if both partners want it are threesome ok?

Question

my wife and i want a threeway (mmw) with a black man we are white we both had them befor just not with each other and befor we were together we would like to share the fun been together 7 years

Answer 1

Why does it have to be with a black man? So you can call the police afterwards and get him locked up for rape? That's one too many ding-a-lings in the same bed if you ask me anyway.

Answer 2

I am constantly amazed how people can judge others behavior without all the facts. Yes, a threesome can cause problems in a marriage. a lot depends on the reason either desires one. It also can cause NO problems if each understands the why, and possible consequences. Just because a couple has a threesome doesn't automatically mean problems!
I've been in many threesomes with my wife and there has never been a problem. We've always done it with close friends who we know well without an agenda of spliting us up.
We communicate feelings, emotions, and concerns before, during and after. The sexual, erotic feelings and emotions are increased when we share our love and persons with a close friend. We've been married for over thirty years, just to each other and never divorced. We separate love for each other from love for a friend whom we play with. We don't own each other. We recognize that we work each day to want to live with each other and not leave. That leaving is always a preogotive.
I'm sure this answer will make some livid but to each his own. We choose to live our lives as we desire rather then by society's or religions rules. We are much less guilt ridden or anxious as to what others will think.

Answer 3

Just be careful. Some relationships can not handle this type of infidelity, even when both partners say they want it. Frankly, you are playing with fire. Do not go through with it unless you are willing to pay the consequences, which could very well mean you don't spend another seven years together. By the way, true love doesn't need a third party in the bed.

Answer 4

Hey to each his own, if that's what you two are into then I say go for it :)

I think that's great that you two are that comfortable and secure in your relationship. I myself can't say that much, which is odd because I am open to the idea...and yet I find that I have some jealous feelings about my guy doing things with another girl....why do you suppose that is? I guess if my guy paid more attention to me and not the other girl, I wouldn't be so weird about, in fact, I would rather be all over the girl then have my guy on her. You know?

.Well I think it's ok, just as long as you two are certain that's what you want.

.Have fun and enjoy yourselves.

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Answer 5

Of course its ok. Just be sure that it IS what you both want and have discussed the possible negatives, jealousies etc before hand. I'd also suggest having those discussions outside the hormonally charged marriage bed. Have fun with it and make sure you work it so that it makes you closer as a couple.

Answer 6

If that is what you both want, then more power to you. Threesomes are never okay....it's not staying committed to your vows to be monotomous to one another.

I have seen many marriages fall apart due to this kind of lifestyle, but as my hubby says...if you can't listen, you can feel.

I really hope that you think long and hard about this...as there is no turning back once you've started. Is this REALLY want you want for your marriage??

Answer 7

There really isn't anything wrong with having a 3some at the time.
It's the problems that it can cause afterwards.
Think about this,
What if your wife enjoys sex with him more?
Then what?
Say she starts wanting the 3some more and more.
Aren't you going to feel inadequate?
Do you really want to set yourself up for these possibilities?
Just something for you to think about ;)

Answer 8

it's not something you'll go bragging to your co-workers about (unless you have close friendships with them) however if it's what you both want, then there's nothing wrong with it. it's also not about what other people want, it's all about you and your wife. make yourselves happy. this only concerns you, no one else (except the third person of course).

Answer 9

No, it's not okay! You know it isn't okay or you wouldn't be asking. Unless of course, this is just an avenue of seeing if someone will want to take you up on your offer

Answer 10

7 yrs might end three somes brings up issues and diffrent thoughts she might want to change the partners ofter this