My husband and I have been married 1 1/2 years. I want a baby and he doesn't. So HE decided we have to use condoms. (Insulting, yes, but not the point.) The other day he comes home from work and unexpectedly drops three loose condoms on the table. He told me 'he had a guy at work buy them for him' and then my husband threw out the box. I don't know why he couldn't bring the condoms home in the originaI box or why he made another man buy them for him. He is 26 years old and can buy them himself. I don't believe him. Would you? I have been feeling like he can't be trusted for quiet a while before this happened and I don't know if I'm overreacting. Thank you!
2007-08-17 14:06:27 · 22 answers · asked by Jeanne 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He does want children. He just wants to wait a year. It's really about the condoms. He claims a "guy", one of his employees, not a friend bought them for him. I can't understand why there is no box. I feel these are left over from something else.
2007-08-17 14:23:28 · update #1
women's instincts are usually right on...if you feel something is not right...usually it is not...you should ask him and talk to him and find out what is going on.
2007-08-17 14:11:03 · answer #1 · answered by Andrea 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be wondering if these are from a 12 pack and he has used the rest on someone else. Most of what he stated sounds like a lie, there is no reason for someone else to buy the condoms, unless he is attempting to hide something. I would also wonder why he decided on condoms? with all the different types of BC out there that would work so much better. Unless he is really cheap and had someone else pick the condoms up at the health department there is no reason for them not to be in the box. I smell something that is not right here.
2007-08-17 21:14:00 · answer #2 · answered by julvrug 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he staying out late or leaving the house a lot? Did you have any other reason to think he would be cheating? Have you checked his cell phone for new calls or text messaging? I would think there would be other signs if he was sleeping with someone else.
Maybe he decided on condoms and said no to a baby right now, because he has an STD and doesn't want you to get it.
You know him better than us obviously. Trust your instinct. Do some investigative work. Good luck!
2007-08-17 22:02:16 · answer #3 · answered by philosophy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he may be cheating, he may not be. next time you are at the market together pick up a box of condoms. see what his reaction is. personally, if a guy is really serious about not having kids ever, he'll get nuetered. however, it is possible that he had those condoms leftover and just didn't want to say so. if he just doesn't want a baby yet, you can agree on a birth control instead. he can come with you to your doctor's appointment and personally make him responsible to make sure you take it everyday.
but if he actually doesn't ever want a baby, maybe you should cut your losses now.
you two really need to work on your communication before this marriage gets any further.
2007-08-17 21:20:34 · answer #4 · answered by Isabella S 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, maybe it would be better to wait, to have a baby...You have only been married for 1 1/2 years...It'll give you more time, to really get to know each other, and spend valuable time together. Believe me, that will change once you have a baby...If this condom thing is a little suspicious to you, why don't you suggest, you use birth control pills... After this, if you keep finding condoms on his person...well, I would look more into it...
2007-08-17 21:51:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's just outright strange. I was shy about buying condoms for the first time, but I was 16. If you had suspicious feelings about him before, and he comes home with an open box of condoms. Are any of them missing? If not, then he might be really shy.
2007-08-17 21:35:17 · answer #6 · answered by x2000 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't jump to conclusions. Some men are embarrassed to buy condoms. Therefore, it is possible his friend bought them. Maybe they split the cost and his friend kept some for himself. If there have been other issues that raise a red flag then it is a whole other story. However, based on this one incident I would not get worried.
2007-08-17 21:17:12 · answer #7 · answered by Tiffany L 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He could have bought them in a coin operated machine in any bathroom and his story is not real at all. He is lieing. But moreso than that....you should have discussed whether you wanted children before getting married! Isn't that the number one thing on ones list of questions? Your marriage seems like it will not work sorry to say....since you have differing ideals in life
2007-08-17 21:13:34 · answer #8 · answered by theartisttwin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are lots of places where condoms are free but singles, not in the box...
Who knows. He could be cheating but some men are embarrassed to buy them....
Not enough info...
2007-08-17 21:12:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was cheating, not sure he would be stupid enough to throw them down in front of you. Why would he even bring the extras home? Make sense??
Not sure about you, but I talk to my friends about everything, and sure enough if they had a couple of condoms left over they would give them to me, if the reverse were true that I didn't want to get pregnant.
But, I agree that a women's intuition can never be underestimated.
2007-08-17 21:20:03 · answer #10 · answered by prbylisa 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he just got them because he was horney and was out of them. He wanted to make love to you so he got them from someone else. If you are unsure of things right now then you had better ask right away. Don't let it bother you until you lay the cards on the table.
2007-08-19 10:40:19 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋