I need some help with an ex (don't worry, it's none of that "make him jealous and want me back" crap).

Question

Well, the thing is, my boyfriend and I broke up after living together for about a year. We were both really stressed with our 5 year age difference and our different levels of work experience and our seperate years in school. It was hard because I had to move back in with my mom, though we promised to stay friends and he promised to help me out with what I need financially and all that. The problem is, he does his part though sometimes he isn't all that dependable, but I am still kind of hurt obviously and jealous though I am doing a lot better emotionally than I expected. Anyways, I find myself constantly checking his Facebook and email and calling him and I get jealous when he says he has friends that are guys and girls though he promises he doesn't want a girlfriend. I can't just seperate myself because we have to talk everyday and see each other every weekend because he helps me out. So, what can I do to get over this and be a better friend to him so he doesn't leave that either?

Also, I don't have literally any friends thanks to him so how do I start re-building a friend status? I have MySpace and Facebook and that's not working especially well because I don't know anyone to look up. And, I don't have a car so I can't just get up and drive to some area to meet friends. Any ideas? Any good sites? I need people between 17-20 and in IL Chicagoland.

Oh, and by the way, for all of you who are going to tell me to support myself money wise instead of making him do so, I lost so much money when our first child was born and then died due to an unknown complication because I had to basically pay the hospital bills. He is still supporting me financially because I can't work at the moment because that baby made me really sick and my body is very weak.

Answer 1

I am sorry to hear about the loss of your baby.
I know how hard it can be. I lost (died) my 7 year old daughter in 1990 to cancer.
It is nice that your ex is helping you financially during your hard time.

Although he is now your ex and you need to let him go..
You are only prolonging the heartache and pain.

I realize that you need time to grieve over the loss of your baby, so does he....
Get your body well first and once you have the strength then you "could" contact some of your old friends. Its never to late to try....
Work on getting a car, job, friends...
Sitting at home on the computer isn't going to bring friends to you, you need to look for friends.. Try going to Compassionate friends. A place for Parents whom have lost children.. OR any support group. You may find people there that you can become friends with.
Have your mom drive you there.
If there is a will there is a way.

~faith

Answer 2

First off - by doing his part, do you mean he is still financially supporting you? Grow up, move on, pay your own way and find some self esteem.
Second - by checking his email you are proving that you are too immature to handle any kind of friendship with him.
Third - so you see each other daily - so what? you can still move on. He doesnt need a friend like you.