Is it wrong for a woman to have an abortion without ever telling the father?

Question

A woman has a right to choose, but I wondered if you all think it's wrong if a woman in a stable relationship gets pregnant and decides to have an abortion but doesn't tell her boyfriend/husband.

The reason I ask is because one of my relatives actually got pregnant about five months into her relationship with her boyfriend and had an abortion but never told him. They later got married and had more kids and to this day he has no idea.

Answer 1

Yes i think that is totally wrong. The father is a parent of the baby too. If you are in a serious relationship you should be able to talk about anything. I personally dont believe in abortions. I would be extremely upset if I was in the husbands situation and found out about it!

Answer 2

you adult adult males are fools. i hate to apply this way of terrible term, yet that's what you're. it incredibly is 2010 and between the the two one in each of you, you won't be in a position to make certain some sort of start administration? this woman is feeding you a line of s**** approximately her lifestyle and then turning around and aborting infants? previous due term, which even the professional-choicers like myself can help understand is only the action of a merciless, heartless individual. you adult adult males are only disgusting. and additionally you bought her pregnant back? what's incorrect with you? take some accountability on your strikes. are you adult adult males the two so stupid which you think of you would be blessed to have infants after aborting no longer one, yet 3? i will communicate because of fact I even have had an abortion, and when I walked out of that medical institution, i informed myself i did no longer care if i've got been given pregnant via my father. i might nonetheless have it. only get some start administration and end being stupid. the karma police are continually watching you.

Answer 3

Most relationships crumble to pieces after an abortion and it's sad. It would be a perfect world if a couple would decide together if they want the pregnancy to continue or not. If the relationship is on solid ground, then I think the woman is more likely to be open and will share her concerns. If she is not confident about the relationship, she may want her privacy. Sometimes the woman is taking medication or has other personal reasons to abort a pregnancy. It was not a good time for her to be pregnant whether it was physical or mental. It's sad, but she wants her privacy and that's what people should give her.

Answer 4

Of course it's wrong. Abortion is wrong and allowing only half of the parents to have a binding and unilateral decision on this is just as wrong.
This is the prime example of feminism: options for women only without responsibility.

I wonder how many posting that the woman was righteous in this little charade would be so quick to dismiss dad's involvement (money, of course) if she decided not to abort.

It seems feminists want every thing in their favor and it's just too bad for the children and men.

Answer 5

I think it depends on the circumstances.
This is a good time to apply the following statement:
"If you can't trust a woman with a decision, how can you possibly trust her with a child?"

In your scenario, the outcome seems to have been positive. I wonder if the outcome would have been different if she had discussed the matter with her partner. Five months is not a long time to know whether the relationship will survive major challenges.

Answer 6

Yes it is wrong.

Marriage/being a couple is a separate subject from parenting. True, it is and was her body but their child bottom line. Perhaps she didn't consider how she came to be and the fact that her parents did not abort her ~ she also aborted their grandchild so not sure how that would pan out if they had knowledge of this given the fact that it's selfish and irresponsible.

Bottom line: The relationship between parent and child is *family* and so parents are first in line for caring for that child - both have the right to be aware and obviously a child has a right to life and to be parented. She made the decision for other human beings.....her child and the father of the their child. Let's not forget the child's relationship to family & the reverse as in the family's relationship to the child. Consider the question as to "how do you know?" that should have been posed to her as to how their child was to be in relationship to this world (society).

So, that marriage is full of distrust today despite secrets. Perhaps this nasty situation is something you have found to be a learning experience on just how selfish and inconsiderate people can be. The wife and mother in this question posed obviously considered only herself and today remains doing so because she can do nothing about the past but at the same time lives a lie. Her decision has landed her up against a brick wall. That's what happens when people ignore such important issues such as the right to life. That is why murder and dishonesty will never and can never be manipulated to look ok ...it's that simple. People have beat their heads on the wall trying to justify murder-based selfishness and fail to see that they are just basically knocking themselves out & wasting their own life. As far as that child was concerned some in society assisted in their murder. The mother feels nothing as the person who assisted in killing her child felt/feels nothing for the child or the father/family he or she intruded on. I find it mighty strange people assume that they can control truth....obviously that didn't pan out too well for them if this post is real. I can assure you that nobody that chooses to murder a child would be concerned about those they also infect around them. If you are against murder tell her what you think and leave her faults between her's and her husband's relationship. You can't bring the innocent child back or rescue her husband from her dishonesty but you can and have the right to find what she did as completely unexceptable. You do not have to approve of murder just because she does just like I also have the right to say there is a child that has been requested to be murdered by his mother and a man that today is married to a woman he presently doesn't know. He is a man that lost a child in the past....no different than a man who lost his child to cancer except for one thing ---> those fathers/family had the chance to be fathers/family and most importantly their child had a life.
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Fact: No woman can become pregnant on her own despite manipulation of process available to those seeking to have a child on their own. Children aren't belongings such as cars and homes...they are human beings that will one day become adults. So, when a man donates to clinics or is intimate with a woman he should stop and think just as much as the woman. As the facts go there are couples out there that can't conceive but perhaps children who truly have no parents/family due to an accident/natural disasters are meant to be with those parents instead of seeking the child of others. A woman can convince herself all she wants that a child has only a mother ...according to facts of nature she is lying to herself.

Answer 7

I do think it's wrong for a woman to have an abortion without ever telling the father. Even though not telling him is the easy way out, I view it as kind of cowardly. I just think it's the *right* thing to do considering he contributed to the conception of the child as well.

Answer 8

Object of Ire: You are one of the most self-righteous misandrists on here. How can you say it's not a father's "business" as to whether or not HIS OWN CHILD gets their life taken from them?

A father shouldn't have concern or inquiry into the well-being of his own child?

Get real, misandrist.

And who said anything about a conspiracy or Canada for that matter? Canada's laws don't effect me and I'm not concerned about whether or not a "conspiracy" exists there. I'm simply talking about you being a misandrist.


Shadow Dweller: You speak the truth! A real woman you are!

Answer 9

No, there is a reason that she got the abortion, for whatever reason it was she didnt want to be pregnant or have kids, it was strong enough to go and get the abortion and not tell the father. That was completly up to her and i would leave it that way. That is a situation to be taken seriously and for her to do that there must be a damn good reason for it. So just leave it the way she wants it .

Answer 10

I personally believe that unless the woman planned to get pregnant, she and she alone should make the decision about whether or not to abort.