What is the point in love?

Question

I undersand you can fall in love more than once... then I wonder, what is the point?

Is it just to enjoy the illusion of the moment that everything is good and fine, with your special someone beside you? Then when its over, you move on and keep looking for that special moment again?

What is the POINT! Why do we have this desire for love when it ultimatly ends in tears?

Answer 1

It's a learning experience. Your continuing to learn qualities you like and don't like in the individual. At first everyone shows the "good/best" side, then as you really get to know them you might come to realize that she is not the person you want to spend the rest of your life. So you move on ...searching for that special someone. Lets say this girl is very outgoing and fun and your drawn to her excitement and she is fun to be around...then over time you notice that when you have something serious to talk she doesn't take it seriously and you noticed the fun starts to fade away. You also realize that there are things that really divide you where early on you would not have seen it. So, you move on to someone who is fun but also have meaningful conversation with...and so it goes. As you get older you will change a lot yourself and so will the things you want in your wife to be. Hope this helps!

Answer 2

I feel the same
I had a conversation earlier today about the same thing
what's the point in relationships?You only end up getting cheated on or whatever else goes wrong, even when you feel you have done everything you thought possible to work on the relationship.
at the same time I hope I dont end up alone
I do still hope I meet the right guy one day and we do fall in love & stay together
you sound like you're at the end of your rope
believe me I am too
but theres always a glimmer of hope
dont give up
I think if a relationship breaks down it's meant to
opening the door for better things to come to you
I hope that happens
for both of us!!

Answer 3

Not all relationships "ultimately end in tears." It depends on the people involved. We were all born with the desire to love and be loved. People fall in love for various reasons, if we take the time to know ourselves and what we want in a partner we have a better chance of having a successful relationship. As far as your question of what's the point, that's different for everyone. For me it's to share my life and experiences with the man I love. To make memories and grow old together. To raise a family and be HAPPY.

I would rather have the desire to love and it not work out than not ever having the desire to love at all.

Many times when we leave a relationship that didn't work out, or are in a bad relationship we begin to doubt the power of love in our lives. Love should not be about what we get out of the relationship, but about what we can put into it. As with all things in life it takes hard work and commitment to make it work.

I hope you find someone that will help you answer that question for yourself!!!!

Answer 4

It doesn't ultimately end in tears if you make wise choices about love. Many people mistake a lot of feelings for love, invest their everything in someone they don't know, and end up dumbfounded as to why they're not happy soon after. Others equate physical intimacy with love, "fall" in "love", jump in bed, fall out of bed, and fall out of "love". Some fall very slowly, worried about getting hurt like they did when they tried those last two methods, thus building up walls, then get hurt when the other person can't understand why they don't trust them, get fed up and leave.

Then there are a few who grow to love, cherish, honor, respect, and care for someone more than they love, cherish, honor, respect or care for themselves. They allow this friendship and love to grow, and eventually decide they want to spend the rest of their lives investing in this friendship and love. They get married, and for the rest of their lives they honor their wedding vows, honor each other, trust each other, prove each other's trust, grow together as people, work as a team, forgive and forget, and never consider divorce an option. These people live full lives together, loving more than they ever dreamed possible, and even when they do find themselves in tears, when their best friend and life partner has died...they have so much love to look back on and smile. That is well worth giving someone your everything for.

Answer 5

tru love with the right person is what makes the point! In life many people spend too much time with "the wrong one" while their perfect match is still out there waiting to be found. If a relationship brings you more tears than smiles...it is definitely not the one who deserves the rest of your life.love is only great when it is with the right person to share it. There is only ONE SPECIAL Someone!

Answer 6

Not quite sure if it's on point, but I have a good friend who spent his whole life looking for what you have just mentioned... love, love, love, whenever the previous one lost its initial shine/appeal. Now he is alone.
Love is that initial stage that has to lead up to a union or else it is pointless and will lead to nothing. So, yes, a continuing sequence of initial love leads you nowhere

Answer 7

Peace

Answer 8

i've only loved one guy and ive been married to him for 12 yrs...so i dont know what its like to love someone and move on to the next...i do know if something should happen between my husband and me...it would take me a long time to try to find love again if i even do!!!

Answer 9

Yea...I see what your saying but....I think it is possible to Love & then to Love again!

We search for Love because it makes us feel good! I personally love to feel 'loved'

What is the point of love you ask??...... Love Makes The World Go Round

I think love IS one of those hard to answer, complicated questions like....... when did the world begin??

Love just........ IS

Answer 10

with that negative attitude you are going to be lonely, you just havent found the one you are meant to be with, when you do you feel so go inside there is no other feeling and then you will realize it was all worth it.