I would like to know how can i get to talk to someone that has had a D&C done ? Also how can you get over the feeling of thinking that it could happen again ? It is a very bad feeling especially when you wanted your baby . When will i go back to normality .
2007-08-17 15:33:38 · 7 answers · asked by LaBoRy4u2Nv 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
depression is normal, you were pregnant, and now you are not! Its post-partum depression coupled with the sadness of your loss. The only thing that will make you feel better is time. God bless.
2007-08-17 15:50:37 · answer #1 · answered by parental unit 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I went through this as well, and I stayed as busy as possible. People, said that they couldn't believe how well I was holding up, but on the inside I was crushed. If you don't allow yourself to grieve, it will wear you down. You have every right to feel scared and depressed. I had a miscarriage and found that the best thing for me personally, was to throw all my efforts into trying again. By the time I was suppose to have my very next period, I was pregnant and had a very healthy baby boy. Then we decided to go for number two. I got preg. with twins and lost one early and the other at 12wks. That was when I had the D& C. I am still scared about trying again. I had some complications from the D&C and am worried that this may add more difficulty to a successful preg. I know that if I didn't have my son, however, I would just keep trying. I would have done anything to be a mother.
4yrs ago-miscarried triplets
3yrs ago-had my healthy son
1yr ago- lost one twin then the other...had a D&C
2007-08-17 17:28:23 · answer #2 · answered by Ang. ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing you had a misscarriage. I had one 6 years ago. At 11 weeks. That was tough. What was even more difficult was when I got pregnant again only 3 months later. When I hit the 11 week mark I was totally scared. But I delivered her fine and she's almost 5.
Anyway only time can heal. Talking about it helps and just living each day as it comes.
Also there are medicines that can help. For temporary help anyway. Talk to a counselor or even call and talk to someone at the hospital.
I hope you feel good soon.
2007-08-17 15:48:27 · answer #3 · answered by Heather R 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Feeling depressed and scared is normal and I'm sure any woman who has gone through this will tell you the same thing. I was depressed for a long time after my miscarriage but kept on with my day as usual. Nights were really hard on me since my husband didn't get home until late at night so I spent my nights crying myself to sleep. It will eventually get better as the days go by and you can always try again.
2007-08-17 15:58:21 · answer #4 · answered by helpful one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had one done at 12 weeks. One of the worst part is knowing that it had stopped growing at 6 weeks and I carried it for so long having no idea. I never thought I would get over but time really does make you feel better. That was in 05 and I'm now 31 weeks pregnant. If you try to get pg after, let your body heal. After that D&C I got pg 6 weeks later and ended up losing it at 5 weeks. I hope you start feeling better.
2007-08-17 16:53:20 · answer #5 · answered by mrs06chris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is absolutely normal to feel the way you are feeling right now. If you feel that you are truly depressed, however, you should talk to your physician about taking anti-depressants.
Depression will make you hurt emotionally and physically---moreso than you are right now. You do not want to go into depression.
The only thing that will heal the pain of your lost baby is time. My miscarriage was 3 1/2 years ago and it still hurts me emotionally. The physical pain was gone a long time ago, but the emotional pain still lingers.
It may help to speak to a therapist or to join a group for women who have had miscarriages. Ask your doctor for a referral. He/she should know of some.
Good luck to you!
2007-08-17 15:54:48 · answer #6 · answered by mjh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've gone through the same thing. Unfortunately sweety, it is a very difficult thing to go through. Like you said, especially, when you wanted the baby. I know it feels that you won't go back to normality, but you will. Time heals all wounds. You need to do things that you enjoy. Hang out with friends, listen to music, watch movies...do things that make you feel good and happy. Do your best not to turn into a recluse...don't shelter yourself. You don't want to go into depression. That is the worst thing you could do. I hope the best for you.
2007-08-17 15:44:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋