do i walk away from my daughter?

Question

please give me some advise, i split with my ex 12 months ago in 12 months she as stopped me from seeing our daughter 6 times , ive been to court and court order in place but shes broke it 2 times its cost me loads of money now im broke, i have to pay my solicitor she gets it free , iv made 1 last attempt to sort this with my solicitor but i can not go back to court iv no money left all this is over i have to work and sometimes i can not pick her up when court order says ,sometimes later some time early but i always tell her then its well dont borther picking her up,yes there as been a lot of arguments on both sides and it always ends up in me not seeing her i feel like im in a no win situation and shes just using our daughter to get back at me , its been a month since i last saw her and the hurt is so much i feel like im dieing inside the pain of not seeing her is so bad , but what of the pain shes feeling ? i can not let her mum keep doing this to her shes only 3 as much as it hurts

Answer 1

Do whatever it takes. Even if it means standing out front of her house for hours ringing the doorbell on the days you are suposed to pick her up. You need to tell your work that you HAVE to have these days off so you can spend it with your daighter.

Answer 2

What is your solicitor doing about your ex breaking court orders? She is behaving like a spoilt brat, has no respect for either her child or the law. Could you represent yourself in court?
She absolutely is using your daughter as a weapon - when I split with my husband many years ago, we both agreed on one thing; the kids could see him whenever he or they wanted, which was sometimes every day! Although we fought terribly, and wanted to hurt each other, the kids always saw theri dad, always had overnights or weekends with him...their dad stayed an important figure in their lives, which is how it should be.
Send your daughter little cards, little presents; if you are not sure that she will be allowed them, could you get a trusted mutual friend to deliver them? I feel very sad for you, it is a terrible thing to deprive a child of a loving parent. Don't walk away from her; she will need you. She won't always be small, and one day, your ex will have no control over what your daugter wants to do.

Answer 3

You can represent yourself in Court!

If you do this the costs are not huge! £40 to £50 at most. In a lot of cases the Judge and Court staff give you lots of help and advice. You can do it!

Don't ever give up on your daughter. If you do that is all your ex will tell her - "your Daddy never came to see you".

Turn up to see her when you should. If you are going to be early or late, ring in advance and ask if that is OK. Be nice (as hard as it is to be) to your ex - never lose your temper with her.

Keep a diary of all contact with her solicitor, her and your daughter. You will need this info in court.

I wish you all the best but remember - Under the Childrens Act your little girl has a right to access to both her parents.

Answer 4

Surely if you have no money you are entitled to legal aid???If she breaks a court order it is an arrestable offence.Don't give up on your child god knows what her mum Will say about you and she will grow up believing you don't love her or want to see her.A court order should be made to convenience both parties ,if you are having not much success with your solicitor go to another.

Answer 5

Poor you, I feel so sorry for you, it must be hell. I really don't know what would be the best thing for you to do. If you can just about afford it then maybe try court one more time, if not then you need to find new ways to keep trying to contact your daughter, not only for your sake, but also for hers. Maybe try talking to social services and see what they say. If not, then have a civilised conversation with your ex, even if you feel like killing her! Tell her exactly how you feel, and be nice to her, she may see it from your point of you.

Good luck, I hope it works out for you xxxx

Answer 6

How heart-breaking for you and for your daughter. No, don't give up. Don't walk away from her; she will blame you and feel worthless even if you have such good reasons for it being too difficult.

Be patient. Contact her loads by post/phone. Envisage a loving relationship and don't imagine/think about the negative way your ex is making it all happen at the moment. Perhaps when she realises you aren't going away she will stop being so petty. All the best; all of us mums and dads are thinking of you.

Answer 7

And where is your lawyer in all of this? If she broke a court order from preventing you your rights to visit your daughter, then it is she that the court would have to deal with. It appears she is using your love for your daughter as a means of punishing you. There are laws for this for the same reason their are parents who do this. Get another attorney, it seems the one you have is not doing much for you. Best of luck to you!

Answer 8

you need to in no way stroll nor do you ought to "smother" her for interest. it won't artwork because of the fact she isn't a new child. Now, i do no longer comprehend how some years you have been in her existence. If her mom divorced you, the justifications for the divorce would play a substantial area after which those motives will possibly no longer. Having a courting with the actual father should not be a controversy with you, because of the fact, she unearths that courting with him substantial. permit her because of the fact which you like her, good? Now, if in actuality she desires your help, gain this in situations of necessity. inspite of each little thing, she isn't entitled to a courting with you anymore, you have been divorced. She is starting to be an grownup and its time so which you would be able to head on too. i'm 25 yrs previous and my actual dad and that i've got the comparable form of courting different than we suggested because it quits approximately 7 years in the past while he had yet another new child and did no longer tell me yet everybody else knew. She is 15 now. i found out i become entitled to purely as lots time to him as she become however the priority become i become 18 and mandatory to get on with beginning a existence. circumstances substitute in due time and so does human beings.

Answer 9

NO PROBLEM.... bring the action YOURSELF. You will get the judge's sympathy if you tell him precisely what you have tols us. If unrepresented in court, judges are eager to see justice done and tend to and SHOW IT to show unashamedly A LEANING twardfs the unrepresented litigant. I practice law in England and that is my advice to you. FOR GOD'S SAKE and for YOUR daughter's sake DO NOT ABANDON YOUR DAUGHTER. You have a DUTY to fight for her even in those circumstances. If your daughter could talk (maybe too young) she would tell you precisely what I have told h=you "FIGHT FOR ME DAD, I LOVE YOU AND WANT YOU TO CONTINUE LOVING ME". ---"GIVE UP ON ME BECAUSE YOU HAVE NO MORE MONEY AND YOU WILL LOSE ME !" Something like that. Go to the court offices, BRIEFLY explain that you want to bring an continuing acting against your wife and say that you are representing yourself. You may need to produce an affidavit where you will state on oath the circumstance in which lawful access to your daughter was denied X number of times. There is a court order, for God's sake... She is in real trouble. You could even apply for LEGAL AID. I feel confident that you would be granted Legal Aid. Sorry if I typed too fast and you find this advice difficult to follow. Sorry but you have a DUTY to continue being your daughter's father.

Answer 10

You should be ashamed of yourself, Do I walk away from my daughter? of course you DO NOT, you fight till the death.
Do not ...........do not give up on her no matter what, she needs you just as much, do not turn your back on her just because you have problems with your ex, try and talk with your ex have a meeting with a family member on each side and discuss how you can improve the situation for the three of you. Do not give up your daughter you will live to regret it.