I have been scanning Yahoo answers for weeks now in search of answers to help handle an emotional/physical affair that began between a long time friend and I. I have about 25 questions that I asked, that came with 1-50 answers sometimes. Many...many were very judgemental about it, some were angry about it, some gave some very heartfelt and real life advice. Some gave some nasty answers, people who were never affected by an affair anywhere in thier life. So I have had a lot of soul searching going on. I am now seeing a therapist to help sort out the feelings that led me into this. Yet I can't help wondering...through it all...all the pain, and anger and guilt within myself...for getting involved in this...I can't help feeling that some people are 'Just Born for Love'. And they get married, because they do love someone and yet they don't know when and how and with who and why they need stop with someone else. Thier hearts are just too big. Just my thoughts.
2007-08-17 12:06:25 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't think that scanning Yahoo answers is such a good idea .. Who hasn't been through it - would never understand. Life is not just black and white, not to mention that's it's extremely short. I feel your pain, but I believe that only your heart not the therapist will give you the right answer and point you into the right direction. If it's a true feeling - you have to fight for it no matter what!
2007-08-17 14:32:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh man I so don't want to be someone you see as rude. But I feel I have to say it. Your need to love someone and committ and then move onto someone else is selfish. Maybe you are just "born for love" but does that make it ok to destroy peoples lives in the process. I could say I am a born killer. That I just want to kill as many people as I can, are you going to tell me that's acceptable?
I am truly not trying to be mean I just want you to see that thinking you are born to be this way does not excuse what it does to others. I hope you get the answers your searching for in counseling.
2007-08-17 16:14:52 · answer #2 · answered by Jessie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad you're in therapy.
If you think other people's answers are judgemental, maybe it's because you're doing something the majority of people believe is immoral. Did you ever consider that these people might be right? Maybe you're selfish and you're looking to satisfy your own passing pleasures, not "share the love" you have in your oh-so-big heart.
2007-08-17 12:15:46 · answer #3 · answered by ddd 874 587 545 543 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe that. I think that, all too often, we follow our hearts when our mind knows that we should be running the other way. It feels good to be loved and cherished, and sometimes it comes from the wrong person and we are blind to the facts.
We are all adults and we know what we are doing...right or wrong...we know.
2007-08-17 12:17:30 · answer #4 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
didn't I read this question on the TV show "to catch a predator"
2007-08-17 13:01:04 · answer #5 · answered by Dr Phil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right ...heart too big...lol...lol...lol... what an excuse!!!
2007-08-17 12:16:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you need someone to talk to??????????
2007-08-17 14:45:34 · answer #7 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋