Accidentally stumbled across some information that equates to my brother-in-law cheating on his wife (they have 3 young children). He has 3 mistresses in 3 different states (he travelsf or work). And one of them, he has booked a long weekend trip to Aruba in november.
Anyways, I need some advice on how to handle. Tell my wife (his sister)? Go straight to him? Confront the women (i have their email addresses)? Address his wife?
Thanx in advance.
2007-08-17 09:24:45 · 16 answers · asked by layin_the_smackdownnn 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Stay out of it altogether. It's none of your business.
2007-08-17 09:34:50 · answer #1 · answered by Handsome Stranger 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would maybe bring up it up to your wife - see what she says (but that depends, maybe she'll freak out and it will turn into some big ugly scene where someone gets hurt PHYSICALLY).... but beware, you're going to be opening up a HUGE can of worms. Maybe you should consider the consequences before you go getting involved in this very sticky situation.
LOL! Look at all the men saying 'mind your own business!' Is that some unwritten man rule or something? Eventhough I sort of said the same thing.
2007-08-17 09:31:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOL. How in the HELL did you stumble across all THAT info? You were more like Inspector Gadget. Anyways, I'd go to him first and foremost. Confront him with your evidence. If he does not admit to his wrongdoings, I would then talk to your wife about it. Don't tell his wife at this moment. You really don't know everything that's going on in their lives.
Good luck.
2007-08-17 09:32:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, he's your brother-in-law. Before you become a buttinsky, talk to your wife, his actual SISTER, who may be able to make more substantial headway than you, being just an "in-law" yourself. Then, I would suggest, you leave it at that. Unless you've become your brother-in-law's new best friend and confidante, he might not be inclined to take a rebuke from you on his behavior. Whereas family input tends to carry a bit more weight emotionally. And then again, that depends on his relationship with his family.
2007-08-17 09:42:42 · answer #4 · answered by dangerouspoet 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take her to a quiet place and tell her what you have found. Explain how you found it, and anything you've done with it. Be sure you understand that you are the messenger, so just deliver the message. Afterwords, offer to take her children for the evening so that she can discuss this with him. There's always a 1% cChance that you've uncovered something Innocent, although it sounds like it the real deal.
2007-08-17 09:34:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He should be held accountable, so I don't think it really matters in what order you tell people. My advice: speak to your wife first. You two can discuss the situation and how you would like to proceed. Be prepared to handle the consequences. Things will likely get very unpleasant.
Good luck.
2007-08-17 09:35:29 · answer #6 · answered by rod85 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If someone knew my husband was cheating on me, I'd want to know. I believe you would to and so would the men who said stay out of it. I think you should confront him about it to see what his excuse is in case it is nothing, you don't want to hurt her over nothing and put doubt in her mind. Talk to your wife and see what she has to say, this may be something that has hap pend before...
2007-08-17 09:41:32 · answer #7 · answered by laceyluedwards 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first instinct is to stay out of it. You could try talking to your wife about it and get her take on what should be done. She's known him all her life and might be a good judge of how to handle it. I wouldn't go to his wife, no way.
Good luck!
2007-08-17 09:32:56 · answer #8 · answered by mamarat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him he has one week to tell her himself, otherwise you will. I would tell your wife as well, but tell her how you are handling it. Don't bother confronting the women they may not care! I think his wife deserves to know this one way or another
2007-08-17 09:44:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have his wife force herself on his vacation to aruba.
But you will have to tell her why.
HAve the divorce papers drawn up and then fly them to aruba
2007-08-17 09:37:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Confront him. Tell him its wrong and give him a choice. Starighten his act up, or you go to his wife.
The Rat
2007-08-17 09:35:47 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋