I am just curious! There is a difference between CHEATING and for the other spouse to give PERMISSION to have sex with another, if he or she gets somewhat bored with just having sex with the same partner..over and over again, or maybe because of a serious illness, that the other spouse may have, which may affect his or hers sexual performance....besides SEX and LOVE are having to be two different things....in a true relationship..
2007-08-17 13:57:48 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Of course Wizball, its adultery AND fornication! But some people get away with it anyways and they still do it!
2007-08-17 14:04:08 · update #1
Thanks guys! For your honest answers! I find these feedbacks from ya'll very helpful to me. I am learning alot from ya'll experiences of marriage and divorce issues. Especially, the ones who are several steps ahead of me in life in general. God bless to all.
2007-08-17 14:32:51 · update #2
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2007-08-17 16:24:25 · update #3
Thick Madame. Sometimes I do tell my wife to bring home money as a prositute lol hahahaha But its only a joke to her. She definitely gets insulted by my joking around alot. I am just one super crazy husband, that drives my wife crazy up the wall at times. well if my wife also drives me crazy because of her extremely super low sex drive, **** I guess I will drive her crazy at times....lol haha We both drive each other super crazy....up the wall.....
2007-08-17 16:28:02 · update #4
I would never do it. That's adultery, whether permission is given or not, and it's outside of God's will. It's not a question of whether you can get away with it, but whether you want a faithful marriage. God bless.
p.s. Take into account, for example, how you would feel if she admitted she enjoyed sex with the other man better.
2007-08-17 14:01:44 · answer #1 · answered by wizball 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
As per Quran, Talaq (Divorce) CANNOT occur by mere uttering of divorce one or three times. When a couple or any party among them decides to divorce, they have to declare it and then the two have to STILL live together for 4 months. This is the cooling off period. During this time the couple can reconcile and retract the procedure. If they stand firm even by the end of 4th month then the divorce is enforced. On the other hand if they retract there is no divorce. The whole thing however can be exercised ONLY twice between a couple. If they commit such a mistake the THIRD time then they are NOT permitted to reconcile. In that case the cool off period will ONLY act as an assurance that the woman is NOT pregnant with the child of the former husband. A divorce like the one you stated can occur ONLY among those who follow hadith. Good luck, I guess you are one of them. So it is your problem and you rightly worried.
2016-05-21 23:40:09 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow what an interesting question. Honestly, I couldn't see myself having sex with someone else after I am married. If he gave me permission to do so.............That is a toughy because in the back of my mind I would still have this lingering feeling that I was cheating even though I was given permission. If I was crazy horny and there was somebody who I knew then maybe. But not a one night stand or sex with no strings attached. But then that would mean I would be developing a relationship with them......Oh I don't know the madness
2007-08-17 14:04:33 · answer #3 · answered by latte81 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No way in this world would I.
reason
#1) then he would feel he can do the same and I totally could not handle that.
#2) He may regret saying so and then become neurotic
#3) STD's
#4) It sure means a lot more when you love someone.
My opinion: If this was said, I would really wonder why??
What in the world would he get out of it? Be careful....
Now if he is ill, then introduce toys for your own gratification. If unfortunately he is terminally ill, why not wait for a better time - he was most likely just saying that to be sure you won't abandon him he really needs you
2007-08-17 14:12:33 · answer #4 · answered by prbylisa 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sex between humans is a form of very intimate communication, not just the animal act of reproduction. You are vulnerable and exposed, and need to be with someone you can trust, that you have a bond with.
People who have sex 'for fun' seem less able to form this very-easily broken bond.
If my wife told me it was OK, he had better have a really good reason for it- even if she was for some reason never able to have sex again, as long as we were married, I would not do it with another.
If she did NOT have an excellent medical reason, we would probably be in counseling within days because I would really want to know what is going on with her.
Of course, I've only been married for 29 years, and as far as I know neither of us nor our parents ever had affairs, been divorced, etc- so what do I know?
2007-08-17 14:09:57 · answer #5 · answered by Madkins007 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Nah, that's a bad idea. Have you ever seen the movie Indecent Proposal? That was a married couple who agreed it was okay for her to sleep with another man. It seemed like it would be okay at the time, but it tore apart their marriage. You may think you're okay with it, but then all you could think about is your spouse sleeping with that other person. There are a few celebrities who I love the idea of making love to, but in reality, I would probably end up feeling way too uncomforatble and not be able to go through with it. My husband is the only man for me, that's why I made a commitment to him!
2007-08-17 14:04:49 · answer #6 · answered by princesspink 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My hubby wouldn't even ask me or give me permission about that. We would end up divorce instead. It is not a marriage if you go to another just because you are bored or serious illness. When getting married...remember what the priest says " for better or for worse, for richer or poorer and sickness and health, forsaking all others(means nobody else) for long as ye both shall live."
Besides, even if he did give me permission, I would not do it. I love my hubby too much to do such a thing.
2007-08-17 14:09:49 · answer #7 · answered by Jadesparrow 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are playing with fire. Quite often 2 people get bored with sex over a period of time. Either separate and try your luck or satisfy yourself with companionship for the long run. Sex with someone else(while you are married )can cause a great deal of pain for everyone involved. Permission usually means the other party has plans also.
2007-08-17 14:08:58 · answer #8 · answered by ARLENE H 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have that permission and have been with other men, mainly on a longer term basis but sometimes on a short term basis also. It can work very nicely for couples and actually add to your closeness as a couple.
2007-08-17 16:05:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me as wife? Done with the best fun ever I had. Can explained how full of excitements. Am thankful for my hubby for given me permission to do it, in the first place, he had persuaded me to do it. Now we still keep our happy marriage couple.
2007-08-17 22:51:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋