yesterday my wife said she went to a tanning salon with her friend and her friend came in her room naked and rubbed oil on her, going very slowly around her butt.I asked if she liked it and she said she did but felt a little uncomfortable
2007-08-17 07:18:54 · 29 answers · asked by todd t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well if she likes it is ok, but dont push her into it
2007-08-17 07:23:21 · answer #1 · answered by Midnight1 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
This is very risky... is it worth the risk? Before you ask her... make sure you fully understand there are many consquences that may come in to play if you both decide it's what you want.
This completely will change the dynamic of your marriage.... into an OPEN relationship! Is that what you both desire?
It may sound thrilling and maybe be an exciting fantasy... but in reality... What Next? Before you answer, you need to ask yourself...
Are you ok if LATER your wife wants a threesome with another man and you? What if that gets boring too? Then what... maybe an orgi? or maybe one or both just decide you like sex better with someone else?
If a threesome is more desireable to you both, than the commitments you honor by marriage... Then basically you both have nothing to lose!
P.S. Use your other head for this one
2007-08-17 15:18:18 · answer #2 · answered by Sorry 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Haha...no way.
.No girl lets another girl do that to her, and feels "uncomfortable" with it.
If she felt that way, it wouldn't have ever happened at all.
.Maybe she swings more for the other team, but she doesn't want you to be a part of her batting practice...so she fronts and tells you that she doesn't like it that much or that it made her "uncomfortable."
Hmmmm....it's a thought.
.Anyways ask her, if she says yes...you'll be the envy of all your buddies...if she says no, better luck next time and maybe you should get her into the swinging scene. Let her know what you like and what you're after, maybe she'll understand....don't have high expectations though. You might end up not getting what you wanted. Make sure that other female is hot though, you can't have a hot girl and a non-hot girl going at it.......YUCK!
have fun***
2007-08-17 14:34:11 · answer #3 · answered by Murphy's Law 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does rubbing oil around your wife's butt have to do with a threesome? If her friend seems to be seeking a little excitement in her life then the two of you could volunteer to help; it depends on whether or not your wife wants to share her toys.
2007-08-17 14:39:57 · answer #4 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well personally i dont think that would be a good idea unless she is bi or has wild experiences like that before. but even if she has its always different with ur husband. the others she might have did if she did that stuff was just there she didnt love them or have feelings for them and when u have feelings for someone that makes a huge difference. if u ask her she might think that u think she is boring or that she is not good enough in bed and that will make her upset but i guess since she told you about the tanning salon inncodent she might have been hinting but if she has low self esteem i dont think i would ask her but if she doesnt then go ahead and ask.
2007-08-17 14:39:33 · answer #5 · answered by sweet29053 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, but be careful how you approach the subject. Maybe she was a little uncomfortable because she hadn't given that much thought before. And yes, think about what if she wants it to be another guy, not just another girl...it goes both ways. And be understanding when she says she isn't sure. Communicate.
2007-08-17 14:40:31 · answer #6 · answered by ali30144 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This could be dangerous. You don't want your wife thinking you don't want HER sexually anymore. If you ask her be prepared for her to say "no", then you'll probably have a heated argument on why you would ask such a thing. Before you ask, feel her out and see if it's something she is interested in. If she isn't, don't ask, then get the thought completely out of your head.
2007-08-17 14:36:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you are prepared for the outcome. What if you had a threesome and the man was better than you in the bed, or the woman was better than you, and she decided to ditch you for one of them, then would you think it okay to have a threesome? Be careful what you ask for you may not like the outcome
2007-08-17 14:32:26 · answer #8 · answered by pookster4262 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first off don't just come out and ask for it... do what i say and you'll have a better chance...
1. ask her if she's ever thought about being with a woman
2. tell he rthe thought of her with another woman turns you on
3. ask her if she would be willing to be with a woman while you WATCH (make sure she understands that you wouldn't be touching anyone but yourself)
4. after it happens (or maybe even durin if she asks you to) you could meantion joining but you would only touch her...
and then let it go from there.
2007-08-17 14:33:58 · answer #9 · answered by Spring 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never!!! You should not ever want to be with any other woman but your wife, that is why you married her. To ask her for a threesome leads one to believe that you are not satisfied with what you have. I just don't get it... It is infidelity, whether your wife is involved or not.
2007-08-21 11:48:43 · answer #10 · answered by CuitePie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure Todd but your wife may want the third person to be a guy...are you alright with THAT!!! Probably not so don't expect her to jump at the idea unless you are willing to reciprocate the other way.
2007-08-17 14:31:22 · answer #11 · answered by Older Guy 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋