I have a friend who I have had feelings for for ages, but, as he was married when we first met, I never acted on them or expected him to feel anything for me.
He is now separated and moving towards divorce. At first he was upset, but now talks positively about his plans for moving house, travel and work changes. Since feeling better, he's also contacted me very regularly (almost every day over the past few weeks) and we are planning on meeting up in a few weeks for a weekend together.
When we are together, he stares a lot and I often catch him looking when I am doing other things. He is also very compliamentry - tells me I am smart, hard-working, full of life, etc.
We have a lot in common - more with him than any of my other friends. All this, despite the fact that he is 45 and I am 23.
From this information (I know, not a lot to go on), do you think he likes me? I'm a little overweight, but have an OK face & don't dress particularly sexually - just jeans with dresses, etc.
2007-08-17 11:18:57 · 12 answers · asked by Kirralilly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Could be he likes you.
Overweight has absolutely nothing to do with whether or not a man thinks you are attractive. I myself am a little "overweight" though I think "curvy" or "healthy" or "thick" are much better words and I too have MANY guys check me out, whistle at me, smile, everything. It is all a matter of confidence. Confidence is the difference between a really skinny girl hunching over in a one piece and a slightly overweight one flaunting what she has in a bikini and I can bet that the majority of guys will check out the one in the bikini and say "damn shes sexy".
Being still technically married though I would proceed with caution.
From what you have said he tells you would make me think he sees you more as a friend then anything else just based on what he actually says. If he has said things like "you have a cute laugh" "you have beautiful eyes" or something to that nature I would say he definately was interested but only you can truly know how he acts around you.
Just give it some time and see how things progress but take my advice and wait until he is officially off the market so you don't have to worry about being the "homewrecker".
Good luck!
2007-08-17 11:30:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 13:18:12 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he might be attracted to you. Be careful of men who are not yet divorced, especially the young ones. People going through a huge life change are often vulnerable and may act on things they might not normally act upon. Not to say anything bad about you...it's just that you might be setting your self up for disappointment. And, really come on...you could be his MOM! What would come of it??? Maybe a good role in sack, but is there really a future for you with him?
2007-08-17 11:34:16 · answer #3 · answered by Yumyum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he likes you but you should just stay friends until the divorce goes threw , meanwhile you should get to know him and see what he's like. Because he has already been married he my want different things then you. if he already has children he may not want any more and I'm assuming you are young and do want children . so find out more about him to see if you have things in common and want similar things from a relationship.
BTW: my sister just went threw a similar situation. she's 30 and the guy was 56 and said he was separated from his wife and they dated and he got what he wanted, broke up with her and went back to his wife and children.
2007-08-17 11:29:50 · answer #4 · answered by Greeneyed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u say u r goin to be seing him at the weekend so why do u test him and look out for the tell tail signs like his body language is their flirtaseous behaviour with you? Do they
find excuses to touch you, stand close, compliment you repeatedly onyour appearance? Do their pupils dialate when they see you? get them to touch ur hand by passing him something and hold it in a way that makes it difficult for them to take it without your hands touching. if he touches bk he likes u if there is distance then he dont he just likes u as a friend
2007-08-19 00:35:28 · answer #5 · answered by julie w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, the signs appear to be positive. HOWEVER be careful. Love/marriage on the rebound seldom lasts. He has to clear himself (so to speak) of the previous relationship before he can start another -- FOR YOUR SAKE.
Age-wise, 22 years difference is way too but then, who are we to comment on that ?
2007-08-17 11:28:34 · answer #6 · answered by RED-CHROME 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes your friend may have feelings for you as he has spent a loy of time with you and has seen your personality shine thru. however this may is just going thru a divorce and he may be looking some affection as he is feeling vulnerable so watch out as he may be on the rebound.
2007-08-18 06:46:44 · answer #7 · answered by butter436@btinternet.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not to be funny but have u guys have sex yet??? if not r u sure that's not all he is after??? he did just get out of a marriage and he might not be ready for another relationship so fast...u might be putting ur heart on ur sleeve and he could just be making u feel comfortable enough to get u in bed...
2007-08-17 11:25:26 · answer #8 · answered by S.O.S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well either that or he just need a friend that needs to be with him and forget bout this other lady
but mostly i think he loves you because of the compliments
2007-08-17 12:11:54 · answer #9 · answered by DaisysMumma13 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter whether he does or not.
Until the divorce is final, anything he does can be used against him by his wife. He has no business dating someone, who can potentially be dragged into a nasty court battle.
2007-08-17 11:22:26 · answer #10 · answered by Jarien 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋