what is wrong with my dad...GOSH please help!!!?

Question

ok im probably gonna get my hair dyed. my mom says its ok. but with requirements-
•its gonna have to be after next friday, because of church pictures.
•temporary first
•dad has to know
•she has to ok the color
•no un-natural colors.
•no 2-tones.
•i have to pay.
thats about it

but my dad always is raggin on me cuz he thinks im a freak.
skateboarding. skate clothes. guitar. wow theres nothing wrong with me!
but its this color
http://www.wikifotos.es/static2/2007/05/10/817854.jpg
i like it. itd look good on me.
how do i convince him that im old enough to take control of my own appearance?
*PARENTS* what do u think could be my dads problem?

WOW
how is skate clothes weird if i skate?
its not an un-natural color to them, my mom likes it!

Answer 1

Ah, I totally know how you feel, I JUST convinced my parents to let me dye my hair. I said, " Mom, Dad, I'm in high school and I think I should be able to make my own decisions. The hair color I selected is natural so it is nothing obnoxious. If you don't like it, then, please let me do it anyways and I will learn from my mistakes since it is only temporary." Be sure to be mature about it, don't be like," MOM LET ME DYE MY HAIR YOU ARE RUINING MY LIFE, GOSHH." Good luck!

Answer 2

your father just like many other parents are "old skool" they like to have things the way they were when they were growing up. how old are your parents? look at the decade they were born in and the way they were raised.

if you investigate a little further by asking family members i bet they will tell you that your mother was raised in a home where they could do things they wanted to do, as long as it was within reason and they had to get the ok to do so. your father however may have been raised on something compleatly different. like for example, he may have had to dress a certain way before he left the house with his parents and had to act a certain way as well. a lot of the time, the way someone was raised gets passed on through the line. maybe your dad also has some issues with what people will think of him for having a child who skateboards, dyes their hair, plays guitar and what not. i know thats not a good reason to razz you but some people are like that. let him know that it bothers you and ask him why he thinks this way of you. if he says "just because" or doesnt give you an answer, just simply tell him that you would like to know so that you know if you are doing something wrong in his eyes and you wish to resolve whatever conflict you two have about the issue.

Answer 3

Some of that stuff is practical and responsible on your part [temporary first, you have to pay] but all the rest of your list is overly controlling, IMHO. My kids are grownups now, and when they were in junior and senior high had some pretty wild-*** hair...way we figured it, they weren't using dope, getting pregnant/making someone else pregnant, stealing cars or getting drunk driving tickets. Hair? Gee whiz, why sweat the small stuff! Not worth a big family hassle... you'll know soon enuf if you love your new 'do, and then what was all the ragging about. Everyone is a freak to the older generation...I certainly was to my mom [I was a beatnik with weird friends, weird hair, etc.] and so on and so forth. Good luck...your dad's problem? Taking the Dad Profession far too seriously.

Answer 4

Well, my first question would be how old are you?

And, even though you should be able to do what you want with your own clothes, hair, peircings, tatoos, etc... there is a stigma attached - unfortunately. And I'm assuming your folks are concerned about how that will reflect on your family as well as what a potential employer, teachers, etc... will think.

Every generation finds something offensive with the next generation. Remember, there was a time when parents thought Elvis was offensive.

Good luck, and it sounds like your mom is meeting you half way. Go with that for now.

Answer 5

They are afraid of what you will do next if they say yes to the hair color, thats why.

Are your grades ok? I know a parent who traded that part off. His kid wanted to wear funky colors many years ago when it was a horrific idea. These days, all the kids color the trend has made millions for hair color manufacturers. But I digress.

Ok the trade off was "you get to color your hair, but you must remain in the principal's list, top of your class, get all "A's" on your report card.

First report card with all "A's" came, kaboom, dad drives her to the salon to color chunks of dark blue, honey blond, red , and green.

His logic in the argument- if you are in the bottom already, there is no need to prove anything.

Have good grades. Then ask again. or make that same contract with your parents.

Answer 6

Um...I'm not a parent but I think maybe you could go temporary for a while and prove to your dad. That you won't look crazy with it. Just explain how you would like him to trust you and if it doesn't work out with the temporary you could wash it out and try another color. I think your dad is just the normal overprotective dad.

Answer 7

I died my hair that color about a year and a half ago and I regret it. It's taken me this long to fix my hair back to my natural color. The first two weeks my hair was an obnoxious bright red color, but then it faded to the color that I wanted... but red fades super fast and I was soon left with dull brassy hair. When I tried to dye it back to brown, the red took over and I ended up with this brownish-red hair which was okay, but eventually faded to a horrible orangey color. I finally went to my stylist and had her fix it. She dyed it a dark brown, but it still had a red tint to it. I finally just cut my hair off and I'm starting over from there.

The moral of that story, is think it through reallly hard before you dye your hair. Because it's hard to correct it after you do.

Answer 8

You wanna be cool & fit in with other at school. I assume u are a child living in your parents house. sence u have to have your parents ok to do that. if your parents dont let u then hate them all u want. parent hope u turn out ok. dont hate your dad inless u think he treats u differnt because u are adoppted, or gay or lesbian. drugs or gangs. That collor hair will look good on u. Punk gothic is cool. if u wanna be like every one else u gotta stay in style. take your skate board out & have fun, cheerio

Answer 9

His only problem is that his LITTLE GIRL is growing up, something he never thought would happen. He's beining to realize your not always going to need him and with his male ego thats like DEATH. Think back to the movie "Father of the Bride".

As to your hair, give him the option that once its dyed, if he doesn't like it, you'll dye it back. Chances are he'll like it or just get used to it.

Answer 10

You're his daughter, he loves you the way you are, and he doesn't want you to grow up too fast You don't say how old you are, but if your mom says OK, then go ahead with it. Your dad will hopefully get used to it, and if not, at least you'll know why he's upset. Try to be nice to him, he's only doing it because he loves you.