Has anyone stayed with a cheating husband for money?

Question

We have been separated two years and I am not happy, but have two beautiful children. He is a self-centered man, but has a kind heart. I am just not 'in-love' anymore after all the deception. He owns a business and pays my bills, I own a business, too, which will pay my bills when our tourist season starts. Anyone else feel the hopelessness? I have worked hard all my life, but fear losing everything if I walk away for good. I have thought of getting a second job, but I really can't afford to be away from the kids any longer than I am. He works 7 days a week right now. Not really a question on advice, but just is anyone else going through the agony of staying for money?

oh, he says he and her broke up. (But he's lied before)

Answer 1

if you want to stay with him for money that's you but your kids pick up on things even when you think they don't know, you don't want someone to do your kids the way he's doing you.

Answer 2

You dont have to live this way and for a change he can work 2 jobs to take care of you and your kids. Alimoney and child support. Not to mention based on adultry you have it all in the bag. Get a lawyer and start doing the things you want to do. He can pay for both the lawyers. If there is nothing there and the kids see your unhappiness is that really healthy too? You dont have to stay for the money. You can get the money and be happy. Let him fret for a while sound to me like you have taken more then you deserve from this cheater.Its not worth it my mother did it more than once and realized it did more damage then good. Why live in agony, you only live once.

Answer 3

As long as you are getting money to live with him, why not live with him? If you leave, the other woman has won his money as well as the rest of his money that he will earn in the future. Hang on and let him pay the bills, you deserve it and you will not find it easy to exist on your own if you end up with nothing after a divorce. He is not working 7 days a week, because he is spending time and money on this woman also. You have to make up your mind and decide whether you can put up with this nonsense, and if I were you and you have children involved, I would hang on and let him do as he pleases and take his lousy money with a smile. Be careful, don't let the other woman walk away with everything you want and need.

Answer 4

Yes. Have been married for 15 years, but unhappy. Had to leave my hometown to marry. Husband didn't want me to work. Now I'm very dependent on him and don't know how to get back out into the working field. Have two wonderful kids in the young teen years. Currently I'm looking into divorce or separation. Kids are aware of marital problems also. Have stayed for money too long and don't care to do this any longer. Yes it is a very agonizing situation.

Answer 5

It’s a tough situation. When you are able to leave mentally you will. I left my first hubby after not being in love and beggin him to go into counseling for 1 year after we had out 2nd child. At that time i was a stay at home mom with a 1 year old and a 3 year old and was scared to death to be on my own for the money and just knowing that the stability was there. You may think that you cant afford to be on your own but its funny how you can do things if you have to. I got a better job asked family to help out with free babysitting until they were in school full time. If you are staying for the kids please understand that children hear and see much more than we think, even if you aren’t saying you are unhappy and not in love they feel it. When i left i did it for the kids, it sounds strange but its true, i couldn’t leave for me but i could for them. They knew i was unhappy and sad and i wanted them to see a happy mama as well as seeing a healthy relationship instead of one where i was "stuck". I wanted my daughter to know she deserved to be loved and happy with her man and how could she if she saw her mother unhappy. It was the best for all of us - i am still friends with my ex husband, i am re married to a wonderful man that my children absolutely love and they get to see me happy and in love. They also get to see me being loved and respected from a man and that is very important.

Answer 6

At times do you feel happy?
I used to be poor as dirt and my now husband married me and put me in a new bmw plus gives my son everything.

I stay for financial reason but not only for that. I care for him. For someone to love me enough to not care I have no college degree and he doesn't judge me though he has a huge company and makes very well to say the least.

I have come across the thought of if we weren't together but if that were to happen it would not be because of me! To have financial stability and also a person to care for me are two very nice things to have in the world we live in.

I don't know how I would feel about the cheating. I guess what really makes me care for my man isn't the fact he is nice looking and rich but that he only loves me.. That is the factor that makes you feel special and stand out from others.

Answer 7

Divorce is ugly, but you need to move on. Money will come and I am sure if you get the divorce while you are still getting along, you can get enough from him to make it through. Don't think it doesn't hurt your children to see you unhappy. How can a self-centered man, have a kind heart? Kind heart towards himself? Confusing. Make the move. That way you and your children can start to heal. Good luck.

Answer 8

I stayed because he was our only provider he to owned his own business and I helped do all the paper work, payroll , scheduling etc.. from our home. we have four kids and I didn't believe for a second that I could make it with out him. been two years and Now I am on my own with these kids and working long hours away from them but it puts food on the table and a roof over their pretty lil heads ... you can move on just have to be strong and make it work for you. I don't even get childsupport but that will help you if you leave i am pursuing it soon my self.

Answer 9

He may have broken up with her. But did he say why it happened?
Some men just grow out of the cheating lifestyle. Others get old and tired. Others gets slapped in the face a lot after awhile.
You may be 'out of love' with him but you two could try again. There are ups and downs with or without cheating. Your kids are the glue that holds you two together.

Answer 10

enable me inform you something you dont understand why those female stay with adult adult males who cheat on them. there is often something that makes them stay some say the toddlers others say they have no money or kin to assist them. they might even nevertheless be in love with them hoping that they are going to alter. You have been between the fortunate ones to have a kin that replaced into there for you once you mandatory them. The believe heavily isn't there lower back you spot forgivness begans in the heart and as quickly as you forgive somebody out of your heart if theres of venture for that individual to straighten up then the marriage can paintings. yet i dont think of i might desire to stay with somebody who i couldnt believe so its very puzzling.

Answer 11

I stayed with my x too long just because of financial needs, I finally worked up the nerve to leave over 2 years ago. it's been really tough but I don't regret it. Good Luck!!! some people may give you flack about it but when you have children, you have to be able to care for them.