I just wanted to see if it was me or are there other women out there who feel same. I'm 11 weeks prego and I don't feel attracted to the baby's father right now. I don't want to kiss, I don't want to have sex either.
Is there something wrong with me or is this normal?
2007-08-17 13:11:20 · 22 answers · asked by wakebrat7 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It's hormones and it's perfectly normal.
Even though every pregnancy is different there is one thing that is ALWAYS true and that is pregnancy will have some affect on your love life!
And while some will tell you your desire will return with a vengeance in the 2nd trimester, DON'T count on it! For a lot of women that doesn't happen and they shouldn't feel bad or guilty if they are still not excited later in the pregnancy.
2007-08-17 13:14:10 · answer #1 · answered by Veritas 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I feel the same way, but I actually moved out and am no longer with the father, so I don't have the pressure to have sex anymore. Personally I have no drive or desire. I know a lot o women do, especially second trimester, but I am 15 weeks and that is the second trimester and still nothing.
Don't worry, I just hope he understands.
good luck!
2007-08-17 13:19:53 · answer #2 · answered by Kali's Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HORMONES - - they will swing both ways during pregnancy - also your body is not what you are used to and you just feel - blah - tell me anyone who wants to have sex when they feel blah . And just so you don't feel too odd I'll just tell you I'm now 37 + weeks and still cant stand to have people too close a lot of the time - it's like they are smothering me just by sitting too close. And don't worry - even if you don't want to have sex your entire pregnancy - you should at some point have feeling of wanting to be close to your husband/BF. Just have a talk with him telling him that just because you want him to hold you or that you want to snuggle doesn't mean you want to have sex. Make it clear to him that he needs to wait for you to go there so that there aren't any hurt feelings...
2007-08-17 13:57:43 · answer #3 · answered by Mum of 6 - newest born 8-25-07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every woman is different honey. Some want sex more, some want none. Your hormones are outta whack so it's playing havoc on your body.
Right now, just do what makes you comfortable. In a few weeks, the first trimester yuckies will be gone and you'll most likely start feeling really good.
2007-08-17 13:15:00 · answer #4 · answered by lanagrl78 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everything is normal now. It is normal to have more or less interest in sex and it may change during the 2nd trimester. I go both ways right now, some days I don't even want to see him and other days I can't get enough.
2007-08-17 13:18:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, just give it time. And tell him to be patient. In a few weeks you'll feel better!
After the baby is born, you'll have no desire again for up to a few months. That will also be normal. Keep communication lines open. All that rejection can hurt his feelings unless you remind him that your hormones are in control, not your heart.
Congratulations!
2007-08-17 13:17:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 7 weeks and feel the exact same way. I felt the same way throughout my first pregnany too, and basically until I weaned my daughter at 12 months. My doctor told me it was normal, and that basically women are more ready for sex when they aren't pregnant because it's nature's way of getting us to get pregnant, and that when we are pregnant and nursing our brains don't give us the signal to have sex because we have a little one. It's not true for everyone though.
2007-08-17 13:15:47 · answer #7 · answered by Melissa 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey, It is the most normal thing. It sucks but it's the truth. Some women change in the 2nd trimester, I didn't with any of my pregnancies. My hubby and I didn't have sex for like ever. But he understood. So don't be alarmed, it is soooo common.
2007-08-17 13:43:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
TOTALLY normal.. i didnt feel like having sex again til i was like 7 months pregnant. your hormones are all out of whack, its natural. my hubbie got frustrated but he understood - there was nothing i could do about it. when i got my drive back tho, boy did it ever come back. we had sex like rabbits right up until the day before my son was born lol
2007-08-17 13:22:54 · answer #9 · answered by raspberry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its normal in the beginning, different women's bodies react differently when you're still sorting out your hormones. Once they stabilize you'll probably find you have the exact opposite feeling.
2007-08-17 13:14:48 · answer #10 · answered by WBurn 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋