She wants him(I can tell)
I have tried to befriend her
she has my cell but she always-always calls his
2007-08-17 16:35:41 · 16 answers · asked by WoRDWiz 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's probably just being friendly and trying to catch up with someone he lost contact with. As for her, she just needs to realize he's engaged- tell her to back off.
2007-08-17 16:43:16 · answer #1 · answered by 0dd1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell my fiance that you are very uncomfortable with this situation especially now that the two of you are going to be married. This is a good test to see how much your feelings mean to him by cutting off all communication with her. Your feelings should hold more importance to him than an ex girlfriend that should be moving on in her life and leaving his alone ....especially now when he is engaged to you. I would be honest and tell him you don't like it and ask him to stop before you change your mind about the future. The past is the past and he needs to leave it alone unless he likes the attention that he is getting from this.He has no reason to remain her friend and you have no reason to befriend her because he would like you to. They have a history together of being probably more than friends and that is reason enough for this all to end now. I don't blame you one bit because I believe that she means nothing but trouble for the both of you!! Your fiance needs to do the right thing and focus on phone calls with you and get over it. You take care of your self and do not put up with her or him for that matter.
2007-08-17 17:46:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, he's your "fiance" not your property. You have no right to even try to dictate who his friends are. Sure, you have an opinion, and there is nothing wrong with sharing that with him.. but if you come off like you're trying to tell him what to do, and how to do it.. chances are, it'll just push him to want the friendship even more.
Also, how can you tell than she wants him?? Has she said or done anything specifically, or is that just your jealousy clouding your judgement?
And as for her always calling his cell, rather than yours.. That's an obvious! She is HIS friend, and if you're same with her as you appear on here.. I'm guessing she can tell that her presence is not wanted (by you, of course) so she just rather not bother trying to talk to you.
You say you tried to befriend her.. Alright, exactly how did you do that? Chances are, if you're not being genuine.. she can tell.
If you're really uncomfortable with her, you need to talk to your fiance about it.. and tell him how you feel. But, you need to really think about what you want to say.. and why you feel the way you do. If you have genuine concerns, express them.. but try not to sound like some crazy, jealous girlfriend, cause that just makes you look bad.
2007-08-18 05:14:40 · answer #3 · answered by arkiegirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, just because she calls him instead of you doesn't mean that she wants him. There are a lot of things to consider here to: how long have they been friends, how good of friends were they, was he talking to her when yall were dating. If they have been friends for a long time, then I don't see a problem with it. I would just insist that if they hang out or anything that you are to be there. If he was talking to her when yall were dating, and now you have a problem with it since yall are engaged, then I don't see much you can do about it. You accepted him as is.
2007-08-17 17:07:57 · answer #4 · answered by mom0202 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you can't control anyone but yourself. This all boils down to an issue of trust. Do you trust your fiance? Have you told him you're uncomfortable with his contact with this other girl? If you have, and if he cares about you, he will reassure you that there's nothing going on.
That being said, sometimes people just have good friends who happen to be the opposite sex. If you try to prevent your fiance from talking to this girl you're only going to show him that you don't trust him, and you're going to cause him to have bad feelings about you.
If you trust him, just let it be. He will appreciate you for it.
2007-08-17 16:44:35 · answer #5 · answered by kyeri y 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he loves and respects you enough he should honor your request and not talk to this girl... is there a reason he has to stay in contact with him.. i know this sounds off the wall since you all are in engaged but my ex boyfriend always insisted on keeping a friendship with his previous ex. We dated for three years and guess what.....8 months after we broke up they got engaged and are now married... that girl needs to get to steppin or maybe you need to and find yourself a man that doesnt even want to talk to an ex
2007-08-17 16:42:06 · answer #6 · answered by KOOSE 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
OK - the person to discuss this with is HIM - not her. He's answering the phone when she calls. He's talking to her.
You need to ask him. But - don't go into this judgmentally - if you truly care about him and believe he cares about you - just simply ask. Let him know it bothers you when an ex contacts him and then ask/offer suggestions on how to resolve the situation before it escalates.
2007-08-17 16:41:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
maybe she just a friend !! don't cause problems between you and him over her , cause thats what she may want to do !! make you all fuss and argue and in the meantime she is the good guy/person for him to talk to !!! be sure your the one he can talk to and confined in not her !! She calls him cause she knows him , and she don't know you i guess. and if she wanted to get to know you i would think she would call you !!! I wouldn't like it myself !! Why did he give her his number anyway? what are they going to be talking about all the time ? what reasons does she call him? Thats what i would ask him !!! let him know it bothers you and talk to him about it !! let him know how you feel and see how he feels about it? you only can get answers from him !!!
2007-08-17 16:47:21 · answer #8 · answered by monkeymomma46 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he likes making you jealous.
maybe he likes the attention.
I have to be honest I would not marry someone who won't put a stop to it. I couldn't handle being married and living like that. We did have that problem early in our marriage and it took forever for my husband to see why it was a problem.
2007-08-17 16:42:43 · answer #9 · answered by Jessie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was a X i personally wouldnt let him be so close with her, thats never a good start to a marriage...
!But If it was just a close child hood friend..let it go... Shes closer to him then she is to you thats why she calls him.
2007-08-17 16:41:45 · answer #10 · answered by Stacey22 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋