Is there really such a thing as 100% gay or 100% straight?

Question

Or do you believe that it is not a black or white issue? Personally, I believe everybody has the capacity to fall in love with either gender, but I believe that we are usually drawn to one more than the other. So, is everybody essentially bisexual to varying degrees, or is sexual orientation set in stone?

I do agree that many people are truly bisexual, but would never have a relationship, much less any physical interaction, with the same sex. I consider myself bisexual, and I am attracted to both genders for different reasons.

Answer 1

Let me introduce you to the Kinsey Scale:

http://www.kinseyinstitute.org/resources/ak-hhscale.html

0- Exclusively heterosexual with no homosexual
1- Predominantly heterosexual, only incidentally homosexual
2- Predominantly heterosexual, but more than incidentally homosexual
3- Equally heterosexual and homosexual
4- Predominantly homosexual, but more than incidentally heterosexual
5- Predominantly homosexual, only incidentally heterosexual
6- Exclusively homosexual


According to the Kinsey institute, there are very few absolutes, and those who claim they are are very rare indeed.

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Males do not represent two discrete populations, heterosexual and homosexual. The world is not to be divided into sheep and goats. It is a fundamental of taxonomy that nature rarely deals with discrete categories... The living world is a continuum in each and every one of its aspects, (p 639).

While emphasizing the continuity of the gradations between exclusively heterosexual and exclusively homosexual histories, it has seemed desirable to develop some sort of classification which could be based on the relative amounts of heterosexual and homosexual experience or response in each history... An individual may be assigned a position on this scale, for each period in his life.... A seven-point scale comes nearer to showing the many gradations that actually exist, (pp. 639, 656) "

Answer 2

i think some people no matter what kind of connection they may have with a member of the same sex will still NEVER go there. I think now-a-days for young women it is more acceptable and prevalent. But men? no way. I think there are plenty of bi men sure but a typical straight male can't stomach the idea of man-on-man sex. In this case I think it's set in stone. Women on the other hand are a lot more open to new things and follow their emotions more. But still there are a good many who while they may "play around" in college will still never choose to have a long term relationship with another woman. This is probably due to societal pressure more than anything. But again, straight macho men regardless of society are 100%. No grey areas.
That's my opinion anyway.

Answer 3

I think yes for certain people and no for others. I have heard from many gay men and lesbian women that they would never be attracted to the opposite sex. And I have heard the opposite from a lot of heterosexuals. I do believe that a lot of people are bi-curious and would never act on these fantasies because of fear from what others in their social circle might think. No one person will feel the exact way as another person, that's just the great thing about being individual.But I do think that if the walls of judgment and discrimination were to be broken down..then people could just fall in love based on compatibility instead of gender.

Answer 4

Well, being gay, isn't falling in love with someone of the same gender. For a man to be gay he is sexually attracted to men and the male form. The opposite is true for lesbians. Usually it seems that the people who find themselves to be 100 gay or straight have something else going on.

Answer 5

I'm gay but like you said I do think that all people are bisexual to a certain extent and some people are attracted to the same sex but there so scared of what people might think of them they don't ever do anything about it. I believe that love doesn't know genders and I have been in love with girls before but I classify myself as gay because I'm more drawn to guys

Answer 6

It has been proven that there is no such thing as a 100% hetero or 100% homo. All humans, unfortunately, have a sex addiction, no matter how buried it is. If all the women in the world died, even the straightest of guys would start to get attracted to other guys. And the same goes for girls. People that say they're 100% hetero or homo, they're totally lying.

Answer 7

Well, I don't suppose that we have the necessary understanding of human sexuality to be able to answer that question. Surely there are things that anyone can like about the opposite sex. Perhaps, people have the potential to go either way. The only way we can understand the inner workings of a mind is to observe behavior and match it up with scientific measurements of brain activity. People act and think in such different ways that it might be hard to define sexuality in terms of percentages on a scale that has a truly empirical foundation.

However, we can take a heuristic approach and measure the sexuality of a person based on conscious desires and functionality. I, myself, have absolutely no desire to be with the opposite sex and I am functionally gay. In that regard, you could consider me to be %100 gay. If there is some corner of my mind that might go for women, it isn't apparent and it doesn't present itself in any discernible way.


Surely, there are people who experience attractions to both sexes. Some of them might consider themselves to be equally attracted to both sexes. They might also engage in sexual activity with both sexes equally. If that is the case, then you could say that they are probably 50/50. Even so, we just don't know enough to say anything empirically.

Even so, you might run into someone who is attracted to both sexes, but experiences a more frequent and/or "stronger" attraction to a particular sex. In turn, they might engage in sexual activity with one sex more frequently than with the other. You might be able to say that they are 60/40 or 70/30 and so on. Still, we lack clear criteria and a stringent definition to be able to take a purely mathematical or empirical approach to defining the percent of attraction that one person has for the sexes.

Add to that autosexuality, asexuality, pansexuality, and the mind boggling possibilities of attraction when considering transgendered people, and you can see how little we grasp about our own sexuality.

Answer 8

Who knows. I can't speak for the entire human population, but I know that personally, I am not 100% straight. I like to think of it on a 1 to 10 scale. 1 is completely straight and 10 is completely gay.

Answer 9

no absolutes but being gay is so socially stigmatized that most people will never even dare think about it. so essentially culture has forced it into a usually black and white issue except where people are open to the truth more easily. anyone on the straight side will avoid thinking about it at all. anyone on the gay side will try and remain straight till it freaks them out and the crash heavily into the gay side.

(in general) i wish we could just turn off all religious aspects and see what happened.

Answer 10

I understand your point. I think you are right in a way but I think there are definitely people who are 100% straight for sure and many who are 100% gay. There are billions of people in the world after all and there are bound to be a couple of million who are bi-sexual too.