i am a bit embarrased, i work full time is it ok ti admit i cant manage to keep my house clean and pay my sist

Question

my sister lives down the road from me, i have just had a pay rise from work i wondered if my friends and family might think it is just actual laziness if i asked (and paid) my sister to help our with the general day to day upkeep of my home

i went to a friend of mines house the other day and it was just lovely to go into her home and be able to sit down and feel uncluttered in her home,

it quite upset me and i am really embarrased but i have to admit i am not able to do it by myself

would you automatically call that lazy or not

what do you think if i used my pay rise to treat my self to having someone else to help me run the day home keeping

oooh i am so embarrased

would you be

is it best to admit defeat after all this time

i am just so upset with all the muddles

i am not dirty i am just very untidy i would be nice to have it clear when i get in at the end of the working day

would you do this

what do you think


xxx vici

Answer 1

Money for sis, one less problem for you, getting in from a hard days work to a tidy house will make u feel good, everyones a winner, we used to have a cleaner and it was a great help, now i'm at home i'm Mr Vac x

Answer 2

You are only one person. I'm sure you are amazing and do quite a bit for everyone around you. Remember, even a perfect woman cannot expect to be Superwoman!

You are not lazy. A lazy person would not be putting the energy into finding a solution to the problem of an uncomfortable home.

I'm struggling with the same thing. I have days where I want to give everything away just so I don't have to deal with clutter. The clutter makes the environment seem stuffy and yeah, it's uncomfortable.

I'm seriously toying with the idea of a maid too but, to be honest, I'd be embarrassed for her (or him if I'm lucky) to see my messy home.

I have a friend who is into Feng Shui and believes that clutter robs you of prosperity. I personally find that I cannot think clearly in a cluttered environment and that I make more money when working in a clean office. For this reason, I can easily justify hiring a cleaning crew for my office. At home, I feel guilty for wanting someone else to do it because I was taught that it was my job as a woman to clean the house. Maybe I need to change my outlook a bit.

Many women spend so much time doing things for other people, that they actually feel guilty doing something for themselves. A good test is to ask yourself if you would want this for the women that you care about. Would you want your mother, your sister, or your daughter to have this? Most certainly, you deserve all those wonderful things that you would wish for the women that you love.

Take care. I wish you the best of everything!

Answer 3

Having someone come in and clean my house weekly is the best decision I ever made! If you are embarrassed about asking someone close to you, call around and find a cleaning service. A lot of work-from-home mothers have private services and don't charge as much as a big company would. They always do an excellent job and if you look around you can find someone who will also do your dishes, laundry, etc. After working all day and having only the weekends to relax, it makes life so much easier to not have to worry about house work. I doubt that anyone will think you are lazy, if anything, they may be a little jealous!

Answer 4

You are not alone, so many working women have this problem. I used to be one of them. I worked from 5 in the evening until 3 in the morning 5-6 days a week. I was always so exhausted that it was impossible to keep the house clean. I also have 3 small children who were unable to help out. Simplicity is the key, if you don't need it get rid of it. This cuts down on clutter and frees up storage. Try to have a set place for everything. Clean up messes as you make them. And it also helps to have a cleaning list of what you will clean on different days. Good luck, and hang in there, it took me a few years to get a handle on keeping and organizing my home.

Answer 5

No, I don't think it's "lazy" to have someone help you with your day to day cleaning.. I'm a mother of 2 and I work in the evenings and it just seems no matter what I do I'm behind on the cleaning/laundry.. Though, my husband helps sometimes he just misses the "mark". I don't want to spend my whole weekend cleaning I'd rather be doing something more fun than cleaning or being at work.. So, I can understand your position. It's good that your sister is able to help and make a bit of money on the side.. I wish I were so lucky... good luck

Answer 6

You are NOT lazy! You just don't have routines in place for cleaning your house. I think it would be just fine for you to pay your sis to clean your house for you. However, if you want to try to get everything under control yourself, I *highly* recommend the Flylady method. I went from a home where I was embarrassed to have people over even after cleaning for hours to a home that may still be slightly cluttered in certain areas, but isn't filthy. :o) And that's with a dog, 2 kids and a 3rd on the way!

Some people just automatically know how to clean and how to do it efficiently & systematically. I'm NOT one of them, lol, so I can sympathize. :o) Don't be embarrassed - you realize this is a problem for you & you're trying to find a solution. No embarrassment in that at all.

Answer 7

Housework is the last thing anyone really wants to do, a neat freak or not. You need to work on one room at a time, in one section at a time, organise and clean it. I think having someone else come in (family or not) will make you even less likely to clean up after yourself because you'll go into the "why bother if she's doing it" mode. Clean homes are relaxing and peaceful, you know that already.

I used to work full-time and had a young baby to look after too and managed to keep my house straight and clean and cook dinner. You can do this, you just need to want to.

As an incentive, watch and episode of How Clean is Your House? That show makes ANYONE get up and clean after watching it.

Answer 8

If you don't have the time and can afford it go for it I used to do it also and it is nice to come home to a clean house after working all day and not have to worry about if I want to have friends over what my house looks like yes do it alot more people do this than you think.

Answer 9

Honey, if you are too embarrassed to pay your sister, look in the local newspaper, they have tons of ads for cleaning ladies, and all those. BUt if you want ur sister to clean for you, go right ahead. Don't be embarassed, she is your sister, and she will understand, you have a job to do. That is just like in my house, I am working full-time i have no time for cleaning, and it upsets me too. Whenever my daughter's friends come over, i feel embarrassed. So don't worry about it, you are not the only one.

Answer 10

NO, you're not lazy. Plenty of people pay others to do their cleaning and perform other errands for them.

Look at it this way: if you get paid $25/hour when you're at work and you're spending 4 hours a week cleaning your house would it be worth it to you to pay somebody $50/week for cleaning?

Oh, Heck yes!