Do you think women file for divorce much too easily these days?

Question

I'm not talking about women who are abused or neglected.


Do you think women expect too much from their husbands?

Don't you think it's unreasonable to expect that your husband should make you happy? I almost feel like women these days too often blame their partners for their own unhappiness.

Poison, I'd agree with you if it wasn't for the fact that women are much more likely to file for divorce.

Answer 1

yes which is why men should never get married again because she knows if she divorces you she can take half and move on to the next young stud. its a win win situation for any married woman unless she is married to a broke joke in which case she is shiitt out of luck

Answer 2

No one should "make" you happy. Partners should compliment your life, but its not their responsibility to make you happy. I don't know that many women who've been divorce, who didn't do so because they were neglected or abused. Plain and simple; so long as woman do their part to help the family income...men should step up to do their part to help with the family chores. I know a lot women who've left for that reason...and I can't half blame them, why should they work 40-60 hrs per week and still have to be the one to come home and do all the chores too? And I know way too many men letting their women do just that instead of helping out. Problem isn't the divorce is too easy, problem is that getting married is just way too easy. Every couple should have to through counseling or classes to establish what their expectations of marriage is...and then be told realistically what its really like.

Answer 3

Sometimes we know what we want not just women but men and we think that we see it in a person until we understand and get to know the person by living with them. A lot of people think that living with someone is as easy as dating and honestly it ain't. When we find this type of thing we understand the game and try to pull out and some or most try to make it work. These people who divorce for silly things like the toothpaste use who likes to squeeze from the top and who likes to squeeze from below are just quitters. People who just quit for quitting sake because they never follow through with anything.
I think that it is reasonable to think that your partner should make you happy otherwise what is the point but you in turn have to return the favor. Its like sex you can't expect your partner to be on top all the time.

Answer 4

I think many people get married too young or for the wrong reasons, and that's why they expect too much from marriage.

Not everyone should get married, in my opinion. Not everyone has what it takes to make a marriage work, because it's not easy! Successful marriages take a lot of time, energy and hard work from both people in it. It takes "two to tango" and when only one is doing the dancing, sooner or later the marriage will fail.

I agree when you say that it is unreasonable for someone to expect his/her partner to make him/her happy. Happiness is a choice- and a very individual one. I also think that many people prefer to blame their partners for the failure in a relationship..instead of admitting they played a part in it, too.

Answer 5

First thing I would do is stop blaming or being disappointed in yourself, or calling yourself stupid - I would talk to someone at your school - since you do not have a lot of money, they may be able to help you legally - schools are very supportive. Hopefully you can have your son in your life, but legal systems these days are pretty favorable towards the mother, no matter what the situation - unless she is really destructive like britney spears, more than likely you will not gain custody of your child - which is really sad. As far as being concerned for your own welfare - be grateful that you dodged a bullet - hopefully you can help your son as well. The best of luck.

Answer 6

Like Poison Ivy said "People in general" But today woman way better opportunities than 30-40 years ago. And we know we can have a life with or without men. But it's not just us woman who give up too easy, so do the men.

Answer 7

Umm, you're asking for an earful here. I filed and people said the same thing to me - you jumped the gun and did it too soon. In general, I think that women analyze things and know what they want when they do things. We usually don't cut and run and we usually try to think of all sides before we just throw in the towel. In other words, I think most women exhaust all options before they file.

In my case, my husband decided I could not be there for him emotionally so he turned to someone else. For me, if he couldn't make a choice to invest his time and emotional energy in me and I couldn't be what he wanted me to be, then it wasn't worth the pain and heartache.

I think this question can be asked and your statement could be made about men and women, society in general.

Answer 8

Some women do but I think for me I expect my spouse to want to do things for me not to have to make me happy. But just wanting me to be happy and going from there. So if a woman is telling the man to make her happy shes in the wrong since she has to chose to be happy.

Answer 9

you might be right about that but you have to look at the situation to a certain extent we do seek marriage for happier with you then without you attitude and all though your not responsible for making a person happy then in return your not soppiest to hurt them or make then sad,which the reason why most divorce are filed

Answer 10

Whomever you choose, he/she will be the wrong person. It's absurd to believe that you can find one person to marry at the age of 25 even 30, and think you'll be with that one person for the rest of your life. Cheating has been going on forever, but divorce rates have skyrocketed in the last decade, because women (most anyway) can fend for themselves. They don't depend on the man now (many times), so they don't take their cheating BS. Before, the woman would just turn the other cheek, cause she had nowhere to go.

Men, it's nice to have you around, BUT WE DON'T NEED YOU!!! At least many of us don't.