.
Doodad
2007-08-17 21:26:39 · answer #3 · answered by doodad 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They don't make you lose your temper. You choose to lose it. I appreciate that you are trying hard. Perhaps you and your family would benefit from a long talk, or even some family counseling.
Some strategies you can use in the meantime are:
1. Think of something that makes you feel happy and calm.
2. Listen to soothing music.
3. Avoid things that make you upset.
4. Count to 10 (or higher) if necessary before speaking in a stressful situation.
5. Pray and ask God for strength and help.
2007-08-17 21:25:31 · answer #4 · answered by drshorty 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to understand that families are very complex, and that we don't often understand it all, or even why people behave the way that they do. You stated that you some times feel as if it's hard for you to stay in control, believe me it's probably the same way for them as well.
I think that it's some times hard to be able to look at things objectively when we are right in the thick of it all. It would be easier to view how and even why things are the way that they are, if you were able to step back away from it and view it from another perspective so to speak.
Maybe try some counseling, since it may help you understand both your family and even your self more than you do right now.
Talk with your family instead of wanting to run away from them, ask them about getting some counseling for all of you. If they won't go to counseling then try to get your self into counseling for you. So that it will help you to understand things better, it will be easier for you to sort them out for your self.
Running away and starting a life on your own isn't the answer for you, the answer is to face what ever the problems are and try to get a handle on them. If you face the problems head on and make sence of things your going to feel worlds better with in your self.
Get some counseling for you if the rest of your family won't do it with you. Love your self, face what ever is going on and attempt to make it better so that you can have a good relationship with your family. If all else fails at least you will be in touch with your self and your feelings, so that you can become a whole person that lives life with out all the anger. Never run from problems as they will always be there for you to have to face later in your life, since they won't go away all on their own. If we face what ever is going on and deal with it, often we can make our lives much better so that it can become an easier road to walk along through life.
You may even find that you will become even closer to your family when all is said and done. It would be more worth it for you to be able to connect with your family rather than to run from them. Since your always going to need to have your family in your life, all of your life.
God bless you, I really hope that this helps you! Take care of your self.
2007-08-17 21:35:56 · answer #5 · answered by Cindy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dawn,
I had to leave my family completely and without a word for over 10 years. It was the only way I could heal at the time. You may need to do this, but be prepared. When you leave them behind, you not only leave the bad things, you leave the good things, too.
Contact me privately if you wish.
D. Dawn :-)
2007-08-18 05:55:03 · answer #6 · answered by D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow .... you've explained my situation in a nutshell since my div. and YOU are ABLE to do it. But I have my work & others doing it as well also, getting it from all sides.
hard to believe anyone else could be experiencing life as "chastizing" as me. I am lucky that I can wake up, without doing that wrong each day before the whole world sh*** on my parade.
keep your chin up.....
if all else fails, I rest fully sound in the knowledge that one day...... they too will reap what they have sown.
2007-08-17 21:24:53 · answer #7 · answered by ccchevydude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your home is a place where you're meant to grow as a person.
When you stop growing there, then that place is no longer your home.
HOWEVER, you can't escape from your problems. Face this and stick it out. It'll make you stronger... my childhood did! Still scarred to this day...but stronger =)
2007-08-17 21:18:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋