Hi Iam 20 years old have a 6 month baby, my husband is 23, anyway I know my husband for 2 years now, we lived together for about 3 months then he moved in with me, the thing is that I wanted to met his mother after we knew each other for a while! but she was always making excuses, so I stop, then I got pregnant when I was 3 months she finally said to go over to her house when we got there I was nervous, we seat and eat everybody in the table were talking but they never said one word to me, not even how was my pregnancy going, I felt pretty offended I went home thinking that they didnt want me, I told my
husband how I felt he told me that hes mom changed since she got married to another man, his step- father and that all she does is listen to him, and never care about him anymore! since my daughter was born they havent give her a thing! and she's her first grand daughter, then his step fathers son lives there with his GF there so fake,my mother in law talkingabout me with the gf
I can not believe how they're, they always want to come between this marriage, they think that Im the bad person, cause whenever is the weekend and I dont feel like going to there house they think that I control him, but the truth is that my husband never wants to go there if Iam not ther with him, He loves me more then anything and I do too, she. The sep father has son and my mother in law is always talking to him so nice and to his Gf too, she treat him better then my husband and she talks to her more then me! everytime I go there I go thinking that things will be better, Im always nice to them, but they just dont want to open up
with me! now I dont even want to see them anynmore, only my mother in law cause I believe she has the right to see her grand dauhgter but the other people I dont care! Do you think I should see them, after them not giving my dauhter a thing?
they never want to comet to my house cause we live with my parents, and what I hate about my husband is that he never talks to her, he never tell her how he feel after all this years, they're just too
apart from each other! I dont know what to do! Help me please!
2007-08-17 10:52:22 · 8 answers · asked by Ursula M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is a very confussing family and i dont think that i would want my child around them they are not functional family at all but sick one. She doesnt appear to like her son very much and i would not hang around these people.
best of luck
2007-08-17 10:59:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is probably just as confused as you are. Stop playing the hand they are dealing you. Tell your mother in law that you will no longer put up with this rude behavior. Do this for the sake of your child. Hopefully your husband will be man enough to do this with you. Then get on with your lives and forget about them. If they really care about your husband, you and your child, they will start coming around and behaving better. Do not let them ruin your life or the life of your family. If you need to, see a family therapist and get your husband to go.
2007-08-17 11:04:12 · answer #2 · answered by jules 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is your husband taking sides? You MIL can't "ruin" your marriage unless you two let her. Your husband should support you, and if his mother chooses to ignore you - well, so be it, you guys should ignore her in turn. Focus on each other and your baby. Yes, it would be nice if the whole family got along, but people come in all shapes and sizes. Make sure that there's peace between you and your husband, and everyone else can dance to their own tune.
2007-08-17 11:00:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like your husband puts you first over his family - that is great, and something to b really thankful for. As for your mother - in- law, as long as your husband is happy to not see her very often, see if there is an older couple in your church who would be happy to 'adopt' your daughter as a granddaughter - then she can have the doating grandparents - and just see your MIL infrequently - if she doesn't care to see her - don't bother!
Good luck with it all, and take heart that it is not unusual for a MIL not to care about her DIL - and you just have to look elsewhere for the love you desire
2007-08-17 11:08:36 · answer #4 · answered by mumontherun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay well, when I was married I had a similar situation. Actually we did get divorced because of my mother-in-law. See she wanted to be in the middle of everything. Every weekend we were expected to go to her house friday night after work and stay till sunday evening. This got on my nerves. My husband couldn't do anything without her permission and he would talk to her instead of me about major decisions in OUR life. I tried for very long to please her and him and to keep my mouth shut. Finally, one day I was going to do our taxes. I asked my husband for his w-2's and he said no that his mom was doing our taxes. I told him his mom was not getting her hands on my tax stuff. He ended up leaving and we decided to divorce soon after that.
The problem with interfering mother-in-laws or father-in-laws is that you can't get rid of them. If your husband will not stand up for you, then the only choice left is for you to stand up for yourself. That could cause problems too. If your husband will do nothing about it then I don't see how it could possibly be worked out. They do need to respect you and it is wrong for them to shun your child. That is their grandchild. I would suggest sitting down and talking to your husband one more time and telling him either he needs to do something about it or you will. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-08-17 11:11:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure they are very upset that their son knocked you up. You are too young to have a child, and it was out of wedlock. They are right not to respect you, and they probably never will. Sorry that the truth hurts, but you need to make better decisions in your life.
2007-08-17 10:56:45 · answer #6 · answered by sanguis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, Sanguis, your wrong to throw ur religion into this. She is 20 years old, which is plenty old enough to have child. And it doesn't matter if the child is out wedlock as long as parents love him/her.
Don't pay any attention to his parents just raise your child to be a good person and you shouldn't worry about what everyone else thinks. Just be good to your baby, THAT'S WHAT IS IMPORTANT NOT PERSONAL VENDETTA.
2007-08-17 15:56:59 · answer #7 · answered by Brandon H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple, don't visit them
since you live by yourself with your husband and he agree that they are a pain the butt, just don't visit them, when they call and tell you to go over to their place, tell them you are busy .
Go to your parent house where you feel wanted
2007-08-17 10:59:23 · answer #8 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋