I am not able to be happy anymore, I feel like I wanna kill myself, I am not stupid to do this, but you know I am scacred thaat I might do it if I am gonna keep thinking this way, so any ideas u can give me that will make more wanna live kinda person?
2007-08-17 17:08:02 · 13 answers · asked by ßäbéL 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
This may sound weird but take a walk.
I've grown up in bad neighborhoods, lived in major cities as well as both bad and rich counties. I have lived through cutting myself, piercing myself and tatooing others.
Here's what I've learned.
You sound like you are young. Hang on. It might be tough now but give it a year or two.
I don't know how old you are, I am assuming quite young (16-24).
I was the same way from about 18-24. I told everyone that I assumed that I would meet my end by suicide. But at some point I realized that living life gave me interest. Not even for my life but for my friends and family (that at the time I didn't care about at all).
I experienced things on a daily basis that I found fascinating. Small things that made me appreciate life beyond myself.
Now all my friends have their own lives as do I. Kids, careers, etc. I would never give the moments that I have now. If I had been okay with the life that I was given back in the day that I think you are dealing with now, I would have missed so much. Not to mention family members that still want me to take part in the family that I never would have imagined.
My overall statement is to give it time. I know how it is to want to let it all go but once you do, that's it. Even if you don't like the way your life is going, take that chance. Make the decision that you want. Either way you will meet your end. Make your end the one that you want.
2007-08-17 17:49:55 · answer #1 · answered by youngliver2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read the book called "THE FEELING GOOD HANDBOOK" by David D. Burns.
It will teach you how to understand your moods and how to change your moods.
It will teach you what emotions lead to what thoughts
It will teach you how to conquer depression and build self-esteem.
It will teach you how to "untwist" your thinking when you have self-destructive thoughts. As an example, many people in depression end to magnify the importance of their problems and short comings while minimizing the importance of their desirable qualities. They might say, “ I an very lonely and I clearly don’t deserve to have a girlfriend because I am too shy.” What they are downplaying is that they are very kind, caring and intelligent and there are many women who don’t care if they are shy.
It will teach you how to conquer anxiety, fears and phobias.
It will teach you how to feel good through better communication.
This is all done through cognitive therapy - being cognizant (or understanding) of the fallacies of some of your thoughts. For example:
It will also inform you about mood-altering medications should you also choose to seek professional help as well.
The book is widely “prescribed” by mental health counselors and psychologists/psychiatrists because it helps you to change the way that you think and teaches you to feel good about yourself.
I would also recommend that you buy the DVD called THE SECRET. This will help you quite a bit, too.
Feel free to email me if you want to talk about anything.
Good luck and all the best to you!
2007-08-18 00:13:39 · answer #2 · answered by mgctouch 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is making you unhappy?
If it's work - get a new job. study for a new career.
Where you live - Move.
The people in your life - get new ones.
The way you look - change it. Lose weight. Dye your hair.
Make plans.
Travel the world. Save up for a year and go. It will put everything into perspective. It will give you time to think.
www.gapyear.com
Make a list of things you'd like to do.
Travel
Bungee jump
Get into some kind of sport - tennis / surfing
Build a house??!
Volunteer with animals in Africa or something. Work with monkeys, see lions, elephants in the wild.
www.bunac.org (or look on that gapyear site)
Idk. Just live. The only way it's going to change is if you change it. If you work at it.
2007-08-18 00:13:14 · answer #3 · answered by ... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think of things that you would like to do but too scared to do them(nothing illegal). Write them down. Pick out an easiest one to do from the list. And just go out and do it tomorrow. Get one done. Even it fails spectacularly, you will still feel 100% better.
2007-08-18 00:20:17 · answer #4 · answered by oskeewow13 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It all starts with positive thinking.
Just monitor your attitude.
Sort out the negative aspects of view and emphasize the positive attitude.
Like never say that you cant do something.
If there really is something you cant accomplish rather see it as something you cant accomplish ...yet!
Ban all negative words of your vocabulary and replace them with positive ones.
2007-08-18 00:15:42 · answer #5 · answered by ganja_claus 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
walk and observe people. just perceive their presence.
do not take a watch or look at the time.
just be human.
light therapy is much cheaper than real therapy.
sunshine is still free... for now.
2007-08-18 00:23:46 · answer #6 · answered by gary L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have a kind bone in your body help an abandoned pet. You will get lots of good points.
2007-08-18 00:19:04 · answer #7 · answered by tharnpfeffa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Meditation releaves stress, every morning and night when your alone and quiet jus meditate and clear your mind.
Pursue the things that you believe will make you happy, maybe going out at night, taking photos, etc etc.
Excercise.
2007-08-18 00:13:12 · answer #8 · answered by Caribou 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Personally i would fall apart if not for Jesus. Being around positive people helps. But i find strength beyond measure just by praying to Him. Remember that you are important and that God made you for a reason... He has a plan for you.
Be Blessed.
2007-08-18 00:12:46 · answer #9 · answered by firefly1334 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Know Jesus and accept him as your savior. Read the Bible and know the word of God. Let the Holy Spirit help you to open your heart to accept the Word. I also take 200 mg of L-Theanine everyday!
2007-08-18 00:13:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋