What do u think of girls who get marriage at a young age like 18?I have this friend who is 18 years old and wants to get married to a boy who's like 31 years old,but her parents don't agree and think that there is a huge age difference between them and that she's young.Do u agree with her parents?
2007-08-17 08:26:29 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I definately agree with her parents...at 18 year old she has no idea what a real relationship is never mind a marriage...tell your friend to get real and stop thinking about adult things and just enjoy life being single...if this guy loves her he'll be around in 5 years won't he??
2007-08-17 08:31:18 · answer #1 · answered by Steven's Mommy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Kate dear I understand your concern and I know that you might find this Taboo but honey maturity is not judged by age. Some people are ready for certain things in life earlier than some. Yes there is a great age difference and on that part I could understand her parents being concerned. When I was her age I was mature as well but not in that way as in seriously thinking about marriage but someone some years ago started talking to me about the birds and the bees and we went into the thought of my future husband. I dreamed of him for many years but never went into a serious thing until I was ready. In fact I did get married young I was only 20yrs old but I was ready and so was my hubby because he was only a yr older. My marriage is just fine so age doesn't matter it is maturity that counts.
2007-08-17 15:44:57 · answer #2 · answered by *Pretty In Pink* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not the age difference, but the fact that she is only 18. If she was getting married to a 21 year old it would still not be a good idea.
She has her whole life a head of her, she can go to college or just simply take life as it comes to her without the added stress of marriage and then kids to follow.
Ask women who got married at an early age, 98% of them regret their decisions and wish they had waited and seek divorce. While your friends are out enjoying the single life being independent, your friend is dependent on her husband.
Bottomline is "Estabish and enjoy your independence before you decide to share your life with another person."
2007-08-17 15:41:18 · answer #3 · answered by jimmy.parker06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have to say I agree with her parents.
That is a pretty big age difference.
And it's not so much the "age" as in numbers, it's the "age" as in maturity.
As we get married and share our lives with one person.
We all go through changes. And it is important that you go through those changes together.
As you get older, you'll understand....
But as you are younger, you don't realize the changes you go through. And don't understand as well, so sometimes the support that you should be giving to one another isn't there.
And that's when 2 people grow apart from one another.
That's what happens in some marriages.
You just grow apart from each other and neither one of you are the same person any more.
I know at your age it doesn't sound like a big issue, but believe me it is.
I was once your age too, and thought I wanted to get married.
As I look back at that person I "thought" I wanted to marry, it could never have worked.
I hope everything works out for your friend.
Tell her, her most fun years are still just coming up.
And if she's married, she's going to be missing all that fun.
I recall back to the days that I was 21 and was able to finally go to the clubs.
Most fun times of my life.
Look forward to those years, don't pass them by ;)
2007-08-17 15:37:54 · answer #4 · answered by MommaBear 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 31 he shouild be a man and at 18 she should be a young women so if they are truly in love age does not matter ! But wether or not he is going to be a good provider is just a risk every woman takes when they marry.
2007-08-17 16:02:32 · answer #5 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes...I do! She's hasn't had the same life experiences as her partner to be... She needs to go out and explore the new world that's being offered at her feet. It would be a shame for her to tie her self down and become a wife so soon at such a young age. If he loves her, he'll understand that she needs to explore and figure things out for herself. Just tell your friend that youth is a terrible thing to waste and I think, along with her parents that she will waste it on a man that doesn't take that into consideration. All the best and good luck!
CJ
2007-08-17 15:43:13 · answer #6 · answered by CJ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree w/ the parents. She's way too young to be marrying a guy that old.
She needs to get out and live a little, see what else is out there and HAVE FUN!
2007-08-17 15:33:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is very young to be making decision liek that. I am sure he is sweeping her ff her feet and that 31 year old dude needs to get real and be the one thinking straight!!!
I mean yes some relationships do actually work for an age gap- but she has so much more to learn and see. At the end she is of legal age to make that decsion. I am sorry, wish I can help.......
2007-08-17 15:32:24 · answer #8 · answered by Pappie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes. and not because of the number of years, but because of the stages of life that they are in. and 18 year old has not made her mind up about anything whereas a 31 year old should be on a path to building a life. she needs to be thinking about what kind of woman she wants to be and then once she's on the path to becoming that woman then only be thinking about the sort of man who would be compatible with who she is.
2007-08-17 15:45:20 · answer #9 · answered by Mary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I do. If he was closer to her age and they could go thru the life together that would be okay. But at 31, he has already lived his life, done his partying, etc. and is ready to settle down.
2007-08-17 15:35:59 · answer #10 · answered by eharrah1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋