how do i not get so annoyed at my husband? we have been married since june 2nd this year and he is really aggrivating the hell out of me. he used to like to do things together but now all he wants to do is sit on the couch or in the bed to watch tv. its okay to do that now and then but when i want to go do something with him he blows the hell up and dont want to do it because he dont want to get up and away from the tv. i am only 26 years old and h is 27, all i want to do is live life, go have fun before we have kids. am i in the wrong for being aggrivated? he used to like to go to the bars for a beer or two then be done now he wont even do that, much less go to the movies or walk around at the mall. he really is getting on my nerves is that wrong as well?!?! very very confused i am lol..
2007-08-17 13:03:52 · 8 answers · asked by funandfaithful 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
also i did not add in here, that i live in a town where i dont know anybody, its just hard for me i guess, i am stressed out and really want to give up at times, i try to talk to him but he wont listen to me, i also try to tell him we have lack of communication which i blame myself even though its really him, i do that so he wont think im pushing it on him, with every problem i always try to talk to him but he either dont listen or blows up. i am crying now lol.. i got to go. Thanks for any help in advance it is very well appreciated!!!
2007-08-17 13:19:51 · update #1
leave him at home and f all you do is sit at the park , go to the mall , or see a movie by yourself he should start to wonder about you being alone. keep it up and dont play in to his game of doing nothing. if he continues not caring then you need to deciede if thats the kind of life you want.
2007-08-17 13:39:30 · answer #1 · answered by marilynfsmgm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a job or go to school and prepare for a career. Kids should be the Last thing you're thinking about right now. Just because you're married doesn't mean it's smart to bring kids into it until your marriage is stable enough to withstand stupid crud like this.
What did you expect from a Marriage? Maybe he's tired after working all day. Maybe you should both plan "date nights". That way he'll know enough in advance to plan a night out and once it's planned, he can then prepare to be awake enough to want to go. Marriage is give and take and he must realize this and so should you.
2007-08-17 20:26:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he doesn't realize that he still has to cultivate the relationship now that you are married so it will last. Some people think that once they are married they have "arrived" and don't need to do anything else. Maybe you can start out by going on dates each week or something. And you are not crazy to be irritated with this.good luck!
2007-08-17 20:11:43 · answer #3 · answered by Gorgeous 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him be go out with your girlfriends for dinner or a movie it might make him a little jealous that your not spending time with him. Or instead of insisting of going out bring a romantic night home mix it up a little. Dont get irritated think of creative ways to get his attention.
2007-08-17 20:11:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is suffering from depression. He may need therapy, medication, or both. Now for the bad news...
You cannot control him, so stop trying. If he won't get up off his a**, then stop nagging him and find social activities for yourself to do without him.
2007-08-17 20:17:36 · answer #5 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need marriage counseling if this is happening so early in your marriage
when I watch the football game, sometimes my gf reminds me..."Did I miss the wedding ceremony?" I can take a hint but he's not getting it.
2007-08-17 20:13:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's got you now. He doesn't have to 'try' anymore, sad to say.
I'd get to the bottom of this real quick or you may be headed for years of this.
2007-08-17 20:12:21 · answer #7 · answered by Elt 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you probably quit doing things you did when dating
2007-08-17 20:22:17 · answer #8 · answered by infantryman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋