If you saw your friends husband with another woman, would you:
A) Confront him?
B) Tell your friend?
C) Forget about it and move on like you never saw anything?
2007-08-17 15:56:25 · 24 answers · asked by ☼ Latina Loca loves Yayo ☼ 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
For the rude ppl who think that this is going on with one of my friends, IT'S NOT...it's just a question
2007-08-17 16:07:12 · update #1
That's one of them catch 22 questions.
A) if you confront him ,
He'll make you look like the bad guy to his wife and maybe try to stop that friendship.
B) and if you tell your friend,
She may not believe you and you'll still be taking a chance of being the bad guy.
And you'll feel like shi* to have to tell your friend something that you know is going to hurt her.
C) Forget about it and move on?
Can you do that to your friend?
If she finds out about him cheating and then finds out that you knew about it well one more time your the bad guy.
so ether way your dam if you do and dam if you don't.
If this question was about me(me being the friend,the wife) and I found out that my friend knew about it ,I'd be questioning her loyalty.
but that's just me , I would wan't to know.
2007-08-17 16:57:22 · answer #1 · answered by ♥♥♥♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be very careful. Yes, talk to the wife to see how she thinks her marriage is. Maybe she knows that her husband is cheating but is turning a blind eye to it. If you confront her with the truth and she already knows then you are putting her in a situation where she will have to do something to save "face". If that is the case she could end up resenting you. There are a lot of women who do know what their husband is doing but would prefer to pretend its not happening because they like being married.. Yes it's sad, but it does happen. Just be careful Feel the waters before you come out and tell her the brutal truth.
2007-08-17 23:12:21 · answer #2 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really hope that you are not in this situation because if you do A) He will laugh in your face and tell you that he will make sure everyone knows that you are a liar. If you do B) she may believe you but once she talks to her husband he will make you look like a liar and a fool and you will lose a friend, and if you do C) you will feel guilty. It really is a no win sitution. I tried C for awhile and I couldn't live with it I felt like a terrible friend. Then I did A) and he threatened my life so I finally did B) and now my friend thinks I am a huge liar and we are no longer friends. So maybe C is the best answer.
2007-08-17 23:27:30 · answer #3 · answered by Jessy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the friends - how close i am to them. If i would be close to him (or the person cheating - it could be a her cheating) i would confront him or her. If i was very close to the person being cheated on, i would tell them, or at least drop some hints that something is up.
If it was a couple that i considered friends, but really hadnt known them that long i might move on...then again i might pass the word to another friend who knows them better and let them deal with it.
2007-08-17 23:15:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to go with Jessie as far as who the friends were part. I have two great friends that I would tell immediately no matter what. On the other hand I do know some girls that have their husbands cheating on them and haven't said anything because I don't want to get in the middle of all that mess.
2007-08-17 23:09:06 · answer #5 · answered by helpful one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends, when you say you saw her husband with another woman, were they at dinner, or a more intimate location? I would casually ask her about who her husband was eating dinner with..or say something like " I saw your husband ( insert name) with a lady ( insert situation) the other day".. .. and then see what kind of answer she gets. You never know, she could be a relative or a work college and you could be wrong depending on the situation. It honestly would not hurt to say something. If he is innocent he has nothing to worry about.
2007-08-17 23:23:47 · answer #6 · answered by omorris1978 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, you get out your camera phone and take a picture so he can't say you are lying. Then you confront him and make sure the other woman knows that he is married. Then you tell your friend. Your loyalties lie with her.
2007-08-17 23:07:24 · answer #7 · answered by Tiffany L 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the friend. I can think of two friends that I would just tell outright becuase we are close enough and I know they wouldn't hold it against me for telling the truth. If it's anyone else I would confront the guy and say you have 3 days to tell her and if you don't I will
2007-08-17 23:02:46 · answer #8 · answered by Jessie 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I would confront him first. tell him that you are aware of the situation. then he needs to take the step on his own to fess up to the wife and work on the marriage or get out of it. if it continues, then maybe consider going to the friend.
2007-08-17 23:16:35 · answer #9 · answered by Bethy C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I saw my girl friend's husband, I would confront him that minute and then go strait to her. I would like for him to explain that one..
2007-08-17 23:22:35 · answer #10 · answered by RPrincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋