i dont know what he's doing wherever he is but we all know a man can never be trusted
a handsome guy has asked me out for a drink this friday night, would it be wrong if i went out with him??
its just a drink nothing else
NB my hubby NEVER EVER takes me out anywhere n neither im i allowed to go out on my own or with my girlfriends
if i go i'll have to switch off my phone because when he is away he calls me every friday night to make sure i'm in the house
what will i tell him when i switch on the phone
i'm 22
2007-08-17 02:22:15 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
If its nothing but drinks, I say go for it!
2007-08-17 02:25:59 · answer #1 · answered by nuniestar 4 · 0⤊ 7⤋
I don't know if I can tell you the truth here without being reported as abusive, but I'm going to try anyway.
1) If "we all know a man can never be trusted", why would you trust this guy who has asked you out?
Think "roofies", dear. Or maybe all it takes is a second or third drink.
2) If the problem is that he never, ever lets you go out with your girlfriends, wouldn't this time be better spent going out with your girlfriends and keeping those relationships up, since this one sounds doomed?
3) Isn't it a tad hypocritical to say "a man can never be trusted" when you are planning on going out on a date with someone who isn't your husband?
You will do as you want, of course, but when you turn the phone back on and get the call, I would recommend telling him the truth.
2007-08-17 02:34:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is wrong. Sorry to say that. But you asked. I am assuming that you want some Truth and honesty on here.
Girl, let me tell you, I know how you feel. I have been in the same situation as you before and it didn't turn out well for any of the people involved. You are married. Going out with any guy for drinks is a no-no. You have to ask yourself how you would feel if the tables were turned. I am sorry that your husband won't do things with you, but I am more inclined to say that instead of thinking about going out with a handsome guy for drinks, start thinking of ways to help your marriage. That is, if you still want it to work out. It isn't much of one right now if there isn't a lot of communication and honesty between you two. It sounds like you are both having problems with trust. Is there a reason for that?
You made a huge commitment and it will be tough to get through it, but, for your sake and his, try to figure something out.
2007-08-17 02:31:54 · answer #3 · answered by Slipped Halo 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you are awfully young to be married no matter what country or culture you or your husband originate from. I think you need to consider telling your husband that you are not happy with the way things are. If he goes crazy then you might need to leave. Staying in the situation the way it is will cause you to hold resentment and anger.
if you feel he is not being a decent to you when he is away (i.e. you have a sick feeling in your stomach that he is cheating) then you should trust your gut instincts. Asks once...if he won't respond or gets shifty...make a getaway plan and get the h-ll out of there. Life is too short to be miserable, uncomfortable and full of fear.
as for the drink...despite the circumstances...would you want your husband to have "just a drink" with someone? Respectful men don't ask married women out for drinks.
2007-08-17 02:30:24 · answer #4 · answered by Sunchilly19 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you a wive or a prisoner? Frankly, you should not be held captive. Both a man and woman in a marriage should have the freedom to get together with friends and have their own interests. I would guess your husband is jealous and insecure and you are hot, so he wants to make sure you are stay home with or without him. I feel bad for you.
As far as going out with a guy for drinks, you shouldn't be going out with another man period. HIS intentions are probably to get you into bed. Going out is the first step. Adding drinks lets down your guard. Things happen. I know many men that don't care if you are married. They see an opportunity and pursue it. Don't go on the date. If you are not happy with your husband, get a divorce b4 your have kids. Please.
2007-08-17 02:32:39 · answer #5 · answered by Staveros 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wouldn't be asking this question if you didn't know it was wrong. You're just hoping for someone to tell you it's OK to go out with another guy.
The best question to ask yourself is this: "If your husband was doing exactly what you're considering doing, how would you feel about it?" If the answer is "terrible" then you shouldn't.
If you don't feel that your marriage is working, you ought to consider working on it through counseling or therapy of some kind, or consider breaking it off. You shouldn't get involved with some other man first, though, because that can only lead to problems.
2007-08-17 02:28:54 · answer #6 · answered by suavebola 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First to answer your question, Yes, it is wrong to go out for drinks with another man while your husband is away, unless it's with your dad, brother, cousin. You say "its just a drink, nothing else" yet you made mention of the fact the man is handsome...handsome man+alchohol+hubby out of town=TROUBLE. But you go on to say how your husband never takes you anywhere, doesn't "allow" you to go out with your girlfriends and calls you to make sure you're home on Friday night. I wouldn't be married to a man like that. He obviously has severe trust issues, low self-esteem or is, himself, cheating on you by giving you such orders. You need to re-evaluate your marriage and if you really want to spend the rest of your life with such a man. I've been married 13+ years, and my husband never has an issue with me going out to eat or going to have drinks with my girlfriends occassionally, but he trusts me and is confident in himself and our relationship. You're only 22...think seriously about what your future holds if you tolerate him telling you what to do and stay with him. Good luck.
2007-08-17 02:35:08 · answer #7 · answered by Doogie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well a relatioship is built on trust, If you want to know what he does ask him.
Well Make sure you both understand why you guys are having a drink. Make sure he knows you are in a relationship before going out.
Hmm, I would tell him " I am a grown women and I can go out with my friends when I want. If you are wooried about me call me on my cell phone."
2007-08-17 02:33:42 · answer #8 · answered by victor_cain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wrong.
If u are doing things behind him and are scared that if he knows things will go bad, what u are doing is so wrong. U got some issues with ur hubby, u gotto talk to him. If u dont like him, then talk to him abt that too.. U may go see another man only when u dont want ur hubby anymore. End things here with ur hubby and move on with ur life with this handsome guy, or another cute guy whoever.. To be playing behind his back this way, is terrible.
So wrong.
2007-08-17 02:28:13 · answer #9 · answered by Manu 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you guys are to young to be married. Not being mean or anything, just that marriage should be built on trust. Not all men cheat, and believe me when I tell you this, going out for a drink can lead to something else.
2007-08-17 02:29:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
ok no dont go you are married and thats cheating on him and if you go and he calls he will enver trust you again, and second you are 22 years old do not let your husban tell you taht you cant go out with your own friends grow up and let him know you want to have a girls night out and that he can get over it becuz you have never done anything to lose his trust befor. but if you go have "a drink" with this guy he WILL find out and he WILL never let you out of your oen house. i know man he just dousnt want a drink with you he wants to get your drunk and well you know the rest. dont be dumb be smart and win something in return geting to gon out with your girl friedns is better then lossing a husband.
2007-08-17 02:31:14 · answer #11 · answered by Lady_Marie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋