Women: When should a man give up?

Question

We have been married for 5 years and have a daughter that is 4 and a son that is two. I love my wife and my kids. But I found out last month that my wife cheated on me twice when I was in the Marine Corps overseas. I want to work it out but she is saying that she doesn't see the point. I have been out for a year and this happened withe her 2 and 3 years ago. I know that I love her and I can get through it. She left for a family emergency 2 weeks ago but it seems that she just wants to be away. She has pretty much said that it is over. I dont want to keep on convincing her to stay with me. I am so confused. What should I do. If it is over than ok but I am worried about my kids.

Answer 1

If you are out of the Corps, then there is no reason that you cannot go for custody. You can't force her to stay, and you can't force her to work it out. What you can do is be a loving dad to your kids. Get counseling -- perhaps if you start, she will join you. Recommend family counseling to reduce the eventual stress on the kids.

Unfortunately, this is a common situation in all branches of the military. I personally think that women who do this to our men overseas should be shot -- you don't need to worry about that over there when you are protecting all of us. Find others who have been in your situation, and get their advice.

Good Luck.

Answer 2

Just take it one day at a time and don't just focus on the kids or make excuses and say it's about the kids or your worried about them. Thats what we all do to keep that other person their. They are Ok! You first need to take care of yourself because you can't take care of them being so unhappy like you are right now. Thing are going to get better, just say it and live it. Stay busy and involved, don't rush into anything take a break, find yourself again. Take care of you, buy you something nice and new! Do things to feel good, i know it may be only a temporary fix but as long as your happy for the moment. You will miss anyway, but just try to keep your mind off of her and stay busy and happy! It'll work tell your self it will get better soon. Take care and good luck. P.S. you can't be with someone who doesn't want to be with you. Take care

Answer 3

I would not feel bad if i was you. You were serving your country and she was stabbing you in the back. Take her to court. But be prepared for lawyer fees. Good luck to you. You were doing something honorable and she was cheating on you with some putz that would probably tuck tail and run at the thought of going overseas. More power to you.

Answer 4

If it is over then it's over. There is no love in it then you should move on. You are such a great dad for worrying about your kids. I am sure you two can work out some visitations and support for the sake of your children. good luck!

Answer 5

You're done here.
She doesn't want you.
That was very clear when she said "it is over".
Pack the bags.
It's too late to protect yourself.
You are officially about to get hurt. A lot. In the wallet.

Answer 6

File for divorce, why pine after some one who doesn't want you. Try to get custody of the kids.

Answer 7

i feel so horrible for you
but your wife did cheat on you and even though your telling her and she doesnt accept you you should
take the children and leave

Answer 8

Don't chase them, replace them

Answer 9

see what happens..when you dont stick with your lady...and when you are not there for her emotionally...what can i say...work it out....talk to her..and pray about this..