Why do alot of women go out with guys they know will hurt them?

Answer 1

In many cases, this is a "victim" syndrome; it isn't even on a conscious level, but is a feeling of impotence & lack of deserving civil treatment. It may also be the only way such women feel they're getting "attention" as painful as it is. At its worst, it's masochism--the abused & the abuser establish a symbiotic relationship. I've rarely seen the motivation for attraction to such men as the need to prove that they can "change" them. (Remember, men are also abused by women.) The assumption that women like "bad boys" is a myth, & very superficial.

Answer 2

Both women and men do this. The main reason is that once they have spent time and energy thinking about what they don`t want, they then attract exactly that.

This is no bull. I know a woman who was raped four times by different people inside a relatively short time. The councellors were probably starting to look at her funny. Her husband probably started to look at this business funny. Their friends looked at her funny. But the poor lady was probably going nuts. I know this is an extreme case, but the mechanics are identical.

Answer 3

Why do men hurt the women they go out with?
Why do men often take advantage of women?

Some women date guys who are capable of hurting them because they don't want to face the fact that men can't change. Women can have thick heads too....they don't want to admit that a guy they care about is only gonna hurt them. They want them to change...

Answer 4

Not just women. Better the evil you know than the evil you do not know. Many individuals will suffer pain to go through the reconciliation. They crave that favoritism and special attention they get from the makeup. It's like being wooed all over again. Most of us are lied to as children. We are taught to like flamboyant, interesting people, instead of being taught to look for the beauty within quiet, responsible people. Most of us are just carrying on the roles our parents, the television, and the movies scripted for us. Girls are taught to mother, but how do you mother a responsible individual? Men are taught to nurture, but how do you nurture someone who is independent and can take care of themselves. Most of us are attracted to the walking wounded in the clever packaging. We are taught that we can save them, and we never figure it out for ourselves until we allow at least one of them to drag us all the way down with them!

Answer 5

I think that deep down inside they hope that they will be "The one" to change the guy and he will fall madly in love with them and won't hurt them. Also, for some unknown reason women are attracted to bad boys and dangerous types. I think partly it's for the thrill of "living on the edge". The other part may be pheromones they give off that attract women.

Answer 6

I have before because I'm not really sure of who I can trust, so the first person that comes along that seems nice, I tend to trust more than I should. I know it's not good but sometimes we just don't know who will hurt us. Most women may take the chance and go for it because most are strong and will eventually make it through anything they put their mind to.

Answer 7

They cant put down their animal instincts of attraction that those type of guys exude. The thrill of the chase, the pursuit, the excitement, the sense of adventure that alpha males bring to the table. Unfortunately, most get let down in the end and are hurt by the experience.

Answer 8

Because they want to feel loved or wanted in my opinion. Most women want the feeling that someone loves them and will give them attention.

Answer 9

I think a lot of women have such low self esteem, it never occurs to them to look for a person who will treat them better. They feel they were born to be victims.

Answer 10

I don't think they do, they are just reacting experiences to their past and tend to get into similar situations ar create similar situations they then will live with till they can make changes in their life and stop accepting abusive relationships.