my baby is 3 months will me holding him all the time spoil him.?

Question

he cries if I am not bouncing him around or swaddling him

Answer 1

No, that's what you do with babies! You hold them, cuddle, feed them, change their diapers, and "aww" while they sleep. When you hold your baby, you are creating an even deeper bond between the two of you...when this child becomes a teenager, perhaps you will have a strong enough bond to make the years less horrible. But in the mean time, snuggle your child as much as you can. Soon he/she will be wriggling and squirming out of your reach and you will treasure the times when they will give you a hug.
"If you give your baby prompt attention, he'll feel more secure and less anxious, giving him the courage to explore the world on his own. And once he understands that you take his cries seriously, he'll be less likely to cry for no reason. In the long run, responding quickly to your baby's needs will make him less clingy and demanding, not more."

Answer 2

We held our baby non-stop during month 3. Now that she's 5 months, she's much more independent. Didn't spoil her at all. just need to watch for signals that she's outgrowing the colicky stage.

Check out the "Happiest Baby on the Block" DVD. Good stuff. Dr. calls the first 3 months the "fourth trimester." Makes a lot of sense when you hear what he's saying.

Good luck...you'll get some good sleep in months 4 and 5!

Answer 3

Nope... you're being his parent... keep up the good work... that's what he needs... here's the short answer, follow the link for some more detail:

What you're talking about is the old fear-of-spoiling question. As little as ten years ago, the prevailing wisdom was that if you frequently held a baby, responded sensitively to her cries, nursed her on cue instead of on schedule, and were attentive to her needs, she'd grow up to be dependent, manipulative, and spoiled. You'll be happy to know that both science and experience proved these ideas to be wrong. At one meeting of the American Academy of Pediatrics I attended, the main topic of concern was: What builds a brighter, more independent baby? The consensus among psychologists and pediatricians who reviewed the medical literature: caregivers' responsiveness to the cues of babies. Children, like food, spoil when left alone. http://www.parenting.com/parenting/experts/sears/index081601.html

Answer 4

The doctors will tell you that it is not until between 6-9 months that you can begin spoiling your baby. It is then that they begin remembering things that have happened in the past, for rihgt now, no you are not spoiling him. If you want to break a habit with an infant you need to stop doing it for about a week and then they will no longer want whatever it was that you were doing.

Answer 5

I am a first time mother of a now 10 month old baby and people warned me and warned me in the beginning to not carry my daughter so much. I couldn't help it though. She was precious and miraculous and I wanted nothing more than to cuddle with her and make her happy all of the time. "Letting her cry" was never an option for me.

Ya know what though? In a way I regret this now. She's very spoiled, even at 10 months and wants to be carried and rocked all of the time. Me carrying her alone is not even enough to satisfy her sometimes. She wants me to STAND up and carry her. I work a full-time job and coming home and dealing with this sometimes is a bit frustrating. I wish I would have put her down more and let her learn how to comfort herself occassionally.

Most days I can't even get the dishes washed or the floor swept and the laundry keeps piling up.If I walk away, she follows me and tries to climb up my legs so I'm tripping over her if I move.

Sorry this was so long. Basically, yes, put him down and let him cry.

Answer 6

No, you cannot spoil him. Your baby was held 24/7 in the womb for the first 9 months of his existence. Coming into the outside world is a big change for him. If you do not already have one, I suggest getting a baby carrier. ( http://www.thebabywearer.com )
Makes life a lot easier. My 9 month old is in the sling the majority of the day.

Answer 7

It won't spoil him. It will give him the sense of security that he needs. In a few months when he is crawling around he won't want you holding him all the time. Enjoyt it while you can, they don't stay this little for long :)
Congratulations to you for being so caring as to hold him and not leave him to cry :)

Answer 8

I had the same trouble with my son. Try to break him out of the habbit early. 3 months old is a perfect age to do so. That way he'll be more independent later on. I'm not saying leave him alone in his crib while he cries, but through out the day put him down in his crib and maybe sit by him. If he does start crying you can comfort him by rubbing his back or something like that. That way he'll know you're still there,he's in his own space and that he's okay. If you do happen to pick him up, do so for a limited amount of time. And then put him back. This process might take a while for both you and him to get use to. But its worth it later on! Trust me! Good Luck!

Answer 9

Hold him as much as you want to. You can't spoil a 3 month old baby. But if you need to set him down for a few minutes, don't feel guilty. If you know his needs are all met, it won't hurt for you to let him fuss for a few minutes. Best to hold him now while he's little, when he gets older he won't like it as much and then you'll miss it.

Answer 10

no, you are not spoiling him, but it might be best to not hold him quite so much, maybe let him a cry a little then pick him up then the next time wait just a bit longer.....I have a 2 yr old and I knew he was my last baby so I held him alot, I still do...but he sleeps with me and his dad cuz he doesn't know how to sleep alone....good luck, do what feels best for you