i'm 42 years old man, 18 yearz married, never been happy with my wife, just stood there for my kidz, they are 11 and 16 yearz old...i'm getting really sick, no hope, no future, another word i feel bad when i think to leave them...i dont love my wife, i dont talk to her...i dont make love to her...i even dont like to look at her...but i love my kidz...what should i do?
2007-08-17 11:40:44 · 16 answers · asked by V 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
she doesn't love you either you really think she doesn't know this?i saw couples rise from the ashes.go to church.
2007-08-17 11:56:48 · answer #1 · answered by STALKER BLOCK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really have some more questions for you...Why did you marry her in the first place? Did she do something bad for you to feel this way towards her? Have you ever tried to work things out with her?
Hmmm...I guess, it really doesn't matter now because it's too late to even try to work things out. What else do you need to do? I say, get a divorce.
Who will benefit from the divorce? You, Your Wife and Your Kids. You -- because atlast you will be free and be able to find someone who can really make you happy. Your wife -- because atleast she doesn't have to put up with a man who doesn't love her. Your kids --- because they don't really need parents who don't talk to each other. If you really love your kids, then set them free from a household with parents who are sick of each other. Nothing hurts more for the kids than having a home and knowing that their parents doesn't love one another. It makes them feel bad. I know your kids are smart enough to know and understand your situation. Talk to them and reassure them that even if you get divorced, your love for them will not change and they are still your priority.
You know what they say, if you are not happy...you can't make other people happy.
2007-08-17 12:14:44 · answer #2 · answered by ♥♥♥MiSSY♥♥♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look you made a choice to be with a woman you don't love. And if you have never been happy, why did you have kids?
But thats all done now. So you have to make a big dicision. Do you want to be miserable the rest of your life? Sounds like you didn't take charge of your life 18 years ago, so are you now? Your kids are older, they will be able to understand that you are unhappy. No one can change things, but you.
2007-08-17 12:36:42 · answer #3 · answered by tutis000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with your wife and explain this all to her, tell her your sorry and try to work things out with the kids.
I know you love your kids but if your not happy with your wife and you don't want to spend the rest of your life that way then do something about it. Just make sure you get the right to see your kids.
2007-08-17 11:50:59 · answer #4 · answered by Tasha 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have hung in there this long...stick it out for a few more years until the youngest is 18. If you leave, you ARE leaving your kids. You won't be raising them and they love you and want to be with you. You OWE it to your children to keep the family unit together. AFter the youngest grads hi school and you don't have the energy to work on it... then go for it. You really should try talking to her, it could be something that you could work on and get that spark back. For your kids, it is worth a try.
2007-08-17 12:09:02 · answer #5 · answered by hooahwife 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're a self-centered schmuck! You should have left years ago. By staying you've deprived you'r wife of any potential love and happiness she may have known without. As far the kids, it's just as damaging emotionally to grow up in a love less marriage.
2007-08-17 11:51:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That sounds so sad. Leave her if it makes you happier. She probably is thinking the same, iust to wait for the right moments to say it. Tell your kids that you love them, your marriage doesn't work, but you will be around for your kids. You are only leaving your wife, not your kids. Any chance you may be able to get custodian right?
2007-08-17 12:02:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife gave birth to those kids you love. She is a part of them. To love them is to love her.
It sounds like you are in general unhappy with life. I think you need to find a greater purpose and find fulfillment through that and the rest of your life will fall into place. I promise.
God bless you and your family!
2007-08-17 14:29:09 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah Jaye 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Terri R. If you've never been happy in 18 years of marriage - why on earth did you wait after all this time..
2007-08-17 12:27:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your not happy then why dont you leave...explain this to your wife...just be honest and tell her that you dont want to be married anymore...she might understand and feel the same way...i wish you the best of luck!!!
2007-08-17 11:50:45 · answer #10 · answered by MiZz SaAk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you go to marriage counciler maybe their's a deeper reason on the way you feel and if worse comes to worse divorce her.
2007-08-17 11:51:12 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋