how do i put my past behind me? how do i put away the suddend death of my freind when she was 14? how do i put away having cancer as a child? how do i put away never having friends and never having any confidence? how do i put the mistakes i've made to try and solve my problems behind me? i do i move on? how do i forgive myself when no one else will? how do i feel better? the past hurts, some things my fault and some things not. how do i move on in life, esp. when they cannot forgive me? i cannot forgive me! so how? thanks!
2007-08-17 18:22:01 · 9 answers · asked by julie h 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
just think about it this way you went through all that and survived which means you can do anything
dont care about what other people think they cant do anything anyway
dont live in the past because its never coming back the only way to change who you are is to be the person you think you should be instead of the person you think you are
2007-08-17 18:33:22 · answer #1 · answered by dheeraj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man you really have been through the ringer haven't you? As for the friends death, the death of anyone close to you always takes time to get through,whether it was sudden or not. As for having cancer when you were a child,you said "having" Does this mean you no long have it? If so that is GREAT. You can't say you NEVER had friends because you already said your friend had died suddenly. Are you holding back making new friends because of this? If you are you need to try not to do this. No one can replace your friend,but that shouldn't stop you from making new ones. Everyone makes mistakes,that is just part of life.We learn from them , and we move on. You sound like you are blaming yourself for everything. Stop that!! You are just one person, there is NO way you can be at fault for everything. The past is just that....THE PAST. Let it go before it drives you crazy. Forgive yourself for what ever you think you have done, and move on.
2007-08-17 18:40:48 · answer #2 · answered by yankabilliechic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. What I did was I told myself on my birthday that that day was the first proper day of the rest of my life that I was going to change for the good and not let anything get in the way. I started with doing simple things like going out more often. I found that seeing more people and socialising more really helped me I also had a bit of an image change and got a new style, completely new clothes, new hairstyle the works. Just by doing that I felt a hell shade better about myself. I just found that doing little things like helped me leave what had happened in the past (it involved depression and eczema) and looked forward. That was quite a few months ago and when I look back now I feel like a completely new person. I'm even doing ALOT better at school, not that I was doing bad before but I found that my grades have gone up from being B's and C's to mostly A*-C's.
2016-05-22 00:44:53 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never will and never should get over the experiences in your life. They are what makes us what we are. As for you, you can either feel sorry for yourself, or you can suck it up, be proud to have known your friend while she was on this earth, be happy to be alive. You know pain now. that pain will help shape your character. Character is something that most young people have yet to achieve. While most young people think that a real problem is whether or not Johnny likes them or if have a prom date, you will know how silly they really are.
You my not know this, but you have the opportunity for greatness, if you can accept the pain, and your past, and realize it can only get better from here.
Depression is in your mind and it is up to you weather or not you embrace your past or become depressed.
If there was no pain, there could be no joy.
2007-08-17 18:57:53 · answer #4 · answered by gibson_slayer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did you explain is the story of every human. We are human and we make mistakes. The important is whether we continue with the bad or we come back to right track. How can we equalize our bad deeds? Of course by good deeds.
As soon as we get right track and change our attitude and feel responsibilities, pay our duties honestly, fulfill our moral obligations and promises and start living like good human; we get rid of inner disturbance. It gives us peace and whole the bad of our past starts vanishing gradually. We get back the trust of people and this is what we need. This is what gives us strength and we can move forward.
2007-08-17 21:27:28 · answer #5 · answered by Mustansar Dar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to understand God forgives you, and He promises that your sins are as far as the east is from the west, you only need believe in Him and confess Jesus is Lord. That is true forgiveness not the empty promises from people. Move on, and maybe move to another area were you can start over. I'm sorry you have had it so rough, you sound like a very nice person, I pray things get better for you.
2007-08-17 18:31:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Technically your past is behind you. It's whether or not you choose to leave it there. It's hard to move forward when you keep backing up.
Many people go to a support group, therapist or even some form of religion. Really, it's ultimately up to you.
2007-08-17 18:46:23 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to forget all these things and start to serve the humanity. This will help you, what I observed.
2007-08-17 18:52:24 · answer #8 · answered by Rana 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be strong,man
2007-08-18 12:20:44 · answer #9 · answered by Zong 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋