Help???????Please!?

Question

OK, its was end of work and a white guy came up and slapped my butt then said "good night *****"

Now, no one saw this, and he has been working their 5 yes 5! years and me only a couple months, and my supervisor has trust in him.

Now the touching my butt, Im not freaking out about that, I dont care that much because it to me isnt a big deal, but calling me a *****. Uh uh, Now Im asking this because I know theres no proof and they trust him alot more than me. Also he is white, automatically gives my supervisor who is white more trust.

I need to know what to do with no proof and the fact that my s'visor has alot more trust in the guy who did it?

_and if you gonna answer that Im lying, dont answer, because I dont need you to answer.

I know I just asked this, but most of the answers said to contact my supoervisor with I cant

Answer 1

go to the main boss and tell him all about it

Answer 2

Guys who show this type of behaviour often... done it before. Find out how other colleagues react on him. Who's easily having a good conversation with him, who's just working with the guy and who're the ones that seem to avoid him.

I think both the slap on the butt and the racist remark are way out of line, but it's a little bit the question how much he's _seen_ as a racist and how much as woman-unfriendly on the workfloor. Perhaps other non-white males also have heard these kinds of remarks, just as he might slap butts of white females without... the racist remark. Maybe he calls them Blondie or whatever.


Whith a little bit of luck you'll get into a conversation with people who seem to avoid him and learn more. Maybe... he's allready known as a assh*le by a lot of people.

If he shows this behaviour again, go to a bureau against discrimination in your neighbourhood first (!). They know more about legislation, they know lawyers with experience in this field and probably they even good techniques to get the proof needed.

In the meanwhile you can do your job, work on good relationships with other colleagues and also get to know your supervisor a little better. In time you might even see that the trust your supervisor shows in this guy is only proffesionally, but that he dislikes him as a person.

If you do like the job and the other colleagues, take enough time to gather more info and know the best options to strike back instead... of making a guess. (if... you want to strike back ofcourse)

BTW, maybe it's not a bad idea to wear old trousers every now and then, to place 2 pieces of cardboard with 6-7 open staples in your backpockets. He'll immediatly know he shouldn't treat you that way !

Answer 3

Hi...I'm really sorry this happened and it made you feel so bad but remember, you did nothing wrong, and he is the one who should feel badly about calling you a racist name and touching you inapproriately. If you can get up the courage write a brief note (date it and keep 2 copies). Say something like this: "Gomer, the other day when you slapped my butt and said "goodnight, *****", it made me feel very uncomfortable (the word ***** and the slap). I know you don't want me to feel that way so I just want to ask you not to do anything like that again. I want to be respected and I feel I should be. No hard feelings, I just want us to get along in our work and not have any friction between us." See if it works. If not, give one copy of the letter to your supervisor if it happens again and explain your situation to him.

Answer 4

I am sorry that you have to put up with a situation like that where you work.
You don't seem to be the type of girl that would invite that kind of behavior,so what makes this dumb jerk think that it is ok to treat you like this? He is just smart enough to know NOT to call you the other "N" word.
Since there were no witnesses to the episode,and if he is still treating you with a huge lack of respect(you have this civil right) I think that you need to set him up. Try purchasing a portable tape recorder to put in a pocket of your uniform or whatever you need to wear. If he is close enough to touch you,it will record his voice and the things he is saying.
I think that this jerk,based on your lack of reaction,might try something stupid again. So do your best to be prepared.
If something does happen, turn in the tapes to your supervisor,if nothing gets resolved,then you know that this is not the company that you want to be working for.

Remember, you do not deserve to be treated this way. You are a bright girl,and I wish you the very best of luck..keep us posted on your progress.

Anna

Answer 5

i don't know. maybe you should forget about it. seems to me that you would have confronted him about this right then and there. and since when is it ok for someone to slap your butt without your permission? i know this sounds bad but he didn't call you the other n word? this doesn't make sense but if it really bugs you, then you should go to your supervisor white or non white. you never know until you try.

Answer 6

At work how do ya get along? Maybe he figured since the two of ya are buddies he can play around with you. Talk to him and tell him you feel affended because of what he called you tell him you don't like to joke around like that because I'm pretty sure he was joking. At my job there are all different races and we always play around like that with each other but we know that we are just joking.

Answer 7

You can contact your supervisor or his. This kind of thing is forbidden in the work place. Do not let this go. It is sexual harassment and racist harassment. If you won't do it for yourself, then do it for the employees who come after you.

Answer 8

Your not upset about him hitting your BUTT? I think you should be just as concerned about this as what he called you. Wait and see how he talks and treats others and then if something else happens you can have someone who can atest to your point of view.

Answer 9

first in your details you stated more had said tell your supervisor....only two people had reply neither gave that answer. I don't think he called you what you said I think you like him, and the slapping of you butt.

Answer 10

the sooner you tell someone the better. you already thinking the boss will believe him so what you got to lose tell him you never know and start looking for a new job. if you don't tell he will do it again. you do have choices. don't keep getting abused or sexually harassed just to keep the job.

Answer 11

Stay away from that retard, and keep your job! You said it, he has been longer there so you will probably not get away telling what he did to you. Be cool, strong & let time pass so your work & character speak for you (in the meanwhile stay away from him).