First I stopped shaving my legs, then I stopped changing my clothes once a day. Then I stopped washing my hair. Sometimes I don't even put on my sexy sweats. I just put on the comfy ones that I took from him. Is this necessarily a bad thing? My girlfriends tell me that I need to wake up or else he's gonna drop me like a hot potato. I don't want to lose him, but I don't want to have to start combing my hair and putting on lip gloss again. I got married. I shouldn't have to try anymore, should I??
2007-08-17 07:09:54 · 41 answers · asked by C Deezy McCain 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should keep yourself even nicer now that you are married!
2007-08-17 07:37:31 · answer #1 · answered by handyman7799 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow!!! I can't believe what I am reading, so these kind of women does exist! Mercy! I have heard there are women that kept themselves looking pretty, smelling good, and being sexy while dating their future husband. And once they exchange vows in a weeks time (or sooner) the her real self come out, The SLOB! sorry lady, but that what you're saying about yourself.
Just because you're married now that you don't need to keep up your personal hygiene. What is wrong with you? Don't said that you're his wife and he should love you the way you're, yeah right! Lady, do you think if he knew this from the start do you really think he would marry you? I don't think any man would marry a woman that don't take care of her personal hygiene. that is way beyond nasty.
Listen lady, do you think he when he is in the mood to some loving that he is going to be turn on by your sour hair, someone who wore the same clothes for a week, not bath regularly? I would have to call EPA on you if you part your legs...phew! Your girlfriend is telling you the truth and you need to bath everyday, wash your when needed and comb & brush it daily. Change your clothes daily, that is why they invented the washing machine. if you want to keep him then you better get yourself clean up or you will be by yourself.
2007-08-17 08:00:46 · answer #2 · answered by Thomas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand b/c I kind of done the same thing but I still shave, etc. ( I wear his cloths all the time at home).
Has your husband said anything about it to you? Does he ask you to dress nice for him and you refuse?
I ask my fiancee and he likes the fact that I dont feel that I need to get all "pretty" for him anymore.
I think you should try alittle more then you are. If he is so used to seeing you disheveled looking, imagine how happy he will be when you get dressed nice and actually brush your hair!
Are you depressed or did you just stop making yourslef look nice? Is it being lazy? Figure out why you are doing this b/c you should really want to look good for yourseld once in awhile, not just him!
GL! And go take a shower, shave, put on your nice sweats and do your hair and makeup!!
2007-08-17 07:21:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody said after marriage you turn into a troll! Just because your married shouldn't change your basic daily hygiene habits. I'm not saying you have to put on fancy clothes, tons of makeup and fix your hair like your in a pageant, but come on at least brush your hair & shave your legs. Do you really think your hubby wants to come home to a hairy legged, sweat pants wearing, rats nest head? If he hasn't said anything yet, that's probably because he has a girlfriend that looks decent for him. Wake Up Girl!
2007-08-17 07:36:42 · answer #4 · answered by catchic 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've let yourself get into a rut. Yes, you need to try- for your husband- but mostly for yourself. If can't be fun looking in the mirror and seeing old clothes, messy hair, messy everything. It sounds like you've reached a stage of "I'd let myself go this far so what's the point?" Clean yourself up, make yourself pretty- it'll lift your spirits. What's the big deal about combing your hair and putting on lip gloss? That's just a few minutes! Yeah, you're married- but it's nice for your guy to be married to a hot wife!
2007-08-17 07:36:50 · answer #5 · answered by RSJ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh you have it sooooo wrong! You lied to him then. You packaged yourself as something that now you are not. Is he not the most important thing to you? Why would you do this to him?
When I worked night shift at a factory, I would freshen up my makeup and my hair...after I was out of work in the locker room. A few women asked me a question like, why do you always do that right before you go home? All you're going to do is get home, wash it off and go to bed. I looked at my friend next to me and smiled to the other women and answered them that why would I not? I am married and my husband was at home waiting for me and I'd be damned if I was going to walk into my home and my husband's arms with no makeup and hardhat hair! EWWWW! I was making myself pretty for my love. What better incentive than that?
You are married and you need to care for yourself because this also shows him what a good mother you can be/are. Think about it. Your husband goes to work, sees and talks to many well dressed, nice smelling, attentive women and then he comes home to you. EEWWWWW!
2007-08-17 07:59:47 · answer #6 · answered by califdreamer_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you have no pride in your appearance? Take a good long look in the mirror right now. Do you like what you see? Most guys I know fall in love with the person inside not what they look like, so if you just put on the lipgloss for him just to get him, then you have already lost. Youve been wasting ur time being a slob. time to wake up and realize what u are. And what u can be......
2007-08-17 07:49:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What if he stopped shaving, gained a beer belly, stank up the place from not bathing every day? You will lose him in no time if you keep this up. At least once every couple days put some makeup on. You never heard that men are Visual creatures?
2007-08-17 07:19:18 · answer #8 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that you feel like looking good doesn't matter anymore since you're married but you are still a woman. You should still take care of yourself as a woman. That doesnt mean you have to shave your legs everyday faithfully. Do it for yourself and I'll bet your husband will take notice immediately.
2007-08-17 07:18:44 · answer #9 · answered by Mo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not about trying its about have self confidence in your self and keeping yourself well groomed. When you don't go the extra mile to put a little pride in yourself yea I can imagine he will lose interest in you physically. Think about it heres my wife doesn't wash her hair or dress like a woman should and doesn't really put on make up or do her nails then theres this chick who wants me and does all that and keeps her self up nice and shes fun to be around. Hmm yea not a big choice there.
2007-08-17 07:20:59 · answer #10 · answered by youcandoit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you sure do have to try. What if he stopped shower, started eating like a pig(leaving food all over his face) and then some. What would you do. You would probably be disgusted. Not that you have to look great all the time, but surprise him and look nice a few times a week. This way he won't look for cuteness somewhere else
2007-08-17 07:18:49 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋