Happily married, Im a veteran thinking it would be easy to bring up a boy, now I have to bring up a little girl, and some how not be so strict. I just wanted to play ball, and bond with my boy, Is it possible to do that with a girl, but no so much that she becomes more tom boy than girl like..?
2007-08-17 05:41:59 · 14 answers · asked by podestaam 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Girls need the affection of their fathers just as much as boys do.
Every child (boys and girl) is different, and will have different interests. Many girls love to play softball and many boys hate it, so the sex of your child isn't really important in that regard, especially in their pre-adolescent years.
It is fine for you to play ball with your child if she enjoys the time you spend together, but make sure you also spend time doing things she likes to do. If that means you have to play barbies with her, then do it. What you do isn't nearly as important as the fact that you do spend quality time together.
Girls (generally) get more emotional, so there may be different kinds of challenges ahead, but as you spend time with her and get to know her, you'll know how to handle her and meet her needs. You'll do great!
~Kyanna
2007-08-17 05:51:48 · answer #1 · answered by Kyanna S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have two girls and a boy, all of them are almost adults now.
But I can tell you that it's not too different. I don't see why you shouldn't be strict with her the same way you'd be with a boy. And for strict I mean, they're rules and your kids have to learn those rules. Senseless punishment is useless, they have to understand what they've done and why is wrong. Punishment has to be more like restitution or compensation for whatever they've done.
About the sex, prepare to play with dolls. Ball games and sport are fine too but you'll find out that girls want to do some other stuff and sharing that with them is good (and feels great). Any time spent with your kids is good. I always say that if you can't take your kid for a walk and talk with him, something is wrong. It doesn't have to be serious talk, in fact I think that the meaningless talk is a symptom that the channels for more serious talk are open. If there's a serious issue in his mind or your mind, it's going to show up eventually. But if you don't keep those contacts, it's a lot harder to raise a serious issue.
2007-08-17 12:59:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust me my husband felt the same way!!!! He's a veteran from a military family and worse yet he was an officer when he got hit. Lucky for us before our son was born he spent alot of time with my best friend's girls. Her third daughter was born 3 months after our son and he learned very quickly that especially through the toddler years it made no difference what gender they are.
They both need love and reassurance and plenty of rules to keep their exploring within safe limits. The only difference is how you change a diaper.
LOL my son was more of a neat freak then her daughter thats for sure. He wouldn't even finger paint or get dirt on his hands while she was out there in the mud.
Don't get too hung up on the gender thing. This baby will love you no matter what as long as you remember....Be a father not a military man!
2007-08-17 13:29:35 · answer #3 · answered by starfire978 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can play sports with a girl - and I hope you would! These days people are so concerned about their daughter getting dirty or hurt. There's nothng more annoying then a girl complaing she got dirt on her. I played ball with my Dad. That was our favorite thing to do was to go out and throw a softball around. He's the one that taught me everything, and bought me my first glove. I played for 9 years. I also played soccer and volleyball. I must tell you with all the sports playing - I am still very girly, but I'm not afraid to get dirty either. You just have to do a balance. There is nothing more special then the relationship that a Father has with his daughter - that is one of the most important relationships she will have in her life. You will be who she molds who she looks for in a man when she gets older.
Good luck!
2007-08-17 13:00:42 · answer #4 · answered by Meggin M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, she is either going to be a tom-boy or not and playing ball with her will not force that. You do all the same things you do for a boy with a girl. You love, support them, and teach them everything you know. You can encourage a girl in sports, or whatever interest's her. Just be there and show her what a man is supposed to be like, so that when she grows up she knows what to look for. Teach her to respect herself and others, and to be strong and to know right from wrong.
2007-08-17 12:49:00 · answer #5 · answered by Tresa R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok i have two short stories that may help. First my dad thought i was a boy but i wasnt and he could not have been happier we played baseball and took me fishing i loved it. Second I have two girls and I was a little sad for my husband the second time but just the other day he told me he doesnt want to try to have a boy he is happy with his girls. One of God's greatest gifts are unanwsered prayers. Don't worry the moment you see her you will know that you wouldnt have it anyother way.
2007-08-18 11:46:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your little girl be the leader but introduce her to things you enjoy. Remember even if she doesn't like the things you do to pay attention and play what she wants. How you treat her when shes growing up is what shes going to expect from men when she is older! Chances are if you make playing ball fun for her she'll love playing it with you!
2007-08-17 12:50:54 · answer #7 · answered by lovelylady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband felt the same as you. We have 2 boys and when we got pregnant with a girl he was nervous. She's one now and he realizes she's spoiled but can't control it. He's not as strict and she can melt him into a puddle of goo whenever she wants. All she has to do is look at hima nd smile or raise her arms to be held and he's a goner. Just wait. You'll be just fine. It will come just as natural as raising boys.
2007-08-17 12:49:10 · answer #8 · answered by Kristin B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing really different, I mean my son plays with dolls, so your daughter may very well play ball. Even if not you will still find it easier to adapt then you think. The only advice I have that would be different froma boy would be wpie front to back ;)
2007-08-17 12:49:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My girls both played ball with their Dad. They also played basketball and shopped with him too. There are a million ways to bond. Fathers and daughters have special relationships.
2007-08-17 12:47:36 · answer #10 · answered by KathyS 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋