Is he not attracted to me. Am I doing something to turn him off?
He never gives much foreplay at all and I usually initiate and he turns me down alot.
2007-08-17 17:07:19 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It certainly isnt you. He obviously has no idea how to make love to a woman. A good lover knows how important foreplay is. If you are considering marrying this guy, I would seriously think again. If he is not going to take responsibility for the part he plays in lovemaking and he is making you feel like it is your fault, then it won't get better. You need to confront him on this issue and make it perfectly clear that there is nothing wrong with you and the problem lies with him. You need to also tell him that if he doesnt enjoy sex, then its a wasted exercise in getting married because sex and intimacy plays a huge part in any successful relationship. The warning bells should be ringing. You are with a man who is either very inexperienced with sex or is very selfish.
2007-08-17 17:20:48 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hi Andrea! to be frank, that sound very strange. I had not gone any further in your relationship before you and him have had a long good talk. You say you have had sex with him, so he can`t be afraid to show himself naked either, many guys can feel insecure, but it seems something is going on. Is he gay? I mean do he use you as a "tool" to be in the hetero world? Ever thought about that? If you are a normal woman, who keep yourself clean, and brush your teeth as everybody does, and have some interest for smart ways to dress for a woman, then there is him and not you who have issues. Don`t like sex, and bad foreplay? why do you wanna him for man anyway? I think you have been putting yourself down here Andrea, I believe you can get a much better partner/man/lover than you have now. He must be a terrific guy on every other department? or you had been kicking that sorry "man" out for a long time ago? Anyway, stop up and take that talk with him. If he has no good answers, then he use you, maybe as a facade? I don`t know dear, but something is not right. I mean I have never ever, for as long as I have lived, met a man that have said anything like that, never. OK people who have been together for 30-40 years, can laugh about it, but every guy I know, likes to brag to the boys. Very strange indeed. Drop him, find yourself a real man, he is out there. Good luck, peace and love from Norway
2007-08-17 17:32:40 · answer #2 · answered by thefallen 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok, I feel as is when they don't give foreplay or enough of it doesn't really make me in the mood, therefore sex is boring. Now if I get sum good foreplay which really gets me wet, then sex is very good. Maybe be you should give him sum foreplay and yall should visit a sex store to get sum tapes, toys, and ky warming liquid to boost the sex life. Good Luck
2007-08-17 17:15:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why mess with all that fourplay when you already know where its leading, it gets a little old after the years. Just let him have a quicky once and a while.
Plus he might drink to much or smoke wich lowers the sex drive. Or maybe his stomach is to full or he works a lot.
He should also start working out it helps you build energy and stamina.
2007-08-17 17:15:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your finance doesn't like sex because its to much work sounds like to me he is not that much into sex. i didn't hear word Love mention in this whole paragraph.,
Do you and him have a proble with communicating because you really need to sit down and have a talk about your sex life because it appears to me that you want more then he is willing to put out. i am so happy that you have not married him becasue this may be a problem if you two become married. best of luck
2007-08-17 17:19:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
this is something which needs to be addressed...
he has a low sex drive for a reason. it could be lack of hormones, somehow he was convinced sex wasn't good, had a bad experience, etc.
sex is an expression and even a need fullfillment in marriage. it's not a good "problem" to take into a new marriage hon.
hugs
2007-08-17 17:17:24 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok don't get mad, but have you gained weight?
Also, some men use sex as a weapon. It's a form of control.
It could be a ton of reasons, we don't know. You have to find out from him. But DONT marry him until you get it straightened out.
2007-08-17 17:24:00 · answer #7 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am not sure what is going on but there is definitely something wrong. This is also something that you need to get figured out before you get married. If he will not talk to you openly about it then you both need to go see someone together.
2007-08-17 17:12:12 · answer #8 · answered by Elizabeth E 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are a dude trying to get ideas on how to confront your wife or girlfriend about her lack of desire for you.
Troll. That is all.
Why do you all keep falling for this crap?
2007-08-17 17:18:24 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound good, sometimes if the guy may have already spent himself... ie another woman... he may not be able to perform later. excuse... he's not in the mood, too tired... I think Dr. love has a good point.
2007-08-17 17:17:02 · answer #10 · answered by Darren 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋