How can I nag less?

Question

I can't help it sometimes. I am with a very stubborn man, and I am almost as stubborn as he is. I know it's not good to nag and harp on things, but somehow I feel as if that's the only way to get through to him. Hey, at least if he's pissed off, he's listening!! If he'd just take care of it when I ask him to, there'd be no need to nag. Is there anything wrong with wanting things done on YOUR schedule and not someone else's?? I want to ease up on him a little bit, but I don't know how without becoming a doormat.

Answer 1

No. When he's pissed off he's not listening, he's thing "Oh god, what a *****." That's your first problem, you both need to chill a little, go out to a local tourist attraction, perhaps a state park or something..Don't do this on a schedule, just do it some random weekend. On actually nagging, there is nothing wrong with being firm, and reminding him to do something, and being mad if he doesn't do it, but nagging makes most guys push it off further, when my fiancé nags, it makes me want to do whatever she's nagging about less.
1 - When you ask him to do something the first time, don't nag, ask, offer to help if It's necessary.
2 - Make sure you're doing your part. When I was a kid I lived with both parents, however my mom was always lying down, relaxing, soaking in the tub, and screaming at my dad to do stuff. Needless to say, it ended in divorce, and in the short-term, just put my dad off.
3 - Make time to relax, the day off can do wonders for everything.
4 - Pick your battles.
As far as easing up, you might have to do a couple things yourself, but be a little nicer when you're asking him to do something - Nagging puts almost all guys off. As far as being a doormat, you can be firm, you can make your needs known without nagging, being nice does not mean being weak, just changing the tone of your voice when you ask him can work worlds.

Answer 2

I was going to say let someone else do the nagging, and when they nag, just think to yourself, "Self, I'm so happy I didn't have to be the one nagging, now I'm not the "nag", and just laugh at the nag and say - haha now you're the nag, etcc...

But it almost sounds like you're right, that you have to nag, just to keep up with the stubborn fool.

Maybe, if you get both of you to laugh at how funny you both look, you can both stop being stubborn and do something completely different for a change. Just a thought....:)

Answer 3

INTERESTING question when you feel the need to nag stop go to the bathroom look in the mirror and say what you were going to say to your man exactly the way you were going to say it to him and then you will see exactly what he see not pretty huh remember its how you say it that makes it nagging there is no need to harp on every little thing lifes short im sure it will get done ask with love not like that girl in the mirror she will kill a relationship be kind luv ya michael d

Answer 4

when your about to nag at him, instead just have a talk with him. Let him know that its important. Just simply tell him how important it is to you that he listens to what you say... then in a nice tone state whatever it is you that you need from him.
you could always nag, but in a nice tone.. sort of like covering it up so its not technically nagging...

Answer 5

I did the same thing...until he had a serious talk with me about how I'm driving him crazy. Now I make conscious efforts to hold my tongue for the little things and save it for the stuff that really/actually matters. It kinda drives me nuts sometimes but I love him and I want us both to be happy.
Choose your battles if you want him to stick around.

Answer 6

Therapy

Answer 7

i did no longer have a brother! i became the only with that practice set. Dbl. dealt with transformer & pill s to put in the smoke stack. Had 2 finished instruments of trains and all that long extensive music. Used to run all of it the way by using the domicile at Christmas time. attempt acquiring that kind of practice now & you will lay our a fortune in ordinary terms for the locomotive. enjoyed all of it.

Answer 8

the silent treatment often works better than nagging and
if he won't fix the lawnmower - you don't wash his clothes or cook him dinner

if this fails then keep on nagging girl
don't let a man walk all over you

Answer 9

When you ask someone else to do something there is something wrong with expecting them to do it on your schedule, they might not work like that, take it easy

Answer 10

Maybe try a little reverse psychology and praise him for the good things he does do. Maybe that will motivate him to do more. If not, maybe the two of you should try counseling.