I have this ex, (don't we all) and my family and I invited him and his family to our son's football game, but he will not come because we will all be there, he says we should take turns going, but I don't want to miss any of his games, it would break our son's heart, do I give in and let him go, or do I go anyways and let him deal with his problems his self?
2007-08-17 10:18:17 · 17 answers · asked by Life should come w/ instructions 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
let him deal with his own problems. there are always enough parents and enough field for either party to be far enough of each other.
as soon as my son is into sports, his father will be getting a copy of his game schedules. it will be his decision to show up. as long as he doesn't try to sit next to me and my husband.
2007-08-17 10:28:29 · answer #1 · answered by Isabella S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off where do you get off thinking it's your role to invite him and his family? They can come as they wish you don't own the football field. I do agree you shouldn't miss any of your sons games......ever. The Ex needs to know he can go to any game at any time no matter who's there. He can't tell you not to go and the same goes for you, Good Luck
2007-08-17 17:25:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that would keep me from seeing one of my son's games (if he did sports) would be me being sick in bed. If he's going to do the childish "I'm not going if they are there"thing, then he needs to grow up and become the manly father he is supposed to be. Nobody said that he had to sit with everyone in the family, did they? What would be so hard for each "side" to be on opposite sides of the bleachers?
2007-08-17 17:26:25 · answer #3 · answered by wh_pirate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should have to stop going. If your ex doesn't want to mingle with your family thats fair enough, but that surely doesn't stop them going to support your son separately does it?
You should continue to let your ex know when the matches are and make sure your son knows that his father knows - then it;s down to him.
2007-08-17 17:24:57 · answer #4 · answered by bri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your ex when the games will be held and let him decide whether or not he wants to come. You should not have to miss out on your son's games because your ex is socially inept.
2007-08-17 17:25:29 · answer #5 · answered by la buena bruja 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him that you understand his discomfort, but that the best thing for your son is to have both his parents there supporting him. Even if you guys have to coordinate where you sit, so you're at opposite ends of the bleachers/field, I'm betting your son will be happier if both are there than taking turns.
2007-08-17 17:25:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a divorced adult I can say first hand that your ex has to grow up! It's not about you or him it is about your son. You go and if he is foolish enough to stay away, then it is "your sons loss" and it is your exs' fault! Once in a life time events are to precious to lose!
2007-08-17 17:28:18 · answer #7 · answered by maur911 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U answered the question. Go to ur sons games and let the turd come if he wants to or wallow in his pitiness. Either way u could care less.
2007-08-17 17:22:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Let him deal with his own problems,but, he is only hurting you'r son.If that's how he's going to act, maybe he doesn't need to be there, keep doing what you know is best for you'r son, he will always respect you for it
2007-08-17 17:33:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you go..and be the constant in your son's life, since your ex seems to immature to manage that!
2007-08-17 17:24:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋