As a teen, I came against the "no talk" rule and came out and blasted my mom for the abuse she did to us. I have PtSD from then. Now after an abusive marriage where my h. had a prior restraining order with another woman, he is x now,I have to deal with sis and bro and am trying to tell them about my abuse counseling....though they would listen, but sis wanted me to go back and I did not listen and had a fit and ran off into the snow. Now bro says he listened for 2 years to me but I dont see that...I was homeless and he and sis had much money....they say I was the original abuser and that I am self centered. I blew bro away with words and could not listen...now it is confirmed by them....so why is it so hard for me to listen to them and they say I must??I think we had to listen and only as do only as mom wanted. Is this still in practice? WE are now not speaking and I feel so assaulted and it took me 7 days to think straight again and I still doubt myself..not react??how?
2007-08-17 07:06:40 · 7 answers · asked by wildrose7 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
STOP! Breathe. Count to 100. No one can tell you what your reality is. They aren't living it. They will, however, try their best to impose their reality over it. Especially in a family where there's a long history of abusive drama. You need to find a way to take a good long OBJECTIVE look at your life. Ever try meditation?
2007-08-17 07:19:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to realize that your childhood is over, and close the door on it. And I think stay in counseling. If you feel you are making no progress, change counselors.
If it is uncomfortable for you to have a relationship with your brother, end it. I did. I have a brother that is a complete and total, Jerk, and a(s)s and all the rest of it. He is all that is terrible in a personality... self-centered, egotistical, threatening, an abusive father to his children, a cheat on all of his wives,,, the list is endless. I sent a letter to his business stating all this and letting him know I no longer ever wish to hear his drunken voice again... The letter was obviously opened by his staff, and some of his kids even read it, since it was not addressed to him but to the business. Never heard from him again. Maybe you need to do that too.... worked for me.
2007-08-17 07:17:22 · answer #2 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray or something for patience. Don't be afraid that words of people who care about you are meant to be harmful....try to fill your heart with love and forgiveness....this is the key to freedom. It sounds corny I know, however I also know it works. I grew up pretty abused also.....happy adult now.
2007-08-17 07:20:36 · answer #3 · answered by Rein 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
family sucks! society makes you believe that you have to take **** from ur family bc they are ur family. Bullish! you prob get angry bc u r trying to relay a message but they are not understanding or should i say LISTENING!!! Let them go work on u and ur kids if any. it is hard and lonely but find inner peace. dont worry about others.
2007-08-17 07:19:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you can't deal with any criticism or the truth.
2007-08-17 07:14:10 · answer #5 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'M sorry,in short the reason why is because The truth hurts.
2007-08-17 07:26:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what they say you can only listren if you choose to open your ears.
2007-08-17 07:11:39 · answer #7 · answered by j.r. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋