I mean he always says 'I love you' and 'I love you' ... but he told me that he doesn't like it when I stretch, exercise or dance in front of him, he doesn't like when I talk about myself, he said: "...you talk about yourself it's getting very boring" and he said :can't you stop breathing into peoples faces?" - this one was weird...And one very strange occurence, we went to a picnic and I was wearing a pretty sexy spaghetti straps top and a mini skirt which was also white and a white pair of sandals, so the next day he said he needs to buy "white-out" - I just can't believe this was a coincidence, someone put him up to this.
But he always wants the best for me at the same time ... I am so confused. (married for 15 years! kids and all..)
2007-08-17 18:27:30 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There are other things he doesn't like the way I do, like how I move sometimes or how I talk. I am tending to him and we discuss all his questions and stories and problems in great detail. I am doing everything in the house just right, the sex is good, although I have to initiated most of the time.
I just think he doesn't like me.
2007-08-17 18:51:39 · update #1
he made comments about how I laugh and how I look.
2007-08-17 18:53:02 · update #2
Wow.....15 years is a long time and it's quite an achievement but what he is saying to you is a kind of abuse. I also understand that you probably rely on him for your self worth as a woman. So, it must be truly devastating for him to talk to you like that.....
First: You are the mother of his children.
Second: I have a feeling he isn't exactly a gem in appearance.
Third: Any husband who would ever insult his wife has issues of his own.
Finally....what do you think about you? What do your family and friends tell you about your conversation and appearance?
Your children probably keep you locked into the marriage....and don't get me wrong, they should. BUT.....
A husbands job is to respect, honor, love and cherish YOU above all else and he doesn't seem as if he is doing this....
But, what do you think?
2007-08-17 18:48:22 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your husband is trying to tell you something and that is that you brag too much about yourself. It could be that he would rather have you ask him how he is doing and how his day went, but instead you keep on talking about yourself like he isn't there. Are you doing this to get his attention? Or, should you be giving him more attention?
He probably didn't like what you were wearing with flaunting off your body with wearing what you wore to the picnic. Do you dress like that all the time? If you are a mother, would you want your daughter to dress like that to a picnic?
Just because he told you that he doesn't like it when you stretch, exercise or dance in front of him, doesn't mean he doesn't love you or doesn't like you. Maybe you are just showing off by doing those things.
I think you should talk to him about what you said here, I am sure he has an explanation to add.
What I want to ask is how much attention are you giving him?
2007-08-18 01:39:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Okay, if you are not involved in some sort of activity, join something asap! Read the book the "Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands." I can't say enough about this book. It has completely changed my marriage.
How is everything at work? Is he discouraged about something and taking it out on you. How do you treat him? Are you someone that a man would be excited to see when he gets home? how often ar you intimate with each other?
The comments that he is saying are cruel and very hurtful, but it could be a symptom of something else.
Good luck!
2007-08-18 01:36:21 · answer #3 · answered by nikiki 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you should take in to consideration some of what he said, like do you talk about yourself too much? Cause he is right, when someone is constantly talking about themselves it can get boring real fast. Maybe you could do a lot more listening to find out what is going on with him.
I would ask him what he meant by the white out comment. I would also ask him if he has more problems about you. He might as well come right out and tell you, rather than saying things and not explaining himself. You might want to prepare a list of things he does that irritates you.
Don't forget to make another list and tell him the things you like about him and ask him for a list of good things about you.
2007-08-18 01:47:04 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Ok I think he is tired of hearing about you. Face it guys really arent into talking. Try talking about him and seeing if that helps. Maybe he wants to talk to you about something but wants you to ask him.
2007-08-18 01:45:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds to me like he is in a rut and is taking it out on you. You need to tell him that he is hurting your feelings when he says things like that to you. It is not nice, and to please stop. Also, ask him if there is a problem that he wants to talk about. But, tell him in a nice way that you don't appreciate the comments.
2007-08-18 01:43:01 · answer #6 · answered by Lee B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds as if he is beginning to find fault with u, meaning maybe he is falling out of love.
2007-08-18 04:49:15 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋