2007-08-17 10:04:58 · 18 answers · asked by Marolua 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have this same problem, only with my girlfriend. I am definately the clean one in the relationship. She gets everything wet all over the place and then doesn't even try to clean it up. But I love her and so I do what all of us neat freaks have to do and just live with the situation. It is important to accept our lover for who they are, and we are lucky if it is just in the closet and not anywhere else.
To sum up, to get your boyfriend to clean his side of the closet, you should not want it to happen. He'll hit his own breaking point and it will be clean.
2007-08-17 10:10:35 · answer #1 · answered by C.S. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't "make" your beloved do something. They are the way they are. Some people are messy with clothes and tidy with food, or messy in their car and tidy everywhere else.
If it bothers you that he leaves the closet a mess, you have 3 alternatives: 1) clean it up yourself, 2) tell him why you want the closet clean and that you need his help to keep it organized and safe, 3) get used to the fact that his side of the closet will always be a disaster.
You have to trust that if it's a big enough deal for you, he'll step up. If he does, then great! If he doesn't, you still have options 1 and 3.
Good luck--
2007-08-17 17:16:07 · answer #2 · answered by KD 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, I've been there. My husband is a complete slob--always has been. Never changes.
You can do 3 things:
1) Talk to him about it--maybe it'll get done NOW but it'll take awhile to become a habit
2) Do a clean of the closet as a whole -- organized may be easier for him.
3) Do it yourself
In the long run you have to ask yourself: "Is this worth it to fight about?"
2007-08-17 17:12:08 · answer #3 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A couple of suggestions: 1) I know it is probably incredibly annoying but just try to ignore it. As someone said previously, there will come a time when even he can't stand it anymore because he can't find anything. 2) Or it could be the case that the mess is just too overwhelming to him/he doesn't know how to sort it all out and he needs your guidance/help to get it done. Smile sweetly, say "sweetheart, perhaps we should clean this up together then it will be easier for you to find your stuff."
2007-08-17 17:50:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave ur side looking like crap and make sure it starts getting to the point where he can't find his stuff and then when he starts complaining u guys can clean up together and decide together that u guys should try to keep it like that...don't let him know that he's the slob make it seem like it's both u guys so he won't feel like ur blaming him for the messy closet...guys tend to get a lil mad when they have to take all the blame for something!!!
2007-08-17 17:12:00 · answer #5 · answered by S.O.S 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't make him, so don't try. Take care of your things. When he can't find a clean shirt or his shoes, he will start picking up after himself. If his stuff falls over or gets tossed over to your side of the closet, pick them up and throw them in a basket, box or whatever and sit it back on his side. Tell him you are going to do this. When he asks you if you have seen his favorite shirt or his other shoe, tell him to check the box. He will eventually grow up enough to take care of his own stuff.
2007-08-17 17:16:00 · answer #6 · answered by jules 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't make him ~ but YOU can clean it! Tell him if he doesn't have it cleaned up in, say, a week or so (give him a specific date) then you'll do if for him! But remind him what you see fitting for the trash could end up there.
2007-08-17 17:13:55 · answer #7 · answered by Jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Intentionally hide some of his favorite things constantly until he realizes that if he cleans it he wont mis place things you have to be slick enough to put it back so he could find it under all that mess but not until he's started cleaning it up act like your helping him and stick it in for him to find.
2007-08-17 17:12:17 · answer #8 · answered by laflaca 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Anything that is not hung up, folded or put away and just laying on the floor, put it in a garbage bag and set it by the door where you take out the trash. When he goes looking for that favorite shirt that was laying in a pile on the floor and comes asking for it, just tell him... "I thought all that stuff on the floor was garbage and I just bagged it up to take to the trash. Did you want it? I figured if you wanted it or wanted to keep it, you would hang it up or put it away."
2007-08-17 17:10:13 · answer #9 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my b/f the same way hes so dirty he woun't put anything away , but when laundry is done i ask him to help me fold it but he won't put it away just make a deal with him . oh and my b/f he so clean about hos ****** xbox bull **** but when it comes to clean he is so nasty dam that pisses me the hell off
2007-08-17 17:15:14 · answer #10 · answered by Aww 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋