Why are people so cruel...?

Question

They have to pick you apart, once you're finally starting to feel good about yourself.
The first thing they say about you is negative.
What can I do, I'm trying to be strong and not cry.
It's not working.

And I'm talking about people I just meet too, don't mention my avatar, that's not important.

Answer 1

There was a time in my life where I would dwell on everything
That was said to me, not think it through and just let it bring me down.
Then I began to become analytical and thought why in the world was I letting one person or another’s beliefs and thoughts bring me down??!!
I would reverse my thoughts and feel sorry for the person, the one that was being so cruel and realize that I had to believe in myself and my actions for me to be successful.
Life is too short to lower myself to their level, living with a smile, waking and knowing that anything was possible, and knowing how I felt was important. Sure we run into people that are so miserable with their own lives that they want to spread their Cancer (frown’s) upon us, however we have to make the choice if we want to be engulfed with their sadness or make our own happiness.
Move forward and shrug off that cynical thinking. Make each day worth living…..say a happy thought for them and then let it go.
In the end maybe you’ll spread some of that happiness and save a soul….:O)

Best wishes

Answer 2

We unfortunately live in a world where hatred takes on all forms. We have missed the entire concept of loving people and it starts at home. When you have so much destruction and loss of love and family members in the household, your view of caring about people, loving one another is miskewed. Even those who "think" they love sometimes, are not truly loving the way that Jesus would have us care and love each other. We hold grudges, we are fickle and most of the time, our concern and care and love for one another is based upon how we feel and 'how they have dealt cards to us'. Real love does not care what is done to it - it never remembers a wrong. So, to start with you must learn to love yourself first! Feeling good about yourself cannot be based on anything except who you are in Christ Jesus. That way, your mirror is through perfect eyes - not through eyes of someone in human form that you want to 'be like'. When you truly love YOU, what other people say will not affect you - and it takes a while to understand and learn that concept because we are always basing our wholeness on someone else who is perhaps less whole than we are.

Crying is not the answer either. You should be full of joy and happiness that has not been given you by 'the world's standards' but by a standard much higher.

I suggest that you get in touch with you -write some things down about yourself - why you like who you are - all the good stuff about you. I hope also that you have Bible - and read 1Corn 13 - whole chapter talks about love. I promise you - you'll feel better about who you are and your love from inside will radiate outside and people will not respond to you the same way.

Be blessed.

Answer 3

You need to stop beating yourself up, if the people around you, let it be family or friends, don't have anything positive or reassuring to give, let them be. Just think, you could be by yourself, not crying, not worrying what the heck anybody thinks, and you can do your thing to satisfy you, not them. You said you were finally starting to feel good about yourself, don't let some unhappy, miserable self-imposed know it all take that from you or give you some asinine advise or opinion you don't want, walk away and be happy with self. God Bless.

Answer 4

Some people are cruel, because the might be rude and nasty in general. Cruel people don't think about respect, for whatever reason they have. Some people only get cruel, when they get mad to a certain extant. The feelings and thuoghts, can change a person's mood to be more intense. There are a number of reasons why a person is cruel, and not every cruel person is always that way.

Answer 5

It is fine to breakdown, cry and admit that you are just human like all of us. But after getting down on it, you must realize that you must do something about it. People are cruel because somehow society has inflicted pain, sorrow and misery on them which are brought about by frustrations on one's self. These frustrations are socially constructed rules, often times made to keep the order in place, those poor, poor and those rich even richer.

Answer 6

the same thing had happend to me so I know how it feel.
you have to be happy all the time if you want to be stronger than the people that wants to bring you down and hurt your feelings. my college teachers are very bad and racists they treat me like a piece of shi$#% and they are one of many obstacles that I have in my way but I will not let them to bring me down. so theres nothing impossible if you want to be stronger you can do it, because the only place where things are impossible is on our minds.
so keep trying until you get it ! ignore all the people that hurts your feeling they doesn't deserve your tears.

Answer 7

It's human nature to make someone else feel bad so they cab feel better about then selves. Just don't let it get to you and know that you are better then them because you're not the one putting them down, and that they are the one with the problem.

Answer 8

I have this problem too. People do this because they have caused their own destruction and truly hate to see others happy. It makes them feel great to tear you down and try to bring you to their level.
I just remind myself that they are so unhappy and tearing me down shows that they are gaining nothing from me no matter what. They want you to cry. Don't do it.

Answer 9

there's such a thing as constructive criticism maybe your just overly sensitive and need to tough in up before the real world eat u alive pick someone else apart for once people aren't go in to change so maybe u need to give them a taste of their own medicine they arn't any better then u

Answer 10

You hang out with the wrong people..You have to be strong and leave those make you sad and seek out those who will except you for who you are....