So I think that maybe my marriage took a bad turn yesterday??

Question

* This isnt really a question..I just want your opinion

Well yesterday I wasnt in the best of moods and niether was my hubby so i guess you could say we clashed a little or alot..we got into a huge fight..he was telling me i lost him that he didnt love me anymore that he felt nothing for me and i kept yelling at him at first and then just broke out crying i cried all night..i literally went numb and was so hurt and was trying to get some kind of reaction from him but nothing (hes really HOT tempered)

So today we didnt talk at all..he left for work and came back..nothing until a little bit ago..and he repeated that he didnt feel anything and to leave him alone but i kept talking cause i needed more than just that and he tells me the truth is that he was seeing some girl but only a few times and she treats him good and all this other BS...and i start telling him hes so f ed up...and i didnt deserve this and of course im crying histerically and i turn to walk away and grabs me and..

and he says its not true hes sorry he got on his knees and kept saying he loves me and ugh i was just so mad..and he kept repeating how could i beleive that he would never do that to me and now we're kind of ok but it just hurt me sooo much

so you guys think its true?? i would hate that so much...i love him so much

is there any chance he was just trying to get me more mad??

Definitely Blessed:
Yes i know...and it was so stupid of me not to stop but i just couldnt..i needed that closure

Answer 1

yes I think there's the chance that he was trying to make you mad but I do think it's more likely that there was some measure of truth to that. give it a few days and really think about it though. He's your man you will be able to tell if he's being honest or not once you calm down.

either way the two of you need to learn how to communicate more effectively. You are going to drive each other crazy fighting like this. why would someone say they cheated on you just to hurt you? That's insane! And why do you keep fighting with him when you know he has a bad temper. People like that should just be left alone! I hope that you two have calmed down, and that he was lying.

Answer 2

Words are as sharp as a two edged sword and if he really wasn't involved with this other girl and told you that he was ....that was emotionally cruel that he said this to you. I would be carefull that he isn't telling you half truths and keep aware of that remark in the back of your mind. I understand that you love your husband but in a kind and caring way explain to him that he better not make that kind of statement if it isn't true. Let him know that this would be something that you would never tolerate if he ever acted against you and betrayed your marriage to him. Make it very clear right here and now that loving him does not mean you will ever put up with him cheating because this would be the deal breaker. Tell him that you did not appreciate him making that statement and if he ever does this to you again he can drop to his knees and tell you that he loves you all that he wants but.....you will sincerely walk right out that door. Honey, don't ever let him twist your heart in a knot like that again and mess with your head because him saying that to you was so wrong. Take care and the best to you.

Answer 3

OMG..I understand you girl. I get so easily hurt too and I cry about anything. Well, it sounds that you two may have issues that haven't been resolved. Why weren't you two in the best of moods yesterday? I think that maybe you two are keeping emotions inside and when they erupt it gets ugly. Talk about how you feel before it gets to the point were your man makes up that he is seeing a girl (but what if he is). Let things cool off and invite him somewhere later on. Then, tall about it. Hopefully, everything turns out for the best :)

Answer 4

Personally I think that's f*ed up that he done you like that.. That is seriously nothing to joke about , and he should know that, or you need to let him know how bad it hurt you. I think you to just need to set down and have a heart to heart..Sometimes thats the best thing for a relationship, and If you cant agree on anything and if you think its over maybe try getting some help to work on it. Remember where theres a WILL theres a WAY! I wish you the best of Luck.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

he saw how you freaked and and took the punk way out. instead of sticking to his guns like he did the first two times. i know it's hurtful but only you can say if you really want to give him another try. maybe a break is what's needed and YOU need to put that on the table. that way you'll know if he really wants to be there with you. if he agrees it just goes to show how he really feels. i'm sorry you're going thru this and good luck in the future. take it one day at a time and you'll get thru it.

Answer 7

He probably like most guys can't deal with emotion real well. For the most part of their lives, they are told to stop crying or don't feel like that because they need to be a man. It sounds like he needed to know you really cared about him. I'm not sure if it was a made up story or not but I think it'd be better to move on and forget the whole thing and start working on the relationship.

Answer 8

YOU CAN ONLY GET A GUESS FROM US, you know him, we do not, and only youy know how immature that tit for tat pain giving attitude can come from him or not. WE DON'T RELLY KNOW HIM WELL ENOUGH TO SAY; however, I will tell you this about ARGUEING WITH ANY HUBBY, don't continue to argue when they say they have had enough and you know they mean it....just because you need closure or more clearification. THAT WILL PUSH A MAN AWAY WHEN YOU NAG HIM OVER AND OVER. AND THERE IS ALWAYS A WOMAN WAITING TO 'UNDERSTAND' HIM MORE THAN YOU....SO, PULL BACK AFTER YOU HAVE SAID WHAT YOU HAVE TO SAY '''ONCE''', DO NOT CONTINTUE TO REPEAT THE SAME THINGS IN HOPES THAT HE WILL EVENTUALLY SAY WHAT YOU WANT TO HEAR.....IT IS SEEN AS DISRESPECTFUL BY MEN TO DO THAT TO THEM. GOOD LUCK

Answer 9

Listern sometimes you and your husband get in bad mood with one another could it be your spending to much time together you see sometimes in relationship you need to have some alone time. He said he didnt love you and you got more up set sure it hurts. so today you talked about it and he wants you to leave him alone do just that .
get yourself together and sto p pushing the issue maybe he will tell you whats on his mind later. good luck

Answer 10

He was telling the truth about the affair, and when he realized he was going to loose you he realized that the affair was not worth it and that he was stupid to do that because he really did love you. Lived this before. Sorry to hear that you have to go through it too. If you want to make it work than it is going to be hard but it is possible.