My wife & I had hadn't seen each other for a few weeks prior to this incident. We met up at my sisters house on her way up to our new house that I was going to be moving to with her in a little over a month.
She agreed to let me buy a new TV so we decided to take a ride to the nearest Best Buy. As she was getting our sons car seat out of her vehicle I told my sister to hop in the front seat.
She got a little miffed, did the whole silent treatment thing.
She ended up apologizing stating that it probably had something to do with the 10 hr drive, our separation, & that fact that she was hungry at the time but then she expected an apology from me.
She said a wifes place in a vehicle is next to her husband unless she gives up the position. But it was my sister!
Am I wrong or is she?
2007-08-17 15:20:02 · 22 answers · asked by navynucjohn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are VERY wrong and rude. You took that woman to be your wife...by your "side" for the rest of your life...and now you shove her in the back seat, behind you, for your sister??? Your sister would have understood and I see why your wife doesn't.
She has every right to be "miffed" at you to say the least. You definitely owe her a very big apology for sure and for certain!
SHE is right in this...you have no right as her husband to put her behind you and your sister before her.
You are not her boss or in front / above her...you should be at each others side...you have belittled her in a bad way!
You have no idea how to treat a wife and that is plain to see.
So... who is cooking your breakfast and doing your laundry? I bet it is not your sister. Moron come to mind? Enough said.
2007-08-17 15:40:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's taking the whole thing WAY out of proportion.
However, seeing that you had a separtaion for a time, and I assume got back together, she may be feeling a bit degraded because she isn't in the front seat. After separation and then getting back together, I can assume that she wants to feel wanted and needed. I can see how she feels, but I believe it wasn't right of her to get upset over it.
Just say sorry and let her sit in the front seat. It's a silly thing to fight about. And the fact that she apologized is a cue for you to do the same, even if you don't feel sorry. This can be fixed easily. You don't need to blow it out of proportion too.
2007-08-17 15:32:05 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, interesting situation. I might be a little upset at the moment, but I wouldn't make a big deal of it.
I was in a similar situation one time, my boyfriend and I were giving a ride home to his friends sister. He told her to sit up front and assumed I would ride in the back. I was upset about that. A sister wouldn't bother me, some other chick would. I have a bit of a jealous bone.
I'd say you didn't really do anything wrong, but I don't think it's the driver's responsibilty to decide who rides in the passenger seat. Your wife and sister should've worked it out amongst themselves. I'd say just apologize, it obviously hurt her feelings. I know you didn't mean to and probably don't think it's a big deal, but I would say a wife should sit next to her husband unless she offered it to your sister.
2007-08-17 15:31:58 · answer #3 · answered by melissa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think that it is hard to have a right or wrong, but I can see your wife's point. My example - I was freezing in the house. My husband (who was a boyfriend) at the time had the AC on. I asked him to turn it off and he told me to get a sweater. His sister walks in, says it was cold and he catered to her need - blankets, sweaters and thermostats. Let me guess, you think the sister was in the right to get catered to and I had two hands I could do it myself.
There are a few things I have learned - pick your battles and spouses come first. I have to take your wife's side. Once you are married, she claims seat rights. How would you have felt if you missed her that much, you had the kid the whole time, you just bought your wife something and then you felt like she tossed you in the back like a kid and dissed you.
Giver her a hug and let her ride shot gun next time.
2007-08-17 15:30:41 · answer #4 · answered by RCJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You take a seat interior the front,no reason by any potential so which you will do something. If there became a father in regulation,she may well be sitting next to her husband if he became utilizing,does no longer she? it incredibly is common,husband and spouse in front,little ones and whoever else in back of vehicle. the only time I even have all and sundry else interior the passenger seat is that in the event that they have commute ailment and that's,for some unusual reason,much less noticeable if seated interior the front.solid success to you in the different factors of your existence too.do no longer forget approximately additionally that as quickly as you stated conserving MIL satisfied,and hubby,you forgot to show the different significant individual,YOU.
2016-10-10 11:13:42 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there can be no right or wrong when arguing over how someone feels about a situation a person has the feelings they have and that is the way it is, not everyone has to have the same feelings about things.
Just tell your wife that you are sorry and that you didn't think about it being a problem and you know better next time. And maybe next time she will just give up the seat.
2007-08-17 15:36:20 · answer #6 · answered by humboldt1965amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At my house you would be wrong. LOL I always sit next to my hubby unless I give up my seat. Which I always do for his friends or either of our parents. I would not give it up to a sister or one of my friends, because it is my husband not theirs. Now if their husband was driving my car for some reason then they could sit up front next to him LOL I also would never disrespect my hubby by giving up his seat next to me. He gives up his own seat if he wants to. Now go apologize to your wife LOL
oh see now I just reread that I thought it was her sister not yours. Hmmmm well you may both be right (or wrong here) LOL
Can't you both just say you're sorry and move on. This is so not worth being angry over
2007-08-17 15:54:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were totally wrong. Your wife should have been in the front seat and the sister in the back. Maybe you need to re-think what your wife means to you.
2007-08-17 16:13:23 · answer #8 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The wife is the partner. I wouldn't be competitive with my sis in law, but I would feel that my contribution to the family unit had been disregarded if I were involuntarily demoted.
If that is "her" seat, it is the queen's seat. It's one of those unwritten rules that can make a woman feel dishonored.
Just think if she invited her brother to drive your car while you were in it. It's not major. It's just insensitive.
2007-08-17 15:59:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wife comes before sister! It's not a huge deal, but just apologize, and move on.
2007-08-17 15:48:41 · answer #10 · answered by Tiss 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋