Why do women fight for equality, but I guarantee a guy will never get a second date if he asks to split check?

Question

Before you start with accusations, I always pay and always get second date...

Answer 1

Most women only want equality when it suits them.

Answer 2

Here's the basic manners when it comes to paying for dates. It has nothing to do with money or gender. Whoever asks for the date is expected to cover the expenses in full, or split if agreed upon before hand. Don't ask to split during the date. It shows lack of planning and is in poor taste. That doesn't mean the other shouldn't feel free to offer to split. I have been asked out and taken on dates by women on many occasions. If they haven't done this on the first date, they almost always do by the second or third. Don't do the dinner and movie thing. I'll never understand why people choose a date where they can't talk for half of it, then go to the place where men can worry about cost and women can worry about how much they eat. A good date is almost always reciprocated. For example a day at an art museum when they are playing jazz will usually lead to a second where I'm cooked a nice meal and we cozy up for a video. Never hurts to cook for them as well fellas. I have yet to find a restaraunt as close to the bedroom as my kitchen (avoid pasta and cook meat if she's not vegetarian). Show thought and planning in your dating and everything will go as it should. Same goes for giving a gift. I rarely give flowers, but I have given a stone turtle, a moss garden, a newspaper clipping, or some other thing that shows I pay attention to her interests. Flattering with money and little thought will get you something I don't really care for.

Answer 3

I always assumed that I'd pay half on all my dates, and if I knew the guy made less than me, I'd try to pay for all or more of our costs. But a lot of guys want to pay, at least the first date. I tried to be gracious, and offered to pay for dessert, or coffee, or the next date. If a guy went crazy, and demanded that he had to pay for everything, every date, forget it. I was looking for a partner, not a provider.

Answer 4

? You're describing lame women. There are lame women, just as there are lame men.

If you say politely, "So, we'll split this?" when the check comes, it shouldn't be a problem. I usually put it out there from the time we first sit down--the check will be split.

Then if there are more dates, we take turns picking up the check--gives us both a chance to be generous and treat each other. When I dated one guy who earned less than me, I insisted on picking up the check more often--that's where the tradition comes from, the person with more income paying. I don't see anything wrong with it as long as neither side feels weird about it or uses it for power over their partner.

If she likes you, she will go on a second date.

Answer 5

I am all for equality, I believe I can do everything a man is capable of and more BUT I also like the idea of a man who wants to take care of me. Going on a first date is your FIRST impression of someone, if the immediately offers to pay on the first date it is a good indication of his ability to take care of me. Not that I need taking care of, but it is a good feeling. It's the same feeling I get when the person I love kisses me on the forehead when I feel sick, listens to me when I'm upset about something and holds me while I fall asleep. I guess a feeling of security and comfort.... BTW, I usually pay for the second date! Goes back to that equality thing.

Answer 6

I’m sorry, Ronnie – you should have asked me for a date! When I was on the dating scene, I’d always offer to go Dutch. 90+% of the time the guy would say, “No! Don’t worry about it!”, and so I’d offer to make him dinner for one of the next dates. They’d usually go for that.

It’s especially nice if I was in college, and I realized the guys didn’t have much money either to date with.

Answer 7

I have more money than the men I date. I almost always pay for everything. That just seems fair. I may have more of that . . .money . . . than they do. But, it's not like I'm going to be able to take it with me someday. I don't really care about it and I sure don't associate with people who care about money, either. But, my beloveds have something I don't have . . . kissable mustaches! That's not something I can do for myself. And, I like them, mustaches, that is. In my group of friends, mostly Buddhists, money's kinda a community possession. I don't handle it personally. They do that for me. Yukky stuff, money.

Answer 8

I wouldn't let my friend pay £1.80 for my drink once, so I'd actually be quite happy to split the cost of any activities or pay for myself.

Answer 9

Then that should be said up front. If you're going ask me out, I would hope you'd tell me while you were asking that we'd be splitting the check.

Answer 10

It has more to do with the working world.

We expect to be treated well because when a baby comes out it shows if we will be treated well while healing.

I usually offer to pay to dessert or the popcorn or something else that would make it half. The ones I keep don't let me on the first couple dates.

Answer 11

i would so go on a second date if u wanted to split the check, actually i normally ask anyway, becuase sometimes it is expensive!