I am having a fun affair with a swingers couple. We're all Bi and everyone's been happy but now I think I am falling in love with one of them... What should I do? Tell them, or cool it off? Both?
I know I will get a lot of weird and wonderful replies to this, bring it on, haha! I can take it ;)
2007-08-17 20:17:59 · 6 answers · asked by Curious Alice 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am single myself, this is what makes it harder I guess.
This whole thing started with affection. I wish I had known I would be weak.
2007-08-17 20:38:32 · update #1
Your attraction to your swinging partner is exactly why most marriages who swing wind up in trouble. Swinging is supposed to be an "extra curricular" activity. It is supposed to be done with no thoughts of "falling in love". You already have a partner and you are supposed to be mature enough to take swinging just for what it is.....sex, and company. It is not meant to replace what you already have at home. Pull away from the couple you are swinging with and look carefully at the situation. Not only will you ruin your relationship, but theirs too if you take this to the next level. Also swinging is not an "affair". Swinging is supposed to be light hearted and not too serious. Take a break, if you want to try again, try another couple. This is one of the ins and outs (ha, ha, ha) in swinging.
2007-08-17 20:32:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-23 05:38:12 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because most people can't handle it. It might sound like a fun idea, but they find the reality confusing or painful. Or in some cases, one partner gets pressured into trying it and they end up making themselves miserable in an attempt to keep the other person happy. Yes, some couples are completely happy and satisfied with this lifestyle, but there are many more who crash and burn trying something that ought to be left a fantasy.
2016-03-17 01:44:58 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open marriage swinger trouble...? well seems you already know why you have troubles,, so glad its not me,, do what you want its your life,,right, you say the word weird ,, thats funny lol
2007-08-17 20:36:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to save anything from this relationship you have to be totally honest with them, because they are with each other. Looking after your feelings they may recommend that you all stop seeing each other - because the feelings may not be mutual, after all they are in it for fun, not to find replacements for each other. Or they may be open to a polyamorous situation. Regardless, if you continue on with them you'll have to realize that you will always be "the third wheel" and that their relationship will always come before you. Someday you could end-up heart broken.
In short, though, be open and honest with them. They expect it and they will respect it.
2007-08-19 09:52:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quick Answer: If you can't separate sex from love, then your swinging experience is headed for serious trouble.
2007-08-21 08:43:00 · answer #6 · answered by NakdWhtGuy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the situation.
You do NOT want to break up a couple.
They might be willing to let you in.
2007-08-17 20:27:40 · answer #7 · answered by Irv S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋