He also gives no foreplay and just lies there. Am I lousy in bed or something? Maybe he isn't attracted to me? Could that be the problem? He used to be good - he knows what to do. What happened?
Another thing I find strange, when with friends he'll brag about what he's gonna do to me, then, when we get home, he doesn't want to do anything but go to sleep! Could he be gay?
2007-08-17 18:48:22 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You agreed to marry him, now he feels he "has" you and he doesn't have to work at it anymore. I'd give it some serious thought before I married anyone that selfish.
2007-08-17 18:58:40 · answer #1 · answered by ophirhodji 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This hurts to read as I am experiencing the same thing. He doesn't say that he doesn't want to, he says that he does but he's just too tired, stressed...
It doesn't mean that he's gay, it doesn't mean he's cheating on you. It does mean you're miserable and that will destroy your relationship if it continues.
I've wondered too if I am bad in bed, or if he has otherwise gotten bored or is no longer attracted to me. It hurts so much, but know that you are not the only woman in this situation.
All of that being said, if sex is the *only* problem in your relationship, consider yourselves lucky. If there are other problems, maybe you should question those first...
I hope it all works out for you.
2007-08-18 05:15:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either he is gay, or is doing someone else. Sex is a HUGE part of a relationship, and it should ALWAYS feel good. Definately something wrong with him. You should start looking for someone else because that relationship looks like it is about to go down hill, either by him or you sooner or later, better be prepared.
2007-08-18 03:22:05 · answer #3 · answered by David 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you gain any weight recently or stop getting dressed up or change ur personal apperance Lately?
You have to keep your mans attention, the same things you did to get him interested you have to keep on doing now to keep him.
He may be cheating I would doubt he's gay, he's losing interest for some reason & you have to find out why, suduce him, get toys lingerie, tea bag him, try a vinegar douch or hot bath to intice him.
2007-08-18 02:01:47 · answer #4 · answered by "Angel" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
may be there is something wrong with him medically i mean if not then why are u still there biting ur nails ask him if he's still interested in u if not cut ur losses and move on sorry to be so hard but i think this what u should do and yeah he just might be gay ask ask ask that is all u can do @ this point good luck
2007-08-18 02:00:54 · answer #5 · answered by murkymom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump her.
It will never work out . When Having sex with him and he
complains, why would you want to be with him?
He's doing someone else! It has nothing to do with. Yes he could be guy. Find a new friend and move on.
2007-08-18 02:02:03 · answer #6 · answered by Joseph D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off you shouldn't be having sex with him until you are married to him.
I would dump him, he is the one with the sex problem. Sex is a great part of marriage and if he isn't into it already, then you are in for some miserable years with him.
2007-08-18 01:59:31 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would suggest seeking some counceling or perhaps a sex therapist. He may be holding something inside and is afraid to let it out. Or just sit down with him one on one and let him know your concerns.
2007-08-18 02:37:04 · answer #8 · answered by XxSaRaHxX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it, ask him these questions. Maybe you 2 need to spice it up. Marriage with him will not be good for you if he continues this way.
2007-08-18 01:57:34 · answer #9 · answered by gma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, and maybe he should see a Dr. Maybe he has a chemical imbalance. I have heard how low testostrone can ruin a sex drive.
2007-08-18 01:58:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋