My mother in law been controled by her husband and doesnt accept our marrige! what can I do?

Question

Hi Iam 20 years old have a 6 month baby, my husband is 23, anyway I know my husband for 2 years now, we lived together for about 3 months then he moved in with me, the thing is that I wanted to met his mother after we knew each other for a while! but she was always making excuses, so I stop, then I got pregnant when I was 3 months she finally said to go over to her house when we got there I was nervous, we seat and eat everybody in the table were talking but they never said one word to me, not even how was my pregnancy going, I felt pretty offended I went home thinking that they didnt want me, I told my
husband how I felt he told me that hes mom changed since she got married to another man, his step- father and that all she does is listen to him, and never care about him anymore! since my daughter was born they havent give her a thing! and she's her first grand daughter, then his step fathers son lives there with his GF there so fake,my mother in law talkingabout me with the gf




I can not believe how they're, they always want to come between this marriage, they think that Im the bad person, cause whenever is the weekend and I dont feel like going to there house they think that I control him, but the truth is that my husband never wants to go there if Iam not ther with him, He loves me more then anything and I do too, she. The sep father has son and my mother in law is always talking to him so nice and to his Gf too, she treat him better then my husband and she talks to her more then me! everytime I go there I go thinking that things will be better, Im always nice to them, but they just dont want to open up
with me! now I dont even want to see them anynmore, only my mother in law cause I believe she has the right to see her grand dauhgter but the other people I dont care! Do you think I should see them, after them not giving my dauhter a thing?


they never want to comet to my house cause we live with my parents, and what I hate about my husband is that he never talks to her, he never tell her how he feel after all this years, they're just too
apart from each other! I dont know what to do! Help me please!

Answer 1

your not alone.I'm on your side.they think I'm bad too.they invite''us''but i know they only want to see him.and he says no because he is working or he has to check with me(hate when he says that it seems like i say no)our son is 2 and have not gotten to know him or me.im sick of it.im finally going to confront his mom this Tuesday about her feelings towards me.good luck.you really could only care for your baby and love your life.but remember you are not alone.

Answer 2

I know I will have this problem (don't get me started on my MIL). 1. She said he has cousins name john that are either unstable of in a psycho ward (she sounds kind of unstable too BUT). Tell her so what? I bet their are hundreds of people with different names in wards, (most likely some with her name too) are you supposed to ignore all those names too? 2. She says there's a killer with the name johnathon. Again so what, their are thousands of killers out there with thousands of different names (again probably including her name). If you both like the name, then there should be no problem, tell him that his mom can not have her way, she has no control over either of you, or she shouldn't anyways. Both of you cannot live your lives to please her, if you don't put your foot down, this is never going to end. Of course parents will always have something to say about names, births, circumcision, food, formula, breastfeeding, clothes, discipline, diapering, potty training, cribs, toys, etc the list goes ON and ON!, but you and the father of your child need to make the decisions on what you like and what you think is best. Tell him to grow a backbone.