How do you tell a friend that they are changing into someone everyone makes fun of?

Question

She is 17 and so am I. She has never had a boyfriend, but this summer alone has fooled around with 3 guys at the camp we go to. She's got the reputation of 'camp ho'. Somehow she thinks it's a good thing. When I try to tell her what she is doing, she just laughs and says it's fun. How can I get her to understand that everyone makes fun of her and calls her names behind her back and that she needs to control herself?? Or should I just say nothing? Help please. I don't want to be mean, and want to say it as nicely as possible.

Answer 1

i can see your concern, but your friend is finally getting attention from guys, even if it took having sex with some of them over summer at camp.

she probably doesn't care because she was likely so lonely before, that any sort of attention will do!

maybe you can let her know you understand she wants attention from guys, but there are better ways to get it ? otherwise, there isn't much you can do. she has to make her own choices.

take care of YOU, ok? hugs

Answer 2

if you truly are her friend and if she truly treats you as her friend, she'll listen. tell her or scold her or yell at her and tell her that being a 'ho' is not a good thing. tell her that she has lost all sense of dignity and self-respect because of fooling around. tell her how embarrassing it is..and if that doesn't get that through her thick head...then leave it be. karma'll get her.

well..nicely might not be able to do it for her.

OR do the disappointed friend thing..if THAT gets through to her.

Answer 3

haha relax love. wel if u were her bestfriend youw oudl sit by her wen no one roudn and tlk it out tel her what people are saying and tel her how u feel toward it .